Confused About Sexual Orientation..., What would u say? |
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 Jan 30 2007, 02:21 PM
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I have a friend who thinks he's bi or gay but he says doesn't want to be......I say that attration is one of the hardest feeling to ignore......Plus his family is not too open minded about homosexuality.......
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Jan 30 2007, 02:30 PM
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shouldn't this be in relationships?
anyway..if he's attracted to other guys then he probably is at least bi. |
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Jan 30 2007, 02:35 PM
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QUOTE(Broken wonderwall @ Jan 30 2007, 2:30 PM)  shouldn't this be in relationships? anyway..if he's attracted to other guys then he probably is at least bi. Anyway, what would you tell him though? |
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Jan 30 2007, 02:37 PM
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 i've never wanted anything rationale. Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 8,449 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 19,045 |
Moved to Relationships.
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Jan 30 2007, 02:39 PM
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QUOTE(?Melina? @ Jan 30 2007, 7:35 PM) Anyway, what would you tell him though? He has to accept the fact that he's gay/bi. It's not bad. How old is he? |
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Jan 30 2007, 02:46 PM
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^16 turning 17
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| *icecreamisyummy* |
Jan 30 2007, 03:52 PM
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i jsut found out my ex bf is gay... and i really wanna know when he realized he was into guys. this is always a good topic
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Jan 30 2007, 03:57 PM
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QUOTE(?Melina? @ Jan 30 2007, 7:21 PM) I have a friend who thinks he's bi or gay but he says doesn't want to be......I say that attration is one of the hardest feeling to ignore......Plus his family is not too open minded about homosexuality....... Check out these topics here: http://www.createblog.com/forums/index.php...c=67565&hl= and http://www.createblog.com/forums/index.php...=143802&hl= 
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Jan 30 2007, 04:40 PM
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I'm Cattt. :] Group: Validating Posts: 1,722 Joined: Apr 2005 Member No: 130,831 |
You cannot always "decide" your sexuality.
You are one sexuality and that's that. You cannot really change what you feel now can you? If his family is not open-minded about homosexuality, he should still not be afraid to come out of the closet. His family should love him the same whether he is gay, bi, or straight. If not, then his family needs some councelling. |
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Jan 30 2007, 05:30 PM
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I know how hard it can be to accept that maybe you have feelings for the same sex. I denied it for almost 10 years. and still many more deny it for longer.
but denying it does no good. He's gonna have to face it eventually, its not something that will just go away. its not a matter of whether or not you want to be. Many LGBT (lesbian, gay, bisexual, transexual) individuals would give anything to be straight. but eventually most of them come to accept it and eventually can even say they're proud to be LGBT. just give him some time. as for the family, I'd suggest he doesnt tell them right away. Its good to tell them eventually, but if they aren't terribly accepting, it might not be a good idea to do it right away. QUOTE(xMyStIcShAd0wSx @ Jan 30 2007, 4:40 PM) If his family is not open-minded about homosexuality, he should still not be afraid to come out of the closet. His family should love him the same whether he is gay, bi, or straight. If not, then his family needs some councelling. thats how things should be, but thats not the reality of many situations. I have a few friends who were kicked out of their homes because they told their parents that they were gay/bi. people shouldnt have to be afraid to come out, but sometimes that fear is justified. |
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Jan 30 2007, 06:14 PM
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QUOTE(icecreamisyummy @ Jan 30 2007, 3:52 PM) i jsut found out my ex bf is gay... and i really wanna know when he realized he was into guys. this is always a good topic He was probably gay since before he met you, and like my friend, he probably had a hard time accepting himself....Or maybe he just wanted to make sure how he felt by trying to be with a girl.....  And for the record, just in case you thought it had anything to do with you, it didn't.... 
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Feb 1 2007, 09:07 PM
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 what do you think it says....if so obvious. Group: Member Posts: 1,838 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 52,420 |
if he thinks hes gay or bi , and hasnt done anything homosexually then he really isnt , if he is then he`s gotta accept hes gay or bi , but he can go about being straight again if he lost interest.
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Feb 1 2007, 09:44 PM
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First of all, I think you should openly accept his homosexuality. It's hard enough that there are plenty of people out here who condemn gays and make homosexuals feel as if they're lower than humans.
If his parents are not tolerant, this will be incredibly hard for him. I'm not sure to what kind of parents his are, but I think the first step you should take is acceptance (unless you're a Christian and you're taught not to do so). Go from there. |
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Feb 1 2007, 11:12 PM
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 Hello There. Group: Member Posts: 1,572 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 88,673 |
QUOTE(Mr. Slowjamz @ Feb 1 2007, 6:07 PM) if he thinks hes gay or bi , and hasnt done anything homosexually then he really isnt , if he is then he`s gotta accept hes gay or bi , but he can go about being straight again if he lost interest. yup |
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Feb 4 2007, 11:09 PM
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QUOTE(mishyerr @ Feb 1 2007, 9:44 PM) First of all, I think you should openly accept his homosexuality. It's hard enough that there are plenty of people out here who condemn gays and make homosexuals feel as if they're lower than humans. If his parents are not tolerant, this will be incredibly hard for him. I'm not sure to what kind of parents his are, but I think the first step you should take is acceptance (unless you're a Christian and you're taught not to do so). Go from there. You're absolutely right, and I do accept him. I would never judge anyone, especially not based on their sexual orientation. I know that the hardest part is his family. His brothers are so homo phobic, but its they're dad's fault since he raised them like that... |
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