Teen Pregnancy.., How many agree it's stupid!! Options

[princess*missy]

Heey Ya'll.. Do any of you know someone trying to get pregnant? I do and personally I think it's stupid. She's 17 and still in school...she's already had one kid and she doesn't even have it... she couldn't afford to keep up with it... so why should she try to have another one.. it get on my nerves because all I hear from her is... I wanna get pregnant!! Her b/f is not all that great, he talks dirty to other girls (which is HER friends) and he asked her to get my number and take a pic of me because he wanted to talk to me to see what I looked like...

Is there anyone out there who know someone like this?

BTW- thanks for taking the time to read this!

[Cujiine]

Well that really only depends on the two people involved. There are two girls I know at my school who are 16 and 17 and they're both in the early stages of pregnancy but their bfs are going to stick by them and stuff cause thei're good guys.

[*Uronacid*]

In many cases, women who try to get pregnant on purpose are trying to control the people they are in a relationship with. People who do it on purpose aren't making very good decisions because they are bringing a child into an unhealthy environment. I think teen pregnancy is a bad idea, but I don't look down on teens who make a mistake and end up with children.

[Broken Wonderwal...]

It depends . Your friend doesn't sound very clever. I mean she wants to get pregnant although she probably knows that her bf is not gonna stand by her. I guess she thinks that a baby is like a toy and it's an easy thing to raise up a child. Trust me. IT'S NOT.
If she thinks that by having a baby she will be able to control the guy then sh'es mistaken.
Wel, actually i have a son and although i know i was too young to have him, things are getting a lot easier now.
Thus, I believe that if the girl knows beforehand that her bf won't support her, getting pregnant is a bad idea.

[multifaceted]

There was this girl in 6th grade that got pregnant by her boyfriend who was 20 and she had to leave school because she wanted to have the baby and the boyfriend was a released criminal for something and he went back to jail right after she got pregnant.

I don't know what happened to her but with that situation. That's stupid.

But what am I to judge? If you are responsible enough and able to take care the baby and get a job and be successful, then have a baby at whatever age you want to.

[me1issaaaa]

So, she's already had one, and doesn't even have it to call her own? And she thinks she can keep this one? How would this one be any different? It's your own personal choice when you want to have a child, so I am no one to judge, but... this kid isn't going to have a good home. Not how you want to have a family.

[elaboratedream]

I dont have anything against teenage girls who get pregnant because they made a mistake, or they tried to prevent it but it happened anyways... or things like that
but a 17 yr old who wants to get pregnant?? even though she knows she can't support a child?
Thats just irresponsible.
and I agree with Uronacid, she's prolly just trying to control her bf.
she prolly notices that he flirts with other girls and is in some way hoping that she can get his attention if she gets pregnant.

[unconfirmed_exis...]

I feel like I'm picking clothes here,

Hmmm should I go with irresponsible or unreasonable.
I think I'll go for both when it comes down
to a teenage girl that wants to be pregnant.
It's a parent's nightmare (for most parents)
and at a young age it's difficult to find a teenager mature
enough to handle all the duties of raising a child "well".

I don't know anyone like the girl you just mentioned
and in a way I'm somewhat glad because your
friend scares me a bit. I hope she knows what she's doing..

[mznikki]

In many cases, women who try to get pregnant on purpose are trying to control the people they are in a relationship with. People who do it on purpose aren't making very good decisions because they are bringing a child into an unhealthy environment. I think teen pregnancy is a bad idea, but I don't look down on teens who make a mistake and end up with children.

So, she's already had one, and doesn't even have it to call her own? And she thinks she can keep this one? How would this one be any different? It's your own personal choice when you want to have a child, so I am no one to judge, but... this kid isn't going to have a good home. Not how you want to have a family.

they've wrapped up what i was going to say
but to answer your question on if i know someone who is trying to get pregnant, i don't, although i know 4 girls who have had teen pregnancies, all of whom did not plan to have the baby, it was due to irrisponsibility- unprotected sex. one of those 4 girls are my friends, one had an abortion and knew she couldn't keep the baby. the other 3 girls kept their babies, one is barely making it and i don't even know if she has the baby anymore because she was kicked out of her house after dropping out of school(age 15) even before she was pregnant. the other two girls just had the baby recently and thier moms is taking care of the babies. the fathers of the 2 girls babies never stuck around, but one of those guys did as far as i know.. personally i don't think its a wise decision espcially if they are that young.

[iROCKYOURSOCKS]

i think its crazy to have a kid at such a young age period. I mean jeez you want to at least finish High School and enjoy life a little.

[Hiphop d[-_-]b]

It's her decision. I know you only want the best for her, but who are you to judge. 2 of my friends got pregnant in 8th grade, 2 in 9th grade and bunches of other girls I don't regard. One of them, Naynay is doing fine. She goes to a highschool w/ a daycare center so she can be close to her baby. The father is in jail, but they seem happy and like they're going to make it. But who knows.

There's a girl on cB who had a baby when she was 13/14. She's doing wonderful I assume. She's married last time I know of, and now has another baby boy.

Teen pregnancy is always an antsy subject. But if the teen prepares for it and wants it whole-heartedley then what can you do ? Unless it was just clumsy bedroom work and they forgot the condom or something then their actions come with repercussions.

[lovescream]

I think teen pregnancy is a bad idea, whether or not you want to or it's an accident. Unless you're filthy rich and have grannies and is 100% sure you're able to support your child, bad idea, IMO.

No, I don't know anyone personally who got pregnant. :/ I've heard things, maybe seen a girl or few at the high school next door (I'm still in Middle School) but I didn't know any of them. =\

I do know a 7th grader who had sex though. But she blabbed it out to like everyone (wtf?) so I'm not sure if she's lying or not, but a few days after, we never saw her or her boyfriend at school EVER again. :S

[michellerrific]

It depends whether that person is actually ready to give up the time and money and care to raise a kid. If she thinks she can do it, and she can, well then that's not really a problem. But if this girl you're describing, your friend, couldn't even keep up with the first kid and now she's having another one? Now that's an idea i don't like.

[princess*missy]

I feel like I'm picking clothes here,

Hmmm should I go with irresponsible or unreasonable.
I think I'll go for both when it comes down
to a teenage girl that wants to be pregnant.
It's a parent's nightmare (for most parents)
and at a young age it's difficult to find a teenager mature
enough to handle all the duties of raising a child "well".

I don't know anyone like the girl you just mentioned
and in a way I'm somewhat glad because your
friend scares me a bit. I hope she knows what she's doing..

Thanks for mentioning parents cause that reminded me of something... She recently lost her former baby because she fell and landed on her stomach.. but before all this happened her parents kicked her out because they found out she had gotten pregnant and was still trying... and now she's living a run down motel with hardly no clothes and nothing like that.. Her b/f doesn't have a job... Doesn't she realize she can't afford a baby?

[tokyo-rose]

I don't know anyone like that.
I wouldn't go so far to say that teen pregnancy is stupid; it just doesn't seem logical that someone so young would want a child if they hadn't even completed their education yet. :\ It's her choice though.

[ilauqh]

i can't really answer the poll because YES i think teen pregnancy is stupid but NO i don't know anyone that is trying to get pregnant.

[MrStrife]

I got a lot of friends who had kids at an early age. In my eyes, it's neither stupid nor a mistake, it's just going to make life a lot harder with another one to take care of. Shiit happens you know. BTW, I do know a guy who wanted to get his girl pregnant but I known for a while and he's stupid.

[Broken Wonderwal...]

Thanks for mentioning parents cause that reminded me of something... She recently lost her former baby because she fell and landed on her stomach.. but before all this happened her parents kicked her out because they found out she had gotten pregnant and was still trying... and now she's living a run down motel with hardly no clothes and nothing like that.. Her b/f doesn't have a job... Doesn't she realize she can't afford a baby?

Your friend probably considers raising a child an easy thing, when it obviously isn't.
How is she gonna raise the baby up if she lives in a motel and has no money at all?
I think you should definitely talk to her and try to change her mind.
It sounds like she needs sb to support her, u know, since her parents kicked her out and all.
Does she have any friends? What's their opinion?

[SimplicityGirl]

I'm not gonna say it's stupid to be pregnant when you're a teen, but I'll say that the conscious decision on her part to even WANT to get pregnant when her parents kicked her out is stupid. How is she going to support her baby when she can BARELY support herself? And as for the boyfriend...if he doesn't have a job, and neither of them have financial support of any kind, then really, bringing a kid into the world isn't the best option.

I'd try to get her to talk to some kind of counsellor...really a girl at 17 should NOT be trying to start a family...it just won't work.

[*annonymous.*]

Heey Ya'll.. Do any of you know someone trying to get pregnant? I do and personally I think it's stupid. She's 17 and still in school...she's already had one kid and she doesn't even have it... she couldn't afford to keep up with it... so why should she try to have another one.. it get on my nerves because all I hear from her is... I wanna get pregnant!! Her b/f is not all that great, he talks dirty to other girls (which is HER friends) and he asked her to get my number and take a pic of me because he wanted to talk to me to see what I looked like...

Is there anyone out there who know someone like this?

BTW- thanks for taking the time to read this!

Uhh... Honestly, what the hell is she going to get pregnant for? She has another kid, but can't keep up with having one, so why should she get another one when the last one didn't work out? God, I didn't know people were so damn ignorant these days.

I don't know anyone who has done this, and if they did, it's really their choice. If they've had a kid before, and it didn't work out, then I would slap them across the face. There's honestly no reason in getting another child if the other one never worked out.

P.S: That guy is a creep, stay away from him.

[multifaceted]

Thanks for mentioning parents cause that reminded me of something... She recently lost her former baby because she fell and landed on her stomach.. but before all this happened her parents kicked her out because they found out she had gotten pregnant and was still trying... and now she's living a run down motel with hardly no clothes and nothing like that.. Her b/f doesn't have a job... Doesn't she realize she can't afford a baby?

Did she not get it the first time she had a baby? Where is the first one now? Orphanage? Foster home?

She cannot even take care of herself (mutters something about a run down motel and no clothes) and thinks that she can have a baby and be able to take care of that? (then mutters something about diapers, and formula, and wipes, and clothes)

Maybe you need to knock some sense into her. Not in the head though. In the uterus.

[*Intercourse.*]

Eh I think most teen girls that are out there trying to get pregnant is pretty stupid. Because more than likely they just don't want the guy to leave them or something and do it on purpose. I think they should enjoy being a kid while they still have time, but they see it the other way around.

[multifaceted]

What is even more sad is that there are even 8 year olds trying to get pregnant! When I was 8, I didn't know about babies and where they came from, let alone what was sex and how to do it.

Yes, you are thinking

And more sad than that is Maury (the talk show) periodically does shows regarding teens who want to be pregnant. The reason why they want to get pregnant:

- I'm lonely.
- I can do whatever I want.
- I'm mature enough.

And they don't even care who the father is when there are many talk shows (you know what I'm talking about) regarding paternity tests on whose the father.

[JenxCrazii]

when i was like in fourth or fifth grade; my parents had a relative friend with children about my age tath time. the children had an uncle (my parents friends paretns's brother)
and they were like fifteen that time.. and he was going out with some girl.
they got marriedd and they wre only in highschool. i wnet to the wedding.
then like about a year later, she was pregnant. and then a few months, i went back to my relatives house to play with the cousins(;. and when everyone was at the dinner talble to eat, the "teen-married couple" were talking to me about being married at a young age and how its bad. i was like only 9 or 10 that time! why do i care!!

teen pregnancy?? << i`m going for stupid.

[princess*missy]

thanks everyone... I'm gonna talk to her about it... I'm just hoping she doesnt get all mad at me about it...