I wanna get over this girl!, It's complicated... |
 Jan 14 2007, 12:02 AM
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 The Official Romanista  Group: Member Posts: 54 Joined: Jan 2007 Member No: 495,222  |
Ok, so I'm about to throw myself out the window...
I'll go slow and write it in steps because whenever I write about this, it gets so long and confusing, people don't get what's wrong. I am leaving the country in 2 months (late February, early March). It's more than 12 hrs of airplane away. I really like this girl. It's crazy, cuz I didn't notice her until she said my name in a cute voice, which lead me to believe she liked me. I like her, cuz she's into the same activities I am into (more specifically, soccer). One day when we were doing a project, I was on the PC and she grabbed my hand on the mouse and moved it to a link...so she wanted contact, I guess, since she could have just as easily pointed to the link. I am way to shy to to ask her out, cuz I fear rejection and being ridiculed in school for it. What I fear most about asking her out though, is that she might say yes, and then we'd have to break up when I leave, and hurt her too much. Hence, Ive come up with a solution, forget her, but I just can't. Everything keeps reminding me of her. She's also really good at catching your attention cuz every 4 seconds on AIM, she comes back from away, then goes away again with a diff away message. Point is, I JUST WANT TO FORGET ABOUT HER, but I've realized it's impossible almost. All that helps me is getting drunk, and that's not healthy! PS: She knows I'm moving, and since then she's slowed down on the talking to me...so idk if she's trying to forget me too. |
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Jan 14 2007, 12:19 AM
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Okay, I think you should get to know her some more if you really want something to happen, ask her about her views on relationships, maybe even long distance ones if you would ever think of having one if you truly cared for the person. If you really would like something to happen then just talk to her and perhaps something will happen and if you ask her views on the stuff above and she doesn't want to experience them then I give you the full opertunity to forget about her. But for the time being it doesn't sound like you really want to forget about her completely, so don't do it.
Although if you really find more cons in seeking a relationship with her than pros the only way you can truly forget about her is by: 1: Don't talk to her anymore, keep away from her more than usual because if you see her more and more your only going to get attached to her more. 2: I could possibly think of more ways, but everyones different and each person needs a unique way of getting over someone. |
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Jan 14 2007, 12:21 AM
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 I reject this reality and substitute it with my own! Group: Member Posts: 276 Joined: Dec 2006 Member No: 486,863 |
My advice: Enjoy what time with her that you have!
I've endured two cases where I liked a guy and the guy liked me but they had to move elsewhere soon. Did it matter to me? No. Did it hurt being close to them when they left? Yes. But they left me with beautiful memories so I would remember them by. Don't let this leaving issue get a hold of you. Yes the reality of the outcome of the relationship you have with her at the moment is cruel but seperating because of fear of "THE END" is not so wonderful either. In fact it should somewhat unpleasent if not irritating. Ignore the end, when it happens it'll happen. It'll hurt for a bit but if you do what I advise you it'll leave a tattoo of what wonderful things you done with her when you go on with your life no matter the outcome. |
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Jan 14 2007, 12:55 AM
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The Official Romanista Group: Member Posts: 54 Joined: Jan 2007 Member No: 495,222 |
Do u guys think she likes me?
Every time i talk to her on AIM, she responds...so idk if she's just a good person or likes me! She almost never pays attention to me in school...so what's the deal? |
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Jan 14 2007, 01:07 AM
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 my michelle. Group: Member Posts: 792 Joined: Oct 2005 Member No: 267,094 |
Well, maybe. Does she talk to you a lot, frequently at school in class or lunch or whatever? Not just online? At least it is proven that she is a good friend toward you. Since you're moving away though i suggest what unconfirmed_existance said, make the best of your time with her. There's a chance you might not see her for a long long time, sadly. But you will get over it, eventually. It's impossible to get over it right away, but don't worry. Time heals everything.
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Jan 14 2007, 01:09 AM
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The Official Romanista Group: Member Posts: 54 Joined: Jan 2007 Member No: 495,222 |
QUOTE(miiichellley @ Jan 14 2007, 1:07 AM)  Well, maybe. Does she talk to you a lot, frequently at school in class or lunch or whatever? Not just online? At least it is proven that she is a good friend toward you. Since you're moving away though i suggest what unconfirmed_existance said, make the best of your time with her. There's a chance you might not see her for a long long time, sadly. But you will get over it, eventually. It's impossible to get over it right away, but don't worry. Time heals everything. Yea, I'm sorry that u couldn't read my edit I'm drunk cuz of her, and I'm starting to hate it, usually it works against her, but she's figured out how to get to me even when I'm drunk. She pays no attention to me in school at all, I usually have to be the one that gets in the convo. |
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Jan 14 2007, 01:50 AM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 569 Joined: Dec 2006 Member No: 490,667 |
Well first off I don't suggest going about and start drinking over someone, thats a stupid excuse to blame it on her. Your choosing to do this. How old are you? If you guys are in college or high school atleast and she doesn't pay you any mind in school I would hope she doesn't like you, because whats shes doing would be considered pretty elementary to ignore the guy you liked.
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Jan 14 2007, 01:55 AM
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 101708 <3 (: Group: Member Posts: 253 Joined: Feb 2006 Member No: 382,431 |
Well in my opinion,you should just let whatever happens happen. If you wanna be with her, then be with her. If it's meant to be, it'll work out in the end [:
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Jan 14 2007, 02:05 AM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 113 Joined: Aug 2006 Member No: 453,426 |
dude just what i think but your walking into a wall dont do that cause if u cant forget her now its just gonna get harder and harder and your gonna start regretting things...just ask her out before you leave and tell her the way u feeel if that is the way u feel and just keep in touch and let it progress from there i guess what im trying to say is that
dont live with regrets and "what of's" cause it sucks.... |
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Jan 14 2007, 09:55 AM
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I think she doesn't like you very much. Maybe she's trying to be nice. I mean, why she doesn't talk to at school if she likes you.
Stop drinking and either try to forget her (it'd help if u deleted her from ur AIM buddy list) or enjoy these two months left with her. But i think u should just keep on talking with her and see how things will go. 
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Jan 14 2007, 10:40 AM
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The Official Romanista Group: Member Posts: 54 Joined: Jan 2007 Member No: 495,222 |
Ok, so what's the best way to wrap up confidence to ask her out? I think that after a soccer game that I've preformed really well would be the best choice, right?
Oh, also, she DOES talk to me in school (I was drunk, so I couldn't remember this) but she only does it whenever I'm not ready, or don't look as good as I should...lol, it's weird. |
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