Girls,I need advice, GIrls always know what to do,so help? |
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 Jan 29 2007, 01:59 PM
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 Erik and I have been dating for 21 days.That is all.And he and I think we really love eachother.I'm not quite sure about my feelings for him,and I don't know if he is just trying to get in my pants.But,most of the time,he really does seem very respectful,and he does make it seem like he really does love me.I'm 13,and he's 15.And I am always wondering if I really love him like I say I do.So I don't know what to do.And,on top of that,he is a fifteen year old guy,and God only knows what the plans in his head are.But last night,he mentioned to me he wnted to marry me,but we are too young.But he then said after that that we are not too young to get engaged.I have had people tell me that I need to get my prioritys straight,and focus more on school.But I really don't know what to do.I need to clear my head. 
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Jan 29 2007, 03:26 PM
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 -Officially Insane- Group: Member Posts: 870 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 117,293 |
You're both really young. And you've only been together 21 days? You guys probably don't even know each other too well. While it seems like you're in love now, who knows what could happen? People change, & aren't always who they seem to be. You should definately wait a long while before agreeing to be engaged to the guy.
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Jan 29 2007, 03:52 PM
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 ALLISON Group: Official Designer Posts: 3,372 Joined: Nov 2005 Member No: 310,259 |
you guys have only been together for 21 days
its that stage where your "madly in love" with one another even if it is that "love at first sight" I say you wait a little longer.. it doesnt hurt to 
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Jan 29 2007, 05:24 PM
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 BABESTARR Group: Member Posts: 600 Joined: Jul 2006 Member No: 442,634 |
i think that you should wait a little because there's all the time in the world to get engaged. Yeah, at the time he might seem like a respectful guy, but at the same time, you don't really know him yet. If you're not sure about your feelings for him, then it's best you wait until you are sure. Doubts are usually instincts. IDK though, its really up to what you think. Only you know what's goin on in your relationship.
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Jan 29 2007, 09:31 PM
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 Pocketful of Sunshine Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 8,690 Joined: Nov 2005 Member No: 289,004 |
I know you put girls on there, but really, there's definately going to be guys replying to this..
Moved to relationships. |
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Jan 29 2007, 10:48 PM
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 Being happy...is all that matters Group: Member Posts: 765 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 102,284 |
3 weeks and you guys are deciding forever? I've been dating my boyfried for 3 MONTHS, and we've only jokingly mention that maybe, just maybe we'll make it and get married. Engaged at 13? I'm 18 and I wouldn't think about getting engaged. Girl, give it some time...if you guys love each other that much, I'm sure a couple of years won't change that.
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Jan 29 2007, 11:01 PM
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I'm Cattt. :] Group: Validating Posts: 1,722 Joined: Apr 2005 Member No: 130,831 |
Honestly both of you should really stop putting your heads in the clouds and come back down to reality.
Married? Are you crazy? You must be kidding right? If you guys want to do a mature thing like that, you need to grow up, go to school and learn something, get a job, earn money, and THEN think about getting married. |
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Jan 29 2007, 11:06 PM
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 I'm too dangerous Group: Member Posts: 10 Joined: Jan 2007 Member No: 499,433 |
 Dude, you are too young. Seriously, to tell you the truth, when I was sixteen years old, I already moved in with my boyfriend & things will not always seem "oh so wonderful.." My advise, wait a while. Your Love might end up as "puppy love." Because there are so many times I thought that I was "IN LOVE" but trust me, when you meet other guys out there .. you'll find out that there's better one's out there. That's what I did & now I've been with my boyfriend for more than 3 years now. So, wait a while.
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Jan 30 2007, 01:45 AM
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 Jake - The Unholy Trinity / Premiscuous Poeteer. Group: Member Posts: 1,272 Joined: May 2006 Member No: 411,316 |
YOU'RE DUMB!!!!! YOU DON"T KNOW WHAT ROMANTIC LOVE IS. Newbs.
and he doesn't love you. He might like you. But that's it. He's fifteen....do you really think that he wants to be engaged? No. He might think so now, but like a couple weeks down the road, he's gonna think otherwise. You're both wayyyyy toooo youngg. |
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Jan 30 2007, 02:32 AM
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QUOTE(JakeKKing @ Jan 30 2007, 1:45 AM)  YOU'RE DUMB!!!!! YOU DON"T KNOW WHAT ROMANTIC LOVE IS. Newbs. and he doesn't love you. He might like you. But that's it. He's fifteen....do you really think that he wants to be engaged? No. He might think so now, but like a couple weeks down the road, he's gonna think otherwise. You're both wayyyyy toooo youngg. Totally agree, I read this and I was like " WTF MATE" lol... you two are not in love im sorry but its a " strong like you have for eachother" not even close to love whether you agree or not...and the "engaged" situation... how do I said it without seeming mean ohh yes PATHETIC...Of course u 2 are all lovey dovey but wait till about 3 months and see how lovey dovey you too are ... stuff changes and FAST!...The words "engaged" coming from a 13 year old is very weird but totally expected as well because your just learning new things and probably actually believe he is the one for you but believe me THERES PLENTY MORE TO COME....Just tell him no your not ready to make that kinda comitment your too young and happy with what you two got now....anyways , In about a year from now come back and read what you have writen and I bet you'll laugh your a..s..s off and be like "omg as if I was even thinking that " lol 
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Jan 30 2007, 10:38 AM
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Whoa, is this the same guy who was telling you he would kill himself if you broke up with him?!
If it's him: Whoa, this kid is way unstable and immature, and he was trying to control you with threats. I don't know, but do you really want that in a husband. A man that threatens you when things go wrong instead of talking it out and making a compromise. You have to understand, marriage is a life time commitment, and being engaged is like promising to marry someone:
Also, do you really know what you want in a husband yet? At 13, you have just entered into the world of relationships. The world of relationships is almost like shopping. I think you should "shop around" before giving marriage a thought. This doesn't mean you have to date everyone you may see a possible relationship with either. Just get to know people, and find out what qualities you are looking for in a husband before making such a serious decision. That could take years, and those people you were talking about are also right. You should be focusing on high-school. Your high-school education is your future. You should take one thing at a time. You have your whole life ahead of you. Don't rush it. |
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Jan 30 2007, 11:56 AM
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 D.L.A Group: Member Posts: 82 Joined: Jan 2007 Member No: 499,537 |
QUOTE(CLYDE @ Jan 30 2007, 3:50 AM) 21 days? Pardon me, I had to laugh at that. You know nothing about love at 21 days. agreed. You should definitely wait. |
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Jan 30 2007, 12:05 PM
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 Call me Elsie Mae Group: Member Posts: 936 Joined: Aug 2005 Member No: 207,655 |
you two are definitly too young. & if you are confsued about it.. then ur definitly not ready..
don`t rush things.. your still young. jhus live life. think about freinds a& skewl. don`t rush yourself into a relationship. |
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Jan 30 2007, 08:45 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Head Staff Posts: 18,173 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 108,478 |
I highly doubt that what you're feeling right now is true love. You're still at that stage where everything's new and overwhelming and you have this image of how he's "the one." Trust me, after a few more weeks it'll wear off and you'll realize that you were crazy for saying yes to getting engaged. Definitely wait it out and see how long you last. Even if you last a year or more, you'll still be only or 14 and that's far too young to be thinking about marriage.
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Jan 31 2007, 01:27 PM
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Jake - The Unholy Trinity / Premiscuous Poeteer. Group: Member Posts: 1,272 Joined: May 2006 Member No: 411,316 |
Yes [ 0 ] ** [0.00%]
Haha. I love how there's not at least one sympathetic person. HAHA. |
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Jan 31 2007, 02:16 PM
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This must be some kind of joke.
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Jan 31 2007, 02:36 PM
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 bliss. Group: Member Posts: 735 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 41,566 |
seriously. 21 days? it's not Romeo & Juliet. what's the rush?
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Feb 3 2007, 12:38 PM
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thats sorta like me and my ex...
we started talking about how we wanted to get married and have kiddos together... 10 days later, we broke up -___- |
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Feb 3 2007, 01:53 PM
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don't be so quick to rush into that kind of a relationship. he's a teenage guy, and you have to think about hormones. he might not really love you that way. three weeks isn't long enough to tell if you're in love with someone, anyways. i'm 14, and my boyfriend is almost 17, and i have to be careful not to rush into anything. he's not pushing me, and you have to make sure your boyfriend isn't, either. if he is pressuring you to do anything, just say no - you're too young to turn your life upside down for a guy that you might not be with together. i'm sort of in the same boat, although i'm not rushing into anything. just be careful - your mind, body, soul, and heart are at stake.
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Feb 5 2007, 07:21 PM
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 tell me more. Group: Official Member Posts: 2,798 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 35,640 |
yeah, wait.
love is patient |
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Feb 5 2007, 07:30 PM
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QUOTE(Blaine @ Jan 29 2007, 2:59 PM) Erik and I have been dating for 21 days.That is all.And he and I think we really love eachother.I'm not quite sure about my feelings for him,and I don't know if he is just trying to get in my pants.But,most of the time,he really does seem very respectful,and he does make it seem like he really does love me.I'm 13,and he's 15.And I am always wondering if I really love him like I say I do.So I don't know what to do.And,on top of that,he is a fifteen year old guy,and God only knows what the plans in his head are.But last night,he mentioned to me he wnted to marry me,but we are too young.But he then said after that that we are not too young to get engaged.I have had people tell me that I need to get my prioritys straight,and focus more on school.But I really don't know what to do.I need to clear my head. I've been dating my boyfriend for almost a year. We're not engaged. You don't get engaged unless you know you want to marry them. And judging from the fact that you're 13, there's a, like, .0000001% of you guys getting married. Sorry :/ My friend, who is 18, dated her boyfriend for 3 years. They got engaged. He even got her a huge rock. They broke up. The end. |
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Feb 5 2007, 11:08 PM
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 <(- -)><(- - <)(>- -)><(- - )> Group: Member Posts: 646 Joined: May 2006 Member No: 400,609 |
i think you need a reality check. instead of focusing about falling in love in just 21 days how about focusing on your school work? your only 13, focus on your GRADES.
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Feb 6 2007, 04:05 AM
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Don't be in a rush to get enaged my love. Your only 13 and he is only 15. And you've only been dating for 21 days. Yeah you might like him or love him alot but your still got your whole teen years ahead of you. Don't be in a rush to jump into something you may end up regreting. I am 19 years old and their was this guy I dated in high school. His name was Robert. We where together for about 2 years and a half and well we wouldn't have been in more love with each other. We weren't your typical high school relationship. Our connect was so much deeper then about sex. Which nowadays is the typical high school relationship is all about sex. Their is a rule most woman follow by it's called the 3 month rule. Don't do anything sexual and don't rush anything to fast, don't tell a guy you love him before then and you'll save yourself from alot of pain in the end. A guy may promise you the world and that he will love you forever. But just remember that promise isn't always true. Now til this day me and robert aren't together but I know deep down in each others hearts we'll always truly honestly love each other but we can't be together. We've both changed and we've both grown apart. We tried to hold onto something that wasn't their anymore and fell apart on it's own. Just remember don't do something you'll end up regreting. You may say that now that you wont. But honestly think about it this way. If you where really inlove with him you wouldn't have to go around asking other people for advice or their thoughts on the subject, if you really wanted to get engaged you wouldn't lisen to anyones elses words and you would let it happen on it's own and support yourself threw everything. If you honestly truly love someone and they will love you. They will honestly wait for you for as long as it takes. Your just at the begingings of a new relationship, you two truly don't know each other yet. My ex-boyfriend chris when i was 14 said the same words. And now adays I don't even really remember much about him.
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Feb 7 2007, 01:50 PM
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i say you wait
for the sake of your relationship not breaking |
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Feb 7 2007, 09:03 PM
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 we roll mad deep yo! Group: Member Posts: 33 Joined: Feb 2007 Member No: 501,326 |
you know what i think 1. you both are too young. & 2. 21 days isn't enough to know you really luv someone. please just think before you act.
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