My Mother.. -_- Options

[oXMuhNirvanaXo]

I am not really close with my mother. I don't really know why. I am never really intrested in what she is saying to me when she opens her mouth. I really don't like her that much. I think I am just scared that I will turn out like her when I get older and I would hate for that to happen.

Ok, anyway.. How can I reach out to her with out her pissing me off?

[multifaceted]

How old are you? I'm asking this because usually when you are in your teens, you tend to not like your parents a lot. Once you've been pass that phase, the relationship between mother and daughter usually gets closer.

Sometimes you just have to control yourself and not piss off at her. Maybe because every time she says something, you get pissed and she gets scared, making her not want to have a good relationship with you.

Most likely, in the end, when you grow up, you will be very similar to your mother. It's some theory of something, I don't remember.

[chaoticchrissy]

you won't ever be like your mother, unless you allow yourself to be. you and her are two diffrent whole individuals.

[oXMuhNirvanaXo]

I am 16.

That is true that we are 2 diffrent people. My father says I act like her and that scares me because I don't like the way that she acts.

[Jeng]

Maybe spend time with her Shelby and listen to her, and don't explode all over her.

[*My Cinderella.*]

Maybe you should try some mother and daughter bonding by going somewhere outdoors to eat or something. Since you're not at home, this will eliminate the urge to walk away or ignore her. (Hopefully) Watch a movie together, go iceskate, or just go shopping.

[*Monochrome.*]

Maybe open up to your mother and tell her how you feel that way you canboth work on these issues before it becomes too late.

Afterall she is your mother and she should be at least kind enough to listen to you becasue you are her daughter

[angelrevelation]

It's kind of the same thing with me and my mom...

Try small things. If she's watching tv alone, go watch with her. Or help her cook or something. Parent/child relationships often build on little things.

[Aerjae]

I have the same problem. For some reason, I don't like it when she talks. Even though I'm not in a bad mood or whatever.

[Kontroll]

I am not really close with my mother. I don't really know why. I am never really intrested in what she is saying to me when she opens her mouth. I really don't like her that much. I think I am just scared that I will turn out like her when I get older and I would hate for that to happen.

Ok, anyway.. How can I reach out to her with out her pissing me off?

Well, she's not the one pissing you off. You're getting pissed off for your own stupid reasons. I love my mom, but sometimes she gets on my nerves. You know what I found out?

Firstly, she's just trying to spend time with me...

Secondly, I have a really short temper and I get annoyed very easily.

It's not her fault. She's just a variable in the problem. You're the answer. You're the source. Not her. Find out what it is and change it.

[Blaqheartedstar]

I am 16.

That is true that we are 2 diffrent people. My father says I act like her and that scares me because I don't like the way that she acts.

i was like that and although nothing has changed with me and my liking to my mother the love i have for her grows... even though she annoys me and can be outright corny ... but i guess thats how most mothers are...
just listen to your mother... it makes her happy that you at least care... or better yet try to start a conversation with her, talk about your day.. she won't be with you forever you know.. so you don't have all the time in the world and delying in fixing this problem will only give you less time.
but maybe what Chérie. said is right and it could just be a phase... and things might turn out better later...

as for turning like her its bound to happen... you lived with her all your life?
her habits and the way she acts will rub off on you, for your her daughter, but im not saying you will turn out exactly like her, your you and you have the power to change your self.

i guess talking to her and trying to understand your mother will hopefully work out for you...
or you can voice out your problems to her... < although that can be VERY hard at times...

[krnxswat]

you won't ever be like your mother, unless you allow yourself to be. you and her are two diffrent whole individuals.

No, this is where you are incorrect.
As much as we promise ourselves we will never end up like our parents, we do (in most cases).

[*Uronacid*]

Well, alright...

Problem is, mothers are generally the main female figure in your life. So, in your mind your mother becomes what you subconsciously believe all adult "normal" females should be like. Ever heard of the term "role model"? Well, your mother is your female role model. If you don't want to be like her, the best thing you can do is distance yourself or not spend time with her.

[turntabletux]

I am not really close with my mother. I don't really know why. I am never really intrested in what she is saying to me when she opens her mouth. I really don't like her that much. I think I am just scared that I will turn out like her when I get older and I would hate for that to happen.

Ok, anyway.. How can I reach out to her with out her pissing me off?

I am in the same boat lately. When my mother opens her mouth I wish that hell would freeze over just so I could say "look mom, hell froze over, got to go." I don't take her seriously at all. I don't like this, because I used to be a huge mommas boy! I always will be, it's just lately we've been bumping heads way too much and it's been bothering me!

[megggnasty]

Well, alright...

Problem is, mothers are generally the main female figure in your life. So, in your mind your mother becomes what you subconsciously believe all adult "normal" females should be like. Ever heard of the term "role model"? Well, your mother is your female role model. If you don't want to be like her, the best thing you can do is distance yourself or not spend time with her.

^ i have to agree with josh.
i don't have a great relationship with my mom either, despite popular belief.
don't force a relationship.
she's your mom, you weren't meant to be bffs.
just be polite, that's all you can do.
the only way you'll ever be like her is if you allow yourself to... make it a goal not to end up like her.