soo; new man interest for me & i'm not sure what to think of it, eep. i am such a relationship noob; help is nice (: Options

[mytangerine]

ok. so i met this guy through a friend at a party, his name is mike.. we've been conversing on the phone for about 3 weeks now. i know who he is, i know he's not creepy, i know he's not a staulker etc. the point is: it seems like we know everything about each other, & we've gotten to know each other pretty darn well. also, we haven't hung out yet. on saturday we're supposed to & it seems like we've already basically planned to make out. haha. now my question is: would making out on a first date make me too easy or willing to get into a relationship too quickly? i really want to, he deserves it but i don't want him to get the wrong idea about me.. opinions, thoughts?

[*.fire*]

It would make you a slut.

[*mipadi*]

It would make you a slut.

Negative. It would make you the best first date ever.

[lilJdawg]

I don't think there's anything wrong about that. I mean you guys have been conversating for 3weeks &knows everything about each other. So why not?

[Comptine]

if both of you feel it, then you should kiss. there's no use denying it when both of you want to kiss each other so badly.

although, if you dragged it out, the anticipation would kill him and blow his mind when the kiss finally happens.

good luck.

[*Uronacid*]

ok. so i met this guy through a friend at a party, his name is mike.. we've been conversing on the phone for about 3 weeks now. i know who he is, i know he's not creepy, i know he's not a staulker etc. the point is: it seems like we know everything about each other, & we've gotten to know each other pretty darn well. also, we haven't hung out yet. on saturday we're supposed to & it seems like we've already basically planned to make out. haha. now my question is: would making out on a first date make me too easy or willing to get into a relationship too quickly? i really want to, he deserves it but i don't want him to get the wrong idea about me.. opinions, thoughts?

Don't make out on the first date just. He'll loose respect for you. Instead don't worry about it, and if he makes a move say, "Nope, not on the first date." It's like you putting a hook in the guys mouth. I'm 90% sure you'll get another date, and when you do kiss he'll be starving for it... haha ;]

[multifaceted]

It makes you look desperate, easy, slutty, whatever. No guy deserves any making out on the first date.

If you do, then he has nothing to look forward to as Josh said. You need to keep him guessing.

[Kontroll]

Negative. It would make you the best first date ever.

HAHAHA. I landed home on my first date. Haha. Just kidding.

Dude, it's not a movie. Don't make it into one. I think that a lot of people get the wrong impression about relationships... I hope you're not dreaming about the kid. You know..What it would be like to marry him, or have his kids. Geez. Baby steps. When you feel like you should. Or he'll make the move and you'll pull back. and slap him in the face. Do that for me. Hahaha.

[*suddenly she*]

Planned to make out? What the hell?
You do sound pretty easy.

[SimplicityGirl]

Uhh no. The furthest I did on a first date was kiss on lips no tongues...and that's with my current bf...whom I've known for nearly a year...and we liked each other for about half a year before we got together..

Never go further than an innocent kiss. The guy will lose any respect he had for you...if he likes you enough he'll make plans for another date and take it from there.

[me1issaaaa]

Oh, honey, you've got to learn how to play the game. You're being way too easy. Make him work for it, or else he'll just keep expecting it from you, and then he'll just expect more and more.

[mytangerine]

too late... hung out yesterday, didn't check what people said on this, should've taken a lot of your guys' advice.. *sigh. we made out.. but it was so hard not to, cuz we both hella wanted to. & you know what? i don't care if that makes me seem easy because i know i would've regretted not doing so if i hadn't. & all of yous that said i don't know how to 'play the game', i may not know how to play THAT game, but i do know how to play my own & do what i feel is right in that moment.

[*Uronacid*]

too late... hung out yesterday, didn't check what people said on this, should've taken a lot of your guys' advice.. *sigh. we made out.. but it was so hard not to, cuz we both hella wanted to. & you know what? i don't care if that makes me seem easy because i know i would've regretted not doing so if i hadn't. & all of yous that said i don't know how to 'play the game', i may not know how to play THAT game, but i do know how to play my own & do what i feel is right in that moment.

Oh my gosh... you may have just shot your baby relationship right in the foot.

[maximelids]

Hey making out is not such a BIG issue.
I mean if both parties feel it, than why not?
And they knew each other for 3 weeks.

I knew my girlfriend, long distant for months, until we met :)
And we made out on the first date, my relationship is perfect.

Does not mean that if that she made out on your first date, it's doomed to spoil the relationship or make her look cheap.

Making out is an expression of love between both parties. But, don't go 'too far, too soon.'

I wish you all the best in your relationship!
Max

[*Uronacid*]

Hey making out is not such a BIG issue.
I mean if both parties feel it, than why not?

Does not mean that if that she made out on your first date, it's doomed to spoil the relationship or make her look cheap.

Making out is an expression of love between both parties. But, don't go 'too far, too soon.'

I wish you all the best on your relationship!
Max

Haha, dude... I'm not sure if you just tell people what they want to hear or not... I agree, people can make out and it might be successful, but she asked our advice and it just so happens that most people on this website think it's better to hold out. XD

[maximelids]

Ps: Acid, you are at the tip of my tounge at the moment...
''Haha, dude... I'm not sure if you just tell people what they want to hear or not... ''
I know you do not like my advice, still you don't have to comment on each post i give. This is the third or fourth time!
I get you for godness sake!
Maybe you don't like it but others might find it useful. I'm sorry, different people have different point of views.

**People post here to get different point of views and ways to slove thier relationship problems.**

I give others 'advice' on past relationships I have been in and from experinces that my friends have shared with me.

If you follow love by rules, than so be it. To me love is boundless. Love is a thing that you cannot control. How can you say that on a first date, people cannot kiss. And those sets of rules, 'you cannot date your friend's ex'.
To me, all that is bullshit, no offence.
If your relationship/s worked around your golden rules, than good for you!
You got your set of gloden rules, I got my experinces and free mind.

It seems that you are the only one having a problem reading my advice.
If you do not like it, than just ignore it. Simple. Please stop challanging me.
Pff. thanks and don't bother replying..

[*Uronacid*]

Ps: Acid, you are at the tip of my tounge at the moment...
''Haha, dude... I'm not sure if you just tell people what they want to hear or not... ''
I know you do not like my advice, still you don't have to comment on each post i give. This is the third or fourth time!
I get you for godness sake!
Maybe you don't like it but others might find it useful. I'm sorry, different people have different point of views.

**People post here to get different point of views and ways to slove thier relationship problems.**

I give others 'advice' on past relationships I have been in and from experinces that my friends have shared with me.

If you follow love by rules, than so be it. To me love is boundless. Love is a thing that you cannot control. How can you say that on a first date, people cannot kiss. And those sets of rules, 'you cannot date your friend's ex'.
To me, all that is bullshit, no offence.
If your relationship/s worked around your golden rules, than good for you!
You got your set of gloden rules, I got my experinces and free mind.

It seems that you are the only one having a problem reading my advice.
If you do not like it, than just ignore it. Simple. Please stop challanging me.
Pff. thanks and don't bother replying..

Look, I don't know why you are upset. I did agree with you. I'm just being sarcastic/fun when I make up these rules. Really all I want to do is provoke thought, and see if you know what you're talking about.

My relationships do not work around goldenrules. Everperson in this world is raised differently and therefore needs a different type of love.

I do have a free mind, and I am willing to respond to the challanges that you present me with. I personlly welcome challange because it makes me a better person. I appologize for offending you by challanging you, but isn't it the challanges in life that make you a stonger person.

If I present this challange and you overcome it. You will not only change my beliefs (which I will greatly appriciate because I will learn something new), but you will also be more confident in yourself. To me relationships are like a science. I study books about them.

I would say attraction is uncontrollable. You can control your love for someone. People do it all the time by making choices that aren't loving.

I don't have a problem with your advice, but I'm unsure if you know what you are actually talking about. This is why I'm challanging you. I only want to further understand your piont of view. I don't find your advice to be bullshit.

The only reason I advised against kissing on the first date was to entice that dude to come back for more on a second date. People can kiss whenever they want.

If you are offended and want to PM me, then I am perfectly ok with that. You really shouldn't be though, I'm not a mean guy and will work things out if you like. ;]

[shortcake]

if youre gunna make out. at least wait till the end of the "date" and do it if he makes the move. & make sure its not the first thing on your agenda. k hope it helped =D

[mytangerine]

ok wow. thank you for all your advice. even if a few people were pretty damn rude about my situation. i honestly hate how people judge me by a couple sentences. i'm not a slut & do not appreciate being categorized as one by people who have no idea who i am. anyways, things are working out great between me & him now & making out felt perfectly normal to do. [it was by the end of the date btw] & we are going to continue dating.