Does this guy like me?, Bear with me...it's actually semi-interseting! :) Options

[michellerrific]

Sounds like he just wants to have you around to play with. You guys had sex like, ten times and THEN you guys finally talk about an actual friendship with respect? Unless you guys are turning into FWBs.

[*Uronacid*]

UPDATE TIME

I got a phone call from the guy last night--I was leaving a friend's house around 1:00AM and that's right about when he started calling. We hadn't done anything since the last time I posted [Monday, January 8]. He said he'd really like to see me and wanted me to come over to his place because they were having people over, drinking, etc...

I drive to his place, and we wait about an hour before we go into his room to have some fun. After that happens, we get dressed and go back out and mingle with everyone for another 30-45 minutes. Then we go back to his room for Round 2. After the second round, he's lying there and starts talking about how I'm too sweet of a girl to be messing around with a guy like him. Then he proceeded to tell me that we should stop having sex and establish a friendship and a mutual respect for each other, to which I asked, "Do you not respect me now?" to which he responded, "No, I DO respect you, it's just a completely different kind of respect..." [Whatever THAT'S supposed to mean!] Haha

To make a long story short, my best friend seems to think that was his way of hinting that he's developing feelings for me. There was more to his and I's conversation, but I'm too tired to write it all out!

We had sex again this morning because I crashed at his place. I ended up going to Walgreen's and getting Plan B [the OTC morning-after pill] because we slipped up last night. Keep your fingers crossed that I'm not pregnant!

Well, it sounds like he realizes that you guys are just f**k BUDDIES at the moment. I think that he wants to get to know you better. It sounds like he wants to get to know you better so he can see if he wants to establish relationship.

He probably doesn't have that much respect for you, and he wants to develop that respect. You don't get respect for someone by having sex with someone. You gain respect through time spent getting to know each other. Respect is earned, and not sexed.

I hope you aren't pregnant.

[letdramadie]

UPDATE

I think I have a UTI. I've had one before from not peeing after sex, so I know what to expect with one. They're so uncomfortable! I got a big 3L bottle of cranberry juice, and I have every intention of drinking the entire thing tomorrow! Also, I took the Plan B pills on Saturday, so I'm praying that they worked [if anything happened to have slipped up]. God knows I'm not ready for a kid, and I know what ya'll are going to say...

"If you're not ready for a kid, then don't be having sex...OR, at least be using some form of contraception."

We use condoms...99% of the time. I'm normally on the pill, but my cycle has been screwed up since I stopped taking them. I had been bleeding [graphic, sorry] for a month and a half straight when my doctor finally said to stop taking them.

I like him, I do. Yeah, it's one of those situations where it's a mutual understanding that we're just f**k buddies, but it's fun, and I'm completely comfortable with him. I don't see the problem with what we're doing as long as it's understood that neither of us expect anything. IF something were to start leaning towards a relationship, I wouldn't be against the idea, BUT I definitely don't expect it to lean that way anytime soon!

[letdramadie]

[LONG UPDATE FOLLOWS]

Hi everyone, I'm in over my head! If you aren't familiar with my story but are interested in helping,
#1. I appreciate it! but
#2. You miiiight want to read through my original post plus my updates so you have an idea of what's going on.

So my last update talked about how I had a UTI, which I did. I went to the doctor after not having a period for over 2 months and had everything checked out. The Morning After pill must have worked, because they gave me a pregnancy test, and it came back negative. The results for the UTI came back positive, so they put me on an antibiotic. Blah blah blah...

Moving on. I saw him on a few occasions during the month of February, but we didn't have sex. [Surprised? Me too!] I heard through the grapevine that he was "dating" a girl around Valentine's Day, even though both of their profiles said single. I figured that was the reason he hadn't called me to hook up.

The weekend after Valentine's Day, I went to a party and somehow ended up back at the f**k buddy's house...with a DIFFERENT boy! Nothing happened...I was drunk and he was taking care of me. We fell asleep together on the couch. Then, my f**k buddy walked in and saw me with the other guy on the couch, but he was too wasted to realize or care. Come to find out, he had brought a girl home with him from the bars anyways, so whatever.

Within a couple of days, I sent him a message saying that I wanted to get together because I was in need of some good booty, to which he replied, "What, wasn't Scott good enough?" [Scott=boy I fell asleep with on couch]. When I told him that nothing happened, he questioned me about another one of my guy friends, who he apparently thought I was dating or interested in. I proceeded to tell him that he's just a really good friend and that there was nothing romantic between the two of us.

Now, this is where I have to stop and scratch my head! Whyyyyyy would he care who I was talking to or getting booty from besides him IF he wasn't interested in me except for getting some sex?!?! To me, the fact that he took the time to question me about two different guys SCREAMS jealousy, because here I sit, fully aware that he's having sex with other girls while he continues to have sex with me, and yet, I DON'T QUESTION HIM ABOUT THOSE OTHER GIRLS! I'm in no position to dig up dirt on the other girls he's messing around with because we're NOT dating! If I were to ask him about the other girls he's been sleeping with, he would probably think I was starting to get clingy and jealous, but yet it's okay for him to do it to me? I don't think that's fair...

Needless to say, I didn't hear from him for a good two weeks after I explained that my guy friend and I are just friends and nothing more.

Then, out of nowhere, I get a call from him while I'm in class. It was on Wednesday [February 28th] and he wanted to get together. I told him I'd leave campus if he drove to my apartment, and he agreed. We did our thing and then took a shower together. Then he left and said he'd talk to me later. I followed him out, and joking around said, "So, you have any crazy girls on your tail?" to which he replied, "Yeah, you!" and I was like "Uhhh yeah right, pretty sure I'm the least crazy girl you'll ever meet!" to which he said, "Yeah, you're right about that. You're really good in that department!" Haha riiiiight...okay, moving on.

Last night I was drinking with some friends [one of them being the guy friend that he thought I was dating/interested in] and I texted him NOT thinking he would respond. It was around 2:30 AM, and all it said was, "i'm drunk, need sex ;)" and he responded with, "come over". Well, my friend doesn't know that I was the one who initiated the conversation, so he took my phone and hid it because he didn't want me leaving to go see him! He thinks that he's a piece of crap who treats me like dirt and he made me promise him that I wouldn't mess around with him anymore. Finally, he gave me my phone back around 4:45 AM and when I turned it on, my f**k buddy had sent a text that said "f**k u". I tried sending him a message earlier this afternoon explaining what had happened. I said, "Look, I was drunker than I thought and my friends didn't want me to drive so they hid my phone and keys so I wouldn't be tempted to leave...let me know when I can make it up to you."

Well, he read it [because I sent it to him on Myspace, and you can tell if someone reads a private message] and he hasn't responded yet. I'll give him the benefit of the doubt and say that he rarely responds back to private messages, but now I'm worried that he's not gonna want to hook up anymore. It'd be stupid if he decided to quit hooking up with me just because I didn't come over ONE night, but I guess we'll see...

Maybe I'll get another call while I'm in class! ;) That was freakin' hot! Haha

ALRIGHT, so HEEEELLLLLP!!!! I'm aware of the fact that he's just a f**k buddy, but do you think that him questioning me about other guys is a sign that he's starting to develop feelings for me?!? Remember also, this is the same guy that told me we shouldn't have sex as often anymore so that we could develop a friendship and build up some trust the last time we were together [the time I got the UTI/Morning After pill].

Any and all suggestions welcome!