How does your family/parents feel about certain ethnicity's? Options

[espressive]

My mom denies her racist-ness.

She'll rather have me marry an asian guy than guys of other races on the account that "she'll be able to communicate better with him", assuming that the asian guy speaks Mandarin, of course. When I brought up marrying guys of other ethnicities, she stared at me with this weird face, half-amused and half-refuting the idea. But I've dated a white guy before, and my mom actually liked him a lot, so

Maybe she was just joking when she looked at me funny with the implied idea that I'll end up marrying an asian guy, but I don't think she would mind it that much if I married a white guy... though I'm sure she wouldn't be too fond if I married an African-American or a South American/Central American guy. I mean, I guess I can of understand where she's coming from, because she's lived in Taiwan all her life and grown use to just "asian people". Since I'm the 2nd generation, I've lived in the States and dealt with different races on a daily basis; my mom is still adjusting.

[x3itsLYSS]

^ What about asians? Did he say anything about asian people?

i don't really remember what he said but i'm pretty sure he wasn't too keen about me dating an asian guy because i remember my mom arguing with him

[Mr. Slowjamz]

umm they don`t really care who i dated . they believe i have a choice . my parents prefer me to marry a filipina to adhere to my roots . sometimes they feel a little intimidated when i date a caucasian because they might think that the girl would be very prejudice about what we eat and how we live culturally in the house . i mean would a white girl eat pusit (squid) example. in general . there afraid that girls from other countries might say these irrational comments and stuff that . they also somehow well my mom doesnt want me to date an african . i dunno why . but thats just being general . if they feel the girl im dating is really someone good . then they wouldn`t mind

[ilauqh]

My parents aren't sooo racist but they can be towards specific races. I'm white and my parents would prefer if I dated a white guy but wouldn't mind Asian as in Chinese, Japanese, Korean, Vietnamese, Filipino, etc. but wouldn't be as happy with someone that was.. maybe Indian. I'm thinking it's because of a bigger cultural gap? I don't know. Oh, and I remember I asked my mom once, what would you say if I dated a black guy? And she said, you wouldn't. Which is not necessarily true.

[wishforhelsinki]

yes. totally. completely. my parents do not want me dating a black or hispanic guy. which is hard cause i'm finding lots of them attractive lately. even though i'm a white surfer guy kind of girl. filipino parents ay?

[angelrevelation]

My parents are always like... "don't watch that black show" and i'm like when I'm watching 'Yo Mama' or something.

That's usually the only real racist thing they say. They always have prejudices against white people though, like that they're not the same as asians, in the most ridiculous senses.

And of course... they only want me to marry and asian boy.

[littleswallow]

Like most people here, my parents are a bit apprehensive when it comes to black people... which I don't understand at all.

[hillix]

My parents are always like... "don't watch that black show" and i'm like when I'm watching 'Yo Mama' or something.

omg, same here. except i`m watching my wife and kids and whatever. i think it is so retarded. my parents would kill me if i dated somebody black. & that really sux...

[hiromi]

I'm not sure about my parents. I never really mentioned guys to them.
I'm pretty sure my dad wants me to date either a Japanese guy, my mom, a Filipino guy. Haha, too bad I haven't told them I'm dating a white guy. Gawd, if I tell them, my parents would freak.

[aicilah999]

my parents dont want me dating a black or something like that. they say it'd be hard to communicate or something so that's why they prefer chinese or at least someone asian, cuz im chinese and stuff to communicate better or something? but i dunno. and they're kinda racist towards black/mexican too because like, they think they're always the ones who do bad things, but that's always like a stereotype.

[ReggieM]

"they dont want me dating a black" how nice of you to word it that way...

my mom doesnt want me dating asians cuz she thinks they will feed me dog or get me into a car accident since they cant drive, or my son would have chinky eyes.

[pkbabe]

Both my parents don't care if I have friends with different races but dating/bfs/marraige is a different story. My dad only wants either pinoys or white & my mom anything but African Americans (cuz she knows I have a thing for hispanic guys cuz of my ex & all)

But them being all semi racist like that is pretty funny cuz my dad's side is mixed(which as a result makes me mixed) I'm mostly filipina but I have bits of Chinese,Spanish & Indian(my last name is Indian for goodness sakes). So yea...thats pretty funny how they are like how they are

I have liked hispanic guys most of my life mainly cuz they are all over the place so its hard not to notice but I have liked Asisn before also. As for other races, its not that I'm racist or anything but honestly I don't see much of them around since there are hispanic people all over the place like I mentioned earlier(or I'm just not noticing anything else but who knows LOL)

My family is racist against African Americans/Mexicans. Honestly, some do bad things, but some are pretty cool. They just never give them a chance, so they just generalize it out

I agree...thats pretty lame how parents just generalize like that

if you look at an Asian person...They have more fat in their eye lids than a caucasian. Most differences we see are just cultural differences.

I could use that fat somewhere else on my body. -looks at chest-

Yes...I think some of the fat in my eyes should contribute to my flat chest LOL so I can actually look my age instead of being mistaken for a 14-16 yr old (I'm 19 & 17 yr olds look SOO much older than me )

[asianxphunk]

my parents are asian. my father prefers asians or caucasions. and would be slightly bothered if i brought a hispanic or black home. but if they get good grades and have a wonderful personality he'd almost love him. hah. my mom wouldnt care. my parents just want someone who can make a life and a career. my parents are not typical asian parents. they are not all the same. my mother likes to be kind and stuff to me cause she grew up in reallly asian/traditional family and she had no freedom. so she wants me to have freedom with some excepttions. you just have to find the right person. or asian person. hah.

[priyas]

My parents don't care as long as I'm happy. Yet my mom seems to prefer non-Islamic men. Thats her restriction. I think she's being stupid.

Personally, I would prefer any race.

[AimeeLynn]

My dad would kill me if I ever dated someone black or mexican

Me too! except I think it makes no sence since I'm filipino and it's not that far from a spanish background. My parents want tme to be with a white guy or a filipino.

My mom denies her racist-ness.

Mine too. When she sees me with my pretty friend [black], she goes you are so much prettier than her look at her skin. I'm like do are you seeing what i'm seeing? Your just racist and she goes like no I'm just saying your skin... and i'm like no you are.

[KissMe2408]

My parents don't really care about the race of my boyfriend. I usually date caucasian boys anyway, and both of my parents are of the same race, so they don't really mind. But they haven't expresed concern about me dating black or asian guys. However, my grandparents would freak if I came home with a black guy. It bugs me.

[lemonpie]

my old man doesn't like the idea of me dating someone outside of my race but i totally dig asians & he totally doesn't like the idea. he's always like "why do you want to be with an asian they're small" *hint hint* you know what i'm sayin'. my mom doesn't care who i'm with.

[yummiesweetCAKES]

im vietnamese so likely my parents want me to marry/date an asian guy or caucasian.:]] they aren't really racist just want me to marry a guy thats "asian" or at least speak our language.hehe

[Mikhayl Wilson]

hmmm... My mom generally wouldn't care what race i date (thats prolly why we get along so well), but my dad on the other hand thinks that i should date within in my race (which i generally rebel against that idea..... because i like people of all races...i think...) For some reason my dad thinks that hanging around a certain group of people will change the way i talk and act..... He thinks that just because i don't speak slang.. then i am ashamed, but i find that to be one of the most ignorant stereotypes...... gahh i hate stereotypes.....

[radhikaeatsraman]

I'm from a white family, obviously. As far as relationships go, they may initially be skeptical about things, but it's only for my safety. For instance, I dated a guy for a long time who has half Indian. My mom was just mainly worried about how his family thought of women, like how in India the men burn the women alive and stone them and everything, for no reason at all sometimes. She just didn't want me to get involved with anyone who didn't give 100000% respect to women.

Whoa there. I'm not saying you're racist or anything, but I just wanted to point out that those cases are rare and that not all Indian men treat women badly. I don't want people thinking that all Indians are like that. Your mother's concerns are understandable, but again, I just don't want people thinking that way about Indians.

[think!IMAGINARIL...]

I think my dad would freak out if I had a black or Hispanic boyfriend. That's why I can't talk to him about guys. My mom doesn't really care about ethnicities. She just wants me to find a guy who gets good grades and has manners.
My sister doesn't want me to go out with Asian guys because she's really un-Asian. Whatever, her opinion doesn't really matter anyways..

[ReggieM]

I really hate how they only say that about black and mexican even asian people fit alot of negative stereotypes so to say they dont want you to date A PARTICULAR race is kinda being racist i understand to not date outside your race but pointing out a particular race is painfull for me to see (no homo).

[dododiva]

I know for sure my entire family would feel "disgraced" or something. Well, hispanics are okay,but i don't think blacks people are acceptable. Being a filipina, my parents want me to go out/get married with a filipino. They give hints, big hints about it. (My mom goes like, "It's better if you marry a filipino, then you can get married in the Philippines because it's cheaper there.")

It's not only that my parents would find it acceptable, it's kind of me too. I would feel a little uncomfortable with a black partner(no offense). Right now, i have like 1 black friend. Well, i don't think you can call him a friend. Maybe acquaintance is better.

[Blaqheartedstar]

my father has this thing with dating with just puerto ricans... since me and my family are... racist bastard he can be
its annoying really... but i really haven't been looking into getting a boyfriend...
or a girlfriend for that matter... and if i did i wouldn't tell him... although hes my dad he has no control over who i date

[mznikki]

My dad,who is chinese and filipino like me, really doesn't have anything against me dating any race, or tries to seem like he doesn't but he even came out and said "i want you to marry a chinese man" He never was a fan of my ex who was ecuadorian and filipino. Even my grandma said to my aunt that she wanted me to marry one of my ex's who was chinese and filipino, just because he had chinese blood. My family overall though, I'm refering to the older adults not the kids, is not a fan of spanish, arab, or black people. The filipino side of my family prefers the kids to marry filipinos, but from my dad side all my cousins are marrying anything but filipino so far. They like my vietnamiese cousin in law, and my other cousin in law who married into the familiy who is mexican, but they do not like mexicans in general. They talk crap all the time about my cousin's new wife who is mexican, because they don't like her paritcuarly of what she does nothing to do with her ethnicity though. I joked around with my aunt, who is racist pretty much, saying what if i got engaged to a black guy? she shook her head and tisked and was like i know you are smart and will marry a chinese guy. I was like omg :ohmhy: .. wow. what if I do get engaged and love him huh? what you won't support me? wow auntie..thanks. I have friends of all ethnicities pretty much from asian to black to spanish to and my family is fine with them over all though. I just get frustrated when they do assume things and make racist remarks.