i wanna be out going Options

[dave chapp]

hey im quite shy, im not a p***k tho i have loadsa mates but one on one situations are awkward i wanna be realy out going any ideas? thanks xxxxxxx

[*My Cinderella.*]

Well, I kinda have to agree with Suzzette. Once you're shy, its hard to break out of it. Maybe you should take up a new hobby or start to grow more outgoing when you go to family events. Socialize. Ask for a pencil tomorrow in math?

[iDecay]

Be yourself. That's all I have to say.

Moved to Relationships.

[mmhmichelle]

I was about to ask what started with a p and ended with a k and was so bad it had to be bleeped out.

[unconfirmed_exis...]

I think tic-tac's post the winning post by far.
I'm going to use your idea and build on it!

--->Be yourself, and maybe change will happen
by itself rather then you forcing it to happen.
Take it step by step.. Try to find a way so
that your shyness will work out for you.

But if you're in a rush to make things work for some reason,
you should start by taking up clubs or activities
or something that would require you to interact with others
in order to do well. From what I've experienced,
there's several success stories about kids that escaped
from their shell by finding their voice.

Eh.. That's all I could think up of. Good luck to you though!

[*a painefull euphoria*]

LOL @ you bleeping out "punk".

Okay, my advice is..................................................sorry, try something else. If you're not outgoing, you're not gonna become outgoing. Some people are just shy. Make it work for you, somehow. Because there is nothing worse than a fake ass person

honestly i thought he said prick.
and i agree with Suzzette. being outgoing can be taken as someone whos annoying and imature so its not something that can be faked beacasue fakers are usualy the ones who want atention and the atention they get is negitive.

[lexaa621]

hmm theres nothing wrong with being outgoing as many people seem to say. and just because you're shy doesnt mean you have to be shy for the rest of your life cuz "thats who you are." trying to become more outgoing is the same as trying to gain confidence, which is a good thing. i think its great that you wanna become more outgoing. basically, its something you have to work towards. you have to try to talk more, talk more confidently, think more confidently. my psychology teacher (he's like 28 right now) is one of the coolest, funniest, and most out-there teachers in the entire school and used to be extremely shy. once he got a job and went to college he started working hard to become more outgoing, and he was very successful. so if you wanna become more outgoing, just try harder to be outgoing. it'll be hard, but it should be worth it. just dont act arrogant or bitchy. but i doubt you'll have a problem with that. good luck

[*brownsugar*]

honestly i thought he said prick.
and i agree with Suzzette. being outgoing can be taken as someone whos annoying and imature so its not something that can be faked beacasue fakers are usualy the ones who want atention and the atention they get is negitive.

He probably did say "prick". I didn't even think of that. Both would fit

[multifaceted]

be yourself... if you're shy then be shy. the date should like you for you...

and you wouldn't want people labeling you as a wannabe or fake either.

[miiichellley]

i was wondering too what the heck was so bad it had to be bleeped.

anyway, the easiest way to start interacting with others is to strike up a conversation. talk to someone who's locker is next to you, sits near you at lunch, sits across from you in class, wherever you find them. and don't force yourself to start conversations. use a casual approach and act normally, as if you're chatting with someone who talks to you often.

[kimmytree]

LOL @ you bleeping out "punk".

Okay, my advice is..................................................sorry, try something else. If you're not outgoing, you're not gonna become outgoing. Some people are just shy. Make it work for you, somehow. Because there is nothing worse than a fake ass person

I guess thats true in a sense. A very shy person will never be extremely outgoing. Its like a wallflower magically turning into the class clown. Thats like jumping from one end of the spectrum to the other. But, its definately possible for a shy person to be somewhere in the middle.

I know exactly how you feel. I might have even been worse. Up until a year ago or so, I didnt want to even go to school because I was so shy / self conscious. I stuttered and freaked out just in basic conversation with my closest friends. I could barely raise my hand when the teacher would go through attendance. For me, once I gained some self confidence, I feel like I'm completely normal now. My problem was that I didnt think I was smart enough, that I was too overweight, and ugly. Usually when someone is really shy, its because they have problems with their self confidence.

^ And whatever those things are, realize that your probably completely blowing them out of porportion. And errr.... *thinks lol* be happy!

Ehh I'm not very good at giving advice.

[edit] Tomorrow at school, whether they're guys or girls, try having a brief conversation with 2 or 3 people that you usually dont or never talk to. Set a goal for yourself. Then over time, slowly increase your goals.

[mmhmichelle]

HE SAID PINK !

[AngelinaTaylor]

If you're not outgoing, you're not gonna become outgoing. Some people are just shy.

That's not true. I used to be super-shy when I was little, and now I bet many people pray I would shut up.

Just surround yourself with people as much as you can until you get used to it. And talk.

[*Uronacid*]

If you want to become more outgoing. Hang out with people that are naturally outgoing, participate in after-school activities (sports/clubs), or try doing things that will get you out of your comfort zone (example: make it a point to greet someone you have never talked to before).

The most important thing is that you never stop being yourself. People can sense aura of someone who isn't being themselves, and it's very unattractive and awkward.

On other thing, You said yourself that you have a lot of friends. Maybe people like who you are.

[*brownsugar*]

That's not true. I used to be super-shy when I was little, and now I bet many people pray I would shut up.

Just surround yourself with people as much as you can until you get used to it. And talk.

Maybe it's because you grew up into it. But once your character traits are set--they are pretty much that. Set. It is probably possible, but why try to be something else anyway?

[*Uronacid*]

Maybe it's because you grew up into it. But once your character traits are set--they are pretty much that. Set. It is probably possible, but why try to be something else anyway?

No necessarily, I mean you will probably never become as outgoing as someone who comes from that sort of background, but you can't practice your social skills and become more outgoing.

[*brownsugar*]

No necessarily, I mean you will probably never become as outgoing as someone who comes from that sort of background, but you can't practice your social skills and become more outgoing.

...What?

Do you mean "Can practice your social skills ?"

Anyways, you can try to be less shy but it's not going to be as natural as the person who is truly outgoing!

Angelina --
And talking a lot and being outgoing aren't the same thing. An outgoing person is confident, a good conversationalist, interesting and probably funny. People who talk a lot are annoying--not outgoing. Not to say you are annoying.

[*Uronacid*]

...What?

Do you mean "Can practice your social skills ?"

Anyways, you can try to be less shy but it's not going to be as natural as the person who is truly outgoing!

Angelina --
And talking a lot and being outgoing aren't the same thing. An outgoing person is confident, a good conversationalist, interesting and probably funny. People who talk a lot are annoying--not outgoing. Not to say you are annoying.

Right, but with practice it will become more and more natural.

[*brownsugar*]

How is something that you practice natural at all?

[yeah toast]

If by outgoing you mean to socialize more, then I would suggest going to sporting events, joining school clubs, and getting a job. It's weird because I used to be shy, but once I got a job I learned how to deal with a ton of different types of people. Also, I believe you learn how to socialize more (if it is a job where you are around people, of course)

[AngelinaTaylor]

Maybe it's because you grew up into it. But once your character traits are set--they are pretty much that. Set. It is probably possible, but why try to be something else anyway?

Yeah. I started getting out of it when I was 12-13. Maybe puberty.