annoyed with friends..., idk what to do.... Options

[xostolenkissezox]

so these past few weeks have been really hard on me. i've been in and out of the hospital and still have more time to spend in there for tests and stuff because there is a possibility i have multiple sclerosis or something else but still serious. the first night in the hospital one of my friends who i barely see came and sat with me for 2 hours and i really appreciated it. as for a few other friends who are supposibly my best friends and what not, are really starting to act like they don't care. they don't call to ask how i feel or anything but only to complain about their fight with their boyfriend or to talk about how much fun the club was and don't get me wrong, i have no problem with that when i feel alright but with everything going on, it's really the last thing i really wanna deal with and it just feels like they don't care. i obviously can't go to the club since i can barely stand without collapsing for more than a minute so i feel like she's calling and rubbing it in even though i don't think she means to. and as for the friend who complains about her boyfriend constantly, idk what to think on that one. i just don't know what to do because it's like people that barely know me care more than the people i'm with all the time. any advice on this would be helpful...thanks...

[*suddenly she*]

I do hope you're all right.

Anyway, your best friends seem to be drama queens who can't get over themselves... which typically don't make such good friends.

Hang out with the other girl more.

[OhMyAnniee]

Your friends may be in their own world, but they still came to see you.
I mean, that counts for something, doesn't it?

Just talk to them.
Tell them about how you feel. I'm not saying about like, how you feel about them but just about life. And everything that's going on.

[maximelids]

Hey I just hope that you would get well soon and I will continue to pray for you.

I was in hospital once, few years back. I did something real dumb and I had to stay a month there.
My life was totally messed up at that point of time, going out with the wrong company, doing dumb stuff and so much more, but i have learnt from experinces.


What I am going to share with you is not advice, but a smiliar thing that happened to me.
I went throught almost the same thing so I know how it feels.
I don't wish to brag, but I was quite popular in school, becasue I was the only European kid in school. I had many friends and I hanged out with the 'cool' bunch. I regarded them as my best friends.
After my accident, when I was in hospital, none of them came to visit me.
What really changed me, is that some of my classmates, which I avoided because they were branded 'nerdy' by the rest, actually came to visit me and spent hours next to me. We talked, laughed and they helped with with my school work.
Some even called at night to talk to me when I was alone.
Not even once, did my 'cool' friends visit or call me.
When was dis-charged and I went back to school, my 'cool' friends did not even ask me how I was.

Since than I started choosing my friends carefully.
It's life, some times, friends that we regard, turn out to be not friends when something happens. Switch off your cellphone, and get to know the girl that visited you more.
In life, it's better to have one really good friend than a whole bunch of 'cool' friends, like I had.
Today, I only have a few good friends. But I really treasure their friendship a lot.

I wish you all the best,
Max

[*Uronacid*]

This is exactly what I'm talking about when I say, "You never know who your best friend is." You would think that the friends you spend time with are the ones that care about you the most, but that's not always the case. People never really know who there best friends are until they are tested. In your case, you're in a hospital bed. A good friend would visit you, but people you thought would visit you didn't.

I hope you feel better.