forgive me.? Options

[*Monochrome.*]

Well as some of you all know the story about my abusive boyfriend i had. If you dont what basicly happend was he cheat on me all the damn time.he used to hit me and he was drug adict. i stayed with him becasue i didnt want my band to be affected by our break up[i was a dumbass]. then when i find out he cheated on me and that i wasnt good enough for him and spit on me[flem and everything]. i went balistic and chased his ass down beat the f**k out of him and ended up breaking both of his arms

so the other day. 1 day before it would have been our 3 year aniversary he messaged me on myspace.

telling me he was sorry for being a "shittyboyfriend" and that he truely does miss me and that he was extreamly sorry and that if i ever wanted to be his friend again that it was all up to me,.

so now i dont know what to say.
he caused me alot of pain in my life but i moved n from that. so i suppose its time for me to fogive and try again right?

i know thats stupid to ask in a online forum for advice but i am.=]

so what advice do you have for me?

[Kontroll]

Ha ha. Well, any sign of anything wrong you get your ass movin'.

[*Monochrome.*]

^yeah this time if he fucks up i will break all 4 of his limbs

[Cujiine]

^^Well don't give him a second chance. You know what he's done so say sorry you screwed up the first time and in life you don't always get second chances.

[voguelove]

say no!

i was waching 20/20 or something like that and they said that abusive boyfriends who break it off and then ask for you to come back to them will abuse you again.

[*Monochrome.*]

OH guys NO
i have a boyfriend.and he knows i love him to death and that i wouldent leave him for anything or anyone.

What my ex is asking for me to forgive him for what he did and that if i could look past that becasue hes gotten cleaned up and hes asking to be my friend.

so i was asking if i should let him back into my life as a friend.

[y0urelectrikk]

I think it'd be good to forgive him and maybe try to be friends. Hate is baggage. It would be better to have anyone as a friend than an enemy.

[chasingvictory]

deng you messed him up really bad.. yea you should forgive him, but limit ur relationship with him as friends..

[voguelove]

oh, haha. i read it wrong.

then i guess you could forgive him. just do what your heart tells you to. it's not like you're forced to forgive or anything.

[Mikhayl Wilson]

well Its better to forgive, but not forget. Give him one last chance, but no more. jus follow your heart

[me1issaaaa]

Well, I always think life is too short to hold grudges. He screwed up in the past, but that's over and done with. Apparently he's trying to make up for it, and luckily he's not trying to pull a move or anything, so that's good. I guess you could be friends with him... just don't let him hurt you again.

You seem like a great girl. We should talk more. I'm Melissa [:

[multifaceted]

No, no, no, and no.

Don't even bother. What he did to you before is going to be that way in the end. You don't deserve him as a bf or a friend.

[tokyo-rose]

Don't even bother. What he did to you before is going to be that way in the end. You don't deserve him as a bf or a friend.

Cat, I think you mean that her ex doesn't deserve to be her boyfriend or friend.

I think you should forgive him and become friends slowly again if you trust him enough not to mess things up a second time. If he hurts you again, though, end things immediately and don't let him contact you again.

[*Monochrome.*]

Well, I always think life is too short to hold grudges. He screwed up in the past, but that's over and done with. Apparently he's trying to make up for it, and luckily he's not trying to pull a move or anything, so that's good. I guess you could be friends with him... just don't let him hurt you again.

You seem like a great girl. We should talk more. I'm Melissa [:

Ha thanks.Im Diana

[bat19]

If you feel it's best to forgive a guy who did all that shit to you, then fine, it's your decision. But that doesn't mean you have to be friends. If you decide to forgive him, just let it be that. Tell him you forgive him, but you don't want him back in your life. I can forgive someone and not want to see them, it doesn't mean that I have some harbored animosity, just that I don't want to be reminded of what they did and I'd rather leave them as an aquaintance.

[*Monochrome.*]

If you feel it's best to forgive a guy who did all that shit to you, then fine, it's your decision. But that doesn't mean you have to be friends. If you decide to forgive him, just let it be that. Tell him you forgive him, but you don't want him back in your life. I can forgive someone and not want to see them, it doesn't mean that I have some harbored animosity, just that I don't want to be reminded of what they did and I'd rather leave them as an aquaintance.

You know i agree with you 100 percent and i think thats the way im gonna go.He has no purpose being in my life again even as a friend.Hes better off as an aquaintance.

[erinn]

^I agree. But if you do want to see him or hang out once in a while, i'd make sure its with a group or in public.
Be safe!