why are most girls like this ? Options

[Mr. Slowjamz]

ok sooo like ever since, i started being a little more sociable ..clubbing having fun and chilling , most girls shy away from deep conversations . are they just too scared too open up too much ? are they scared that i might just ruin there life and tell there secrets ? . im the type of guy who loves deep thoughts , its very romantic . but maybe i havent talked to the right girl at all ? i dunno . so are most girls like this ? they tend to stray away from deep convos and why ? i get infatuated with REAL girls i hate shallow ladies ,there such a turnoff.


Alicia Keys diaries playing in the backgroud.

[ReggieM]

maybe stop being such a symp

[OhMyAnniee]

I'm guessing they're just scared to face their fears.

[smileeetina]

I'm like that, SOMETIMES! It really depends on the guy. If he's a creep, or if he gives off a comfort vibe. I dont think its about secrets and stuff. Its just kinda weird to meet a guy who wants to know your life story on the spot.

[iDecay]

I don't open up to people unless I know them pretty well.. So, yeah.. I guess we just can't do so after just meeting.

[Smoogrish]

Well most girls don't really open up until they feel really comfortable with whoever they're talking to. You can't expect to be able to walk up to a girl and strike up a deep conversation.

[*sofakinglazy*]

Hit it and Quit it.

Wise words from Arjuna.

[Joss-eh-lime]

i dont think ppl want to meet some guy and have a "real talk" about a deep topic. theyre just there for fun and a good time?

[iROCKYOURSOCKS]

well for example if i walked up to you and started asking you personal questions and youve just met me would you feel comfortable opening up to me if i just met you? wouldnt you feel wierd? I think you would be like what the hell is up with her? well yea not just girls but i think most people dont open up right away when they just meet someone, you have to really know the person to tell them your personal stuff.

[minioligo]

They probably just think you're one of those guys who only like to go clubbing and have fun. You have to be patient and show them you're trustworthy enough for them to talk to you about that deep sort of stuff.

[Mikhayl Wilson]

Maybe they're not used to the transition. Give them a little time to adjust. When some(not all) girls see that a guy is clubbing and having fun they generally get the picture that he is a party guy.. or someone that can't be serious. just give it a little time and maybe they'll see your seriousness.. and open up.

[angelrevelation]

Are you getting into deep conversations right when you meet them? that would be awkward for most any girl. they don't want to divulge their deep dark secrets to someone they don't know that well.

[espressive]

Really? That's so weird!

Cause it's usually guys that are afraid to have intimidate conversations. You're quite the opposite! Maybe the girls just aren't use to it, or maybe you approach it wrong...? I don't know, but although girls do like to talk about ourselves - don't ask us personal questions directly. Have you ever heard of the trick of conversations is to ask the other person questions because everybody likes to talk about him/herself? Yeah, this doesn't work so well with personal questions. It just makes everything reallly awkward. I'll suggest that you casually move into an intimidate conversation by starting out with a light conversation first and perhaps share some things about yourself... and if the girl feels comfortable, she'll talk without the need for you to nudge her. If she doesn't respond much, then it's probably not worth pursuing.

[sayitaintso]

it could be that:

1. maybe you're not talking to the right girls (ie. they are shy/intimidated/have no clue what you're talking about)
2. they may not be interested in you
3. you're scaring them off, acting too close than comfortable
4. what kind of "deep conversation" are you talking about?

to solve this, i think you should take it slow and not try to open them up right away by deep conversations. some girls are into that, but with some girls, it can be awkward for them to be open to a stranger. a simple smile and humor can break the ice, and then you can take it from there.

[*Monochrome.*]

Hit it and Quit it.

Wise words from Arjuna.

OMG arjuna said that?? LOL

No. I think that girls will only talk really personal when they are in that "comfort zone".No girl wants to open up with a guy who only cares about hittin it and quttin it.

[shaixe]

I myself love deep and involving conversations. Not so much personal when I first meet a man, but... controversial? Philosophical? Any guy that talks politics, history, religion, or displays any amount of intelligence is an immediate turn-on for me.

Unfortunately... I can never find guys like that. -_-

[elaboratedream]

most girls take time to open up. you can't expect them to reveal their deep, dark secrets right away. I hate guys that expect that.

not everyone is comfortable with instant emotional intimacy.

[Kontroll]

I'm like that, SOMETIMES! It really depends on the guy. If he's a creep, or if he gives off a comfort vibe. I dont think its about secrets and stuff. Its just kinda weird to meet a guy who wants to know your life story on the spot.

Haha. Yeah, maybe you're just a creep Mr. Slowjamz. Haha. No, but I have problem with girls. They tend to break up with me pretty quick, and they tell me that I never talk. Haha. So, we have the opposite problem here. Give me some pointers. Haha

I don't know. Why would you want to talk to some girls that go clubbing? All they are there for is to have a good time. Go to a church and you'll find some deep thinking broads. Hahahha. There you go. My 2 cents.

[achimongus]

Ehh, I like deep convos, too....but not after meeting someone for the first time. I like it when a guy drops deep statements that make me really think. Then later, after we've met a while, I like to talk to him about deep convos. That's how I met my bf, afterall/

[turntabletux]

ok sooo like ever since, i started being a little more sociable ..clubbing having fun and chilling , most girls shy away from deep conversations . are they just too scared too open up too much ? are they scared that i might just ruin there life and tell there secrets ? . im the type of guy who loves deep thoughts , its very romantic . but maybe i havent talked to the right girl at all ? i dunno . so are most girls like this ? they tend to stray away from deep convos and why ? i get infatuated with REAL girls i hate shallow ladies ,there such a turnoff.
Alicia Keys diaries playing in the backgroud.

Deep conversations are a big thing for me too. I like it when my girl can handle what I am talking about and keep the conversation going.