My very date & nervous Options

[pkbabe]

Well this is pretty weird for me to ask but...what should I do to prepare for a date?

Some info that would help

• I'm 19 hes 27
• Were going to the movies & then get take out or something

As you can tell hes an older guy & I want to make a good impression. A bit help on how to look more mature/my age(I'm often mistaken for a 16 yr old. Can you say "jailbait" LOL) but mainly the etiquette of going on a date. Its next saturday so I have some time.

[voguelove]

he's like..10 years older than you..

[femmefatale4160]

Okay, far be it from me to criticize the age difference between you; You're an adult and you can make your own decisions, so I'll give you some solid advice.

-Ask him what kind of things he likes: Movies, music, hobbies, etc. Guys love it when a girl shares their interests.

-Don't talk too much.
I'm not saying that you should clam up and sit there in silence, but you should make sure that you're being a good listener. Pay attention to what he says.

-Be open.
If you seem guarded, that will turn him off. Act like you really want to be there with him.

-Smile!
I can't stress this enough. Again, make it seem like you WANT to be there. Besides, almost everyone looks better when they smile.

-Don't stress.
Don't worry. Relax, and at the date, make sure that your conversation flows naturally. Don't plan out what you're going to say, or you'll sound rehearsed.
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As for the mature look, there are a few things you can do to appear more your age.

Makeup: Try either a smoky eye or a "stained" lip. NOT both at the same time. Smoky eyes scream sexy, while stained lips are sophisticated.

-To "stain" your lips, run your finger over a semi-dark shade of lipstick (a shade of red is ideal) and blot it onto your lips. Then smack your lips together and you're done.

You should wear nice heels, unless you're outrageously tall or have trouble walking in them. Heels and a blazer or button down shirt make for a very sophisticated look. If that's too dressed up for the occasion, try a casual blouse, jeans, and a cute pair of boots.

[Comptine]

^agree with above. except when you're open don't be too open. it is your first date. but do let him know about yourself: your family, your work/school, friends. but don't be too overbearing. then again, it changes from guy to guy. a guy might think it's sweet to hear about your family while another guy thinks it would ruin the mood to bring your parents up during a date.

if he doesn't have a place picked out, you should suggest a place. most guys love a girl who takes some initiative. either pick a movie (not a girly/chick fic please) or suggest a great cheap, fun place to eat.

to look more mature, definitely try a little more makeup. wear a pair of heels. try some dressy, like a blouse/top with slim fitting jeans and throw a sorta casual blazer over it.

good luck

[pkbabe]

-Don't talk too much.

LOL...that I'll try to calm down a lil...even he notices that sometimes but understands I only do it cuz we tend to have alot of awkward silences

You should wear nice heels, unless you're outrageously tall or have trouble walking in them

Well I'm 5'7 & hes about 6 ft so with the heels I own I would be about 5'9-5'10. Would that be weird or it that ok?

if he doesn't have a place picked out, you should suggest a place. most guys love a girl who takes some initiative. either pick a movie (not a girly/chick fic please) or suggest a great cheap, fun place to eat

LOL...thats funny you say that because I actually took the initiative of setting up this date. Last time he planned out a date to celebrate his birthday he bailed that last minute because his fam made him a lil birthday dinner with just them. Hes coming to my town & I'm picking out the places to eat & which movie theatre to go to (there are alot to choose from) since hes not familar with these parts. But of course we will vote on which movie to watch. Maybe Zodiac? I was watching a documentary about it today on the history channel & I thought it would be interesting

[mocassinsx29]

this sounds corny but "BE YOURSELF"
if this relationship lasts, you're gonna eventually have to drop the "mature act"

[*chaneun*]

have sex with him.


oh, and stay calm :D

[pkbabe]

BE YOURSELF

I am...we have known each other & been talking for over a month. This date is just to make things official

have sex with him.


oh, and stay calm :D

I already have but I just don't want awkward silences. Awkward silence annoys me soo much

[Kontroll]

Listen, you're older than 17, so it doesn't matter how much older he is than you.

Don't try to be more mature than you are. Don't be more immature. Just be yourself.

What exactly do you want? Seriously. Just go with the flow. You really don't expect him sitting at home being like, 'Oh, man. What do I do? Where do I take her?' No, he's probably just chillin' and just picks a place that he wants. Or whatever the situation is. Just chill out.

Chillax, dude. Relationships are just common sense. That's all they are. Common sense and common courtesy. Surprise!

[femmefatale4160]

Well I'm 5'7 & hes about 6 ft so with the heels I own I would be about 5'9-5'10. Would that be weird or it that ok?

That's fine. As long as you're not taller than he is, you'll be alright.

LOL...that I'll try to calm down a lil...even he notices that sometimes but understands I only do it cuz we tend to have alot of awkward silences

Well, if there are a lot of awkward silences, you're going to have to speak up. You guys should be compatible enough to have a lengthy conversation. Just don't go on and on about the subject.

[*Uronacid*]

Look, don't try to act mature, don't act immature, just be yourself, and be as mature as you usually are. If he doesn't like you for who you are, then there is no point in dragging out this relationship anyways.

I agree with mocassinsx29 and JakeKKing.

[multifaceted]

Nothing to be nervous about.

He should like you for yourself, not some mature form of yourself.

[pkbabe]

Updates: It seems that hes more excited about the date than I am. Hes even gonna rush from work to go to see me...how funny is that? Of course I told him not to rush & take his time but he insisted on coming on time(couldn't stop him...I tried LOL) Funny how at 1st he was being all jerky(later found out it wasn't really the case) & now he actually seems intersted in me. So I'm not nervous anymore since I don't have to worry about him being not interested in me

[angelrevelation]

As long as you're as mature as him mentally I think it should go fine. He's probably more experienced socially, so just be open to anything, as long as it doesn't make you uncomfortable.

Just be careful he isn't trying to use you or anything.

[AngryBaby]

I already have but I just don't want awkward silences. Awkward silence annoys me soo much

wow, you already f**ked the 30 yr old and you STILL have to worry about awkward silences?
what a relationship.

anyway, what kind of self respecting 30 yr old would date a 19 year old? but thats besides the point.

[*My Cinderella.*]

Well, to make sure there aren't any awkward silences, you can always practice what you're going to say in advance. I mean it sounds silly, but it could go a long way when it comes to starting conversation.

[shaixe]

wow, you already f**ked the 30 yr old and you STILL have to worry about awkward silences?
what a relationship.

anyway, what kind of self respecting 30 yr old would date a 19 year old? but thats besides the point.

That is so wrong.

Camcha, don't listen to what anyone tells you about age. I'm twenty years old, dating a man that's forty-two and we get along great. I love him for so many reasons, but the one that I appreciate most is his maturity. There are always those creepy old men out there that you have to be wary of, but I would think you're capable of judging this guy for yourself.

As for the date, don't worry about it! If things are meant to work out, they will. Just take a deep breath and recognize the fact that he'll probably be as nervous as you are, going by your update post.

I really wish you the best!

[pkbabe]

(BEWARE: this post is VERY long. Read at your own risk)

Updates(again):

• Well we had the date yesterday(although I planned it for next sat but whatever).
• Wasn't as dressed up as I wanted but he liked it. He kept commenting on my "sexy shoulder shirt" cuz the shoulders would slide down (I had a tank top under) LOL
• Got Taco Bell & he paid (cuz usually when I was with my ex I'd pay for everything so this was pretty new for me...in a good way of course)
• Watched Ghost Rider & it was alright. We both enjoyed ourselves & didn't have to worry about awkward silences cuz well...no talking in the movies

Overall it was pretty good. He paid for everything! Didn't go broke for once. Only thing I have to complain about is him smoking from time to time (EeWw)

wow, you already f**ked the 30 yr old and you STILL have to worry about awkward silences?
what a relationship.

anyway, what kind of self respecting 30 yr old would date a 19 year old? but thats besides the point.

You're mean....& hes 27,not 30!

You're often mistaken for a 16 year old? Are you sure he isn't one of those weird dudes that hangs out at the pre-schools?

Yes...a 16 yr old. People think my 17 yr old bro is my older bro alot of the time(which I REALLY hate). & no, he usually goes for 21+ but he told me that he made an acception with me cuz he thinks I'm "really cute" but I don't know...I think I'm ok I guess

Well, to make sure there aren't any awkward silences, you can always practice what you're going to say in advance. I mean it sounds silly, but it could go a long way when it comes to starting conversation.

I did actually & it helped out alot! Talked about his work(which I find kinda boring but he enjoys it) & his fam situation & vice versa(my stories are never boring )

That is so wrong.

Camcha, don't listen to what anyone tells you about age. I'm twenty years old, dating a man that's forty-two and we get along great. I love him for so many reasons, but the one that I appreciate most is his maturity. There are always those creepy old men out there that you have to be wary of, but I would think you're capable of judging this guy for yourself.

As for the date, don't worry about it! If things are meant to work out, they will. Just take a deep breath and recognize the fact that he'll probably be as nervous as you are, going by your update post.

I really wish you the best!

Thank you so much for your words. Most people judge me for it thinking I'm crazy for being involved with him. & I wish the best for you as well