'The one?', Hmm? Options

[iDecay]

Lately, I've been thinking.. I'm tired of people trying to find 'the one.' Because seriously, there is no such thing as that, IMO. I believe that you can be with anyone as long as you both want to make it work.

So, do you believe in "the one?" Or do you think it doesen't exist?

[multifaceted]

I don't even bother to look for it. I don't need it. I'm fine being by myself.

[pedophile]

I do think that there's such thing as the one, but I don't think it's like a soulmate. I see it more as the one you meet & pretty much fall in love with & are willing to spend the rest of your life with.
idk, it's complicated.

[iDecay]

I don't even bother to look for it. I don't need it. I'm fine being by myself.

That wasn't really what I was asking.. But alright.

I do think that there's such thing as the one, but I don't think it's like a soulmate. I see it more as the one you meet & pretty much fall in love with & are willing to spend the rest of your life with.
idk, it's complicated.

Couldn't you do that, then break up with someone, and then do that again?

[pedophile]

Couldn't you do that, then break up with someone, and then do that again?

lol yeah, but i guess it's that person who you don't end up breaking up with? idk.

[multifaceted]

Oh. Ok. I'll try again.

I don't think that there is just one of "the one" if that made sense. No one is perfect. There is always someone's personality that you like that your "the one" does not have.

If there is "the one" that is totally what you want, then it is very hard to find him/her. But if you do happen to find your Mr. Right, I congratulate you.

[karma_00001]

i do not believe in 'the one'. i do not believe in love at first sight but i do believe true love. love without meaning and love with bars. that's what i want in life. not 'the one' but 'a one'.

[michellerrific]

I don't think you'll ever find the 'perfect piece' but hopefully at least someone who gets along well with you. Theres a gazillion people in the world and that would be hard...

[me1issaaaa]

I most definitely do believe in finding "the one". I thought I'd already found him... maybe I have, I don't know. Things have been going downhill lately, but who knows how everything will turn out in a few years from now. I'm so anxious, I want to know how everything is going to be played.

[*stephinika*]

^^
Aw Melissa...

I do sortof believe in 'the one' but not completely in that fantasized way. I believe there's someone out there that can really match you and if you both work at it, can have a wonderful relationship and spend the rest of your lives together. *shrug* I can't explain what I'm thinking, hah.

[HakunaMatata]

I believe that there is a handful of people out there, out of billions, that could be the lifelong partner of each person. So instead of "the one", I guess I believe in the much, much less romantic version of "one of the few".

[danginja]

I'm to lazy to find the one I have more fun being on CB anyways!!! duh!

[*My Cinderella.*]

I kinda do believe that there is someone out there for you that would be "the one". I just don't understand how you'd know who it was. Well...in a way, I kinda think there could be many "ones".

[angelicpersonali...]

I do think that there's such thing as the one, but I don't think it's like a soulmate. I see it more as the one you meet & pretty much fall in love with & are willing to spend the rest of your life with.
idk, it's complicated.

[Kontroll]

I think there is the one for some people, but in our society today, it seems there's multiples for ever one. Haha.

[Jane Doe.]

I believe that you can be with anyone as long as you both want to make it work.

I disagree. Some are just so incompatible and so different that when trying to make a relationship like that work, well, it's hell. I've met people who have had disastrous relationships even though they tried for years.

Couldn't you do that, then break up with someone, and then do that again?

Again, I disagree. If one falls so deeply and is affected by the other so much then they may not be able to see someone like that again. 'The one' seems to imply some sort of fairy-tale romance but I think that actually, people just have to look and find the so-called perfect one rather than 'settling.' Settling being: forcing a relationship to work when it simply won't. But who may be that 'one' is hard to say, naturally. So in a way, yes, I do believe there is someone 'perfect' for me and others.. And I'm a huge skeptic and cynic so to get me to say that is..>.>

[Kontroll]

Couldn't you do that, then break up with someone, and then do that again?

Then wouldn't he be the second?

I guess it's a reletive question. Marriage is suppost to be sacred, but people treat it like crap these days. So, you really can't see the full effect of this question now adays. I guess if you went back sixty or seventy years you'd see a clearer picture.

It's not always about love. I mean, I know people who say that they love their spouse more and more each day. So, there definitely is love involved. But it's trust. Work...Sacrifice. Long Suffering. Not many people these days are willing to think about anything besides themselves. True?

[SimplicityGirl]

Yes and no.

Yes I believe that there IS someone out there who is very compatible with you. That there IS someone that will make you feel loved, safe, secure and cherished like no other person can. That there IS someone who complements you, their yin to your yan. That there IS someone whose chemistry just works with yours, whom you just can't seem to get rid of, whom you feel an unexplainable attraction to.

But no, I don't believe that we're all limited to one person. It all boils down to the right timing, place and person. And situations too. Take me and my first boyfriend. Sure we had the chemistry and the attraction going on, and sure at the time it felt like to me that he was "the one" for me. But it was at the wrong time, wrong situation. We weren't old enough to fully experience the fruits of love. We were rash, rushed into it not knowing what to do. And we broke up. Now as for me and my current boyfriend..the timing is a bit better, we've both been through one relationship, so we have experience and know how to deal with a relationship. We compliment each other. While I would not think of him as "the one" for me just yet, he is highly compatible with me, and I think, with a little bit of work, we may make it.

So while I think that there is someone who can be highly compatible with you and completes you, there isn't necessarily a specific person. Any relationship could work if both of you wants it to.

[iROCKYOURSOCKS]

i do believe that there is "the one" out there for everyone. of course its not going to be someone perfect, everyone has there downside but what really matters is that you love this person out of millions and milllions of people out in this world and you want to spend the rest of your life with them that pretty much sums up to me what "the one" is. Its just someone that you have really clicked with.

[ilauqh]

I believe there could be destiny like there's someone out there for you but it doesn't mean you have to follow it. Like my aunt, she never got married and she's in her late forties now and there was probably someone out there for her, willing to be in a relationship with her but she turned it down not realizing that could have been her life partner.

If someone is in a relationship and doesn't believe their current boyfriend/girlfriend, fiance, or even husband/wife is not the "one" and decides to breakup/leave the person because of that.. it's ridiculous. Just because destiny might not have you two as "meant to be together" doesn't mean you can't prove it wrong and a happy life together.

[DominicanaMel]

Lately, I've been thinking.. I'm tired of people trying to find 'the one.' Because seriously, there is no such thing as that, IMO. I believe that you can be with anyone as long as you both want to make it work.

So, do you believe in "the one?" Or do you think it doesen't exist?

I think there isn't just one "the one".....make sense? i've had a few relationships that seem like i've found "the one".....they had all the right qualities.....we all have our opinions of who "the one" should be like....when we think we found them, and then it doesn't work out, is who we think is "the one" actually the "wrong one"???????

"The Ones" counted: 4 >_<

[espressive]

Weird, I just wrote about this.

Anyways, I believe that society limits love to one, special individual that will basically prance into your life as seen through Shrek 2 or the famous icon, Cupid. The reality is that love is everywhere and anywhere but it is not enough to just desire it. Unfortunately, love doesn't present itself on a platter and you just "take it". We must seek it and plan to make it work. Love is a two-way effort. When 2 people share these beliefs and are willing to partake in the responsibilities, the devotion, and the sacrifices that love involve - this will be true love. But by my definition of true love, it is not necessarily the one that you will marry, because I think that true love is unlimited, if you wanted it to be.

So how do you know which one of your "true loves" is the one to marry? I don't know. You just asked me if I believe in "the one" or not.