long distance relationship. Options

[amyx312]

do you belive in that? well i know i like this guy a lot but he has a girlfriend but she moved to texas & they're still together & he tells me that he doesn't take her seriously and etc. & i kept wondering to myself does long distance relationship work? they been together for like a month. tell me what you think.

[marzipan]

Personally, I don't think long distance relationships work out. Communication is key in a relationship, and sure, you can talk on the phone, but it's better for you to actually be with the person. And, since you wouldn't live near him/her, you wouldn't know what they'd be doing there.

[think!IMAGINARIL...]

It can work. As long as both people have patience and trust each other.

If your friend doesn't take her seriously, then I don't think it'll work out.

[michellerrific]

It rarely works, and if it does both people need to have stable lives and be committed. But you said he doesn't take her seriously so i doubt it will last.

[venicepwnsyou]

i'm not such a big fan of them.
but it can work.

[gita]

if long distance relationships are ever going to work, the two people need to be really committed to each other - and it sounds like this guy isn't way into this girl. so if he's not, there's not much of a chance they'll stay together - or, he might end up cheating on her. but don't be the one he cheats with - wait until they break up to get together with him, otherwise, this girl could really get hurt. although what happens, happens, so i guess you might just have to wait...

[*mishyerr*]

depends on how much they're willing to commit to each other. if your friend doesn't take her seriously, i highly doubt they're going to last "forever." :/

but i remember someone else saying that she was in a long distance relationship that was working out very well. ^_^

[pinay_cherry]

Ahhh...long distance relationships. I think they work, depending on trust, commitment, & communication.

For me, I dated a guy long distance. It last six sweet months. But communication broke us off. But now we're best friends, and I've surely fallen for him once again. He says he feels the same too. But we're just best friends, but I guess you can say we're together. But we keep telling each other to go find other people until we can be together in person. Even so, I'm trusting and staying "Technically single".

It all depends on the people. Patience, trust, & communication are key.
Since the guy doesn't seem into her, it probably won't last long. :/

[amyx312]

if long distance relationships are ever going to work, the two people need to be really committed to each other - and it sounds like this guy isn't way into this girl. so if he's not, there's not much of a chance they'll stay together - or, he might end up cheating on her. but don't be the one he cheats with - wait until they break up to get together with him, otherwise, this girl could really get hurt. although what happens, happens, so i guess you might just have to wait...

cause he sounds if he's interested in me. but then again i don't know what to do. he tells me he doesn't take her seriously and that he was gonna break up with her and everything and when she moves he's taking her so serious. i mean i want him to know that there's other girls out there not only her because i certainly do not belive in long distance relationship. i mean she lives all the way in texas whats the percent that she might come back to new york ever again? i apparently think he should move on & just break up with her its not that hard because they only been together for a month and what she doesn't know is that he went out with her just to get his ex girlfriend jealous. so what should i do? i mean everyone telling me to move on about him because he's just using me but again its so hard to get over someone that you really like and he's everything im looking for in a guy. HELP PLEASE

[me1issaaaa]

Only a month? That's really nothing to take seriously, at all. I was in a long-distance relationship for over a year. It didn't work out for us; not because of the distance, but because of personal issues. He lives in Texas, and I'm in Georgia, 691 miles away. Blah blah blah, we broke up, dated other people and are both happy with our new significant others. It never would have worked out even if we were in the same neighborhood.

[*annonymous.*]

Honestly... I don't believe in long-distance relationships, unless those two people are VERY VERY committed into being together. It can be possible, but I've seen lots of L-D relationships go down the drain because of the distance. It's only been like what...? 1 month for them. Like what Melissa said. It's NOTHING to take seriously.

[amyx312]

Exactly I know that but I don't wanna tell him that you know because I really liked him and I don't want him to think that I want him & his girlfriend break up you know. I mean if they were together longer I would had gotten over him quickly but they only been together for a month and that's nothing.

[Mini]

my opinion.

they stink.

because i get bored of the guys so fast. online and talking on the phone is only dimensions of a person. you need to see how this dude acts in real life and how he treats you in real life.

he can say this and that. but in the end, what matters is his actions.

and im pretty sure you dont know him like you think you do.



honestly, guys end up pretty fugly anyway.

[multifaceted]

They can work if both parties are willing and determined to make it work.

[redpeony]

February will be the 8th month of my long distance relationship. We were together for 10 months before that. There's definitely been times of battle and drama like none other but I don't think I would have gotten to know him on this level had we not had to communicate through letters, phone and the internet for this period of time. Of course I've seen him for periods of about a week or two in between (end of summer, winter break), but for the most part he's been 4000 miles away on the other side of the country. I have no idea what's going to happen in the future but we love each other and are taking it one day at a time.

It definitely takes commitment in working things out and understand that trust is even more delicate when you are so far away. I've done things that have broken the trust and believe me, lesson learned. I think a longer time together previous is one of the main reasons the relationship can survive. Since it's only been a month and he's not into her.. clearly it won't be getting any better because of the distance. Just wait it out..

[unconfirmed_exis...]

Why would one want to go out with someone
that gets with girls to make exs jealous
not to mention stays with a girl
even though he's not "serious" about her.

Not to mention if he's using you too, well that doesn't
exactly sound like the dreamy-est guy ever.
I mean with such qualities aren't you a tad concerned
how your relationship with him would work out if he's like that?

But if you still want him after I pointed out
what things you sort of said about the guy yourself.
Go errrm try and convince the guy he's not
so serious about her and that it won't work out?

[xoForbidden_Love...]

i've been in a long distance relationship beforee
it causes you a lot of stress, well in my case at least
i don`t really think that it will last, unless they meet each other in person again
love doesnt mean anything without touch [my opinion]

[amyx312]

Well guys they broke up but he never told me how I saw his myspace&hers and both of it says single&im going to hang out with him this week so hope everything goes out well(:

[y0urelectrikk]

My bf lives 2 hours away, and we make it work.

[voguelove]

i dont think they work.

personally, i think that during a relationship, the couple needs to be with each other. not just talking on the phone or webcaming. actually SEEING one another. (holding hands, kissing.) i mean, that's what makes you stronger, right?

[AngelinaTaylor]

They rarely, RARELY work. Trust me. I've been into two of them and they didn't work. And I have so many friends who have tried and it hasn't worked for them. Actually I can't think of a single case where it's worked.

[vietbabiiix3]

me and my bf.. are sort of long distance.. he doesnt live that far away frmo me but i hardly see him... so it's hard.. but our relationship is very strong.. since we both take each other very seriously...

it can be stressful and sad not getting to see the person, but time determines whether a relationship is worthwhile... i guess seeing the person once in a while means so much more is and is so much more special..

[stay infinite]

Yea they work for some people. And others not so much. Communication and trust are the biggest things in them and if you have a hard time trusting people or have horrible communication skills and don't like opening up to people then your probably not going to make it.

They work though and there are a ton of couples out there that have been in ldr's for a really long time and eventually got married. And if you still don't think they can work go to a book store and go to the relationship section and your bound to find some long distance relationship books that have stories from other couples that were in them.

[Smilessss]

yeah lol im in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend haah~ and we've been going out for a year almost for two, but then this year, we fight alot than we usually do so yeah but we still love each other so much

lol oh and by the way my boyfriend lives in a state thats across my state but we still manage through it *n.n*

[USCavalry]

requires both people to love each other more or less equally, way to much room to break commitment