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[JenxCrazii]

heyy...
a long time ago i used to be very popular and nice in a good way and everyone liked me. omg it was a great feeling.

then i started not to toalk soo muchh and be quiett..
teh only thing that made me well nown was nice ness and intelligence..

buhh now im kindaa losign friends and its hard to make friends..
i don't rally no what to do..

i don't want people to think im a loser or emo or a shy gurl..
&& its hard to talk to new ppl at schools and stuff cuz youhh can't talk in classes and someitmes a person may not have similar interests and you can be boring..

[Kontroll]

Um, start talking more. I know it's hard cause I'm pretty quitet myself, and I really only have like four really good friends. I don't really like meeting new people. I'm pretty much the same way you are now. Um, just talk to your friends. Tell them how you feel and what you're going through whether it be small or large. They're your friends and they should listen.

Another thing. This definitely will be a shock to your system and uncomfortable, but start being more active in things at school. Like, on a sports team or some stupid club. Just randomly start saying hi to people in the hall ways. Even if they give you a crappy look, it will start to get easier for you. Everything comes with practice. I'm learning that myself. Good luck Jen.

[*Uronacid*]

If you want to make some friends, you're :

- take part in an after-school activity (newspaper club, art club).

Participating in school activities is the easiest, and quite possibly one of the best ways to meet friends. You spend a lot of time with a group of people, and end up getting to know them.

As-far-as labeling goes, People are going to label you no matter what you do. If you're quiet it's probably the worst because people won't get to know you, and will evaluate/judge you without seeing who you really are or getting to know you. Don't sweat it, it's normal. I know you don't want this to happen, but there is nothing you can do about it. Just keep being yourself, and worry about the things that you can control. Do you really want to act like something you aren't just so you can have friends? No, believe me, you don't... because you'll regret it...

Um, start talking more. I know it's hard cause I'm pretty quitet myself, and I really only have like four really good friends. I don't really like meeting new people. I'm pretty much the same way you are now. Um, just talk to your friends. Tell them how you feel and what you're going through whether it be small or large. They're your friends and they should listen.

Another thing. This definitely will be a shock to your system and uncomfortable, but start being more active in things at school. Like, on a sports team or some stupid club. Just randomly start saying hi to people in the hall ways. Even if they give you a crappy look, it will start to get easier for you. Everything comes with practice. I'm learning that myself. Good luck Jen.

One thing that I didn't say (probably because I'm not a very quiet person myself), practice makes perfect... Jake's right, start doing things that will take you out of your comfort zone (like saying, "hi" or telling people how you feel). eventually you'll just get over it.

[multifaceted]

start cutting yourself and become punk and emo to fit in...

then rid of yourself of the habit and boom you've got friends

[*Uronacid*]

start cutting yourself and become punk and emo to fit in...

then rid of yourself of the habit and boom you've got friends

Haha, I have seen that... xD

This is a good example of sarcasm... this is what we are trying to prevent from happening...

The unfortunate thing about this statement is that... this happens a lot.

DON'T LET EMO HAPPEN TO YOU!

[_sarcastic_]

pretty much what Uronacid and JakeKKing said.
i just moved to California like at the end of summer so i'm kinda going through that making new friends thing... i joined like key club and a bunch of others and when my 2nd semester starts i'm going to be doing track. so hopefully i'll meet a bunch of new ppl
so yeah, you should join whatever club that interests you or if you're good at sports then join a school team.

[Kontroll]

start cutting yourself and become punk and emo to fit in...

then rid of yourself of the habit and boom you've got friends

Haha. That's a very interesting approach to this subject. The only thing though is that she'll have emo friends and no one likes an emo except for emo's. True dat?

[JenxCrazii]

lol. buh sometimes my friends are ditching me trying not to talk to me.
What are some interestign topics that i can talk to them about??

btw..im not emo..or goth;; some ppl think im goth jst cuz i like blck and skulls.
buhh if u look at mii clothes, you'll wonder how in the world is she goth.lmao. i never even said was!

&& i can't do those after school activities with friends and if i invite friends over; that can only be with a speical reason.

[Intercourselyts]

Uhm once you get to know the persons name just start talking to them. Even if its just how are you every now and then its better than anything. I would sterotype yourself as well, you don't really know if someone is going to think that about you. You need to have more confidence and just go out there and be yourself. And if being yourself is being quiet then you live with it. But from the sounds of it you want to have friends so go do it.

[*Uronacid*]

lol. buh sometimes my friends are ditching me trying not to talk to me.
What are some interestign topics that i can talk to them about??

btw..im not emo..or goth;; some ppl think im goth jst cuz i like blck and skulls.
buhh if u look at mii clothes, you'll wonder how in the world is she goth.lmao. i never even said was!

&& i can't do those after school activities with friends and if i invite friends over; that can only be with a speical reason.

Don't try and lure them in with interesting topics, just be yourself and you will find people with interests that are similar to yours... You're going to go through a lot of change in highschool. You may even loose friends. As scary as that sounds it's not all that bad. Their interests will change and so will yours, and there is nothing wrong with that. It's completely normal.

Well, don't worry about what anyone thinks. Wear what you want, and be confident in who you are.

I didn't say you should join a club with your friends... you should join a club to meet new friends. It's better to meet people that you can relate to. Plus, don't go into it for friends. Do the club thing for yourself. Pick something you think you might enjoy, and you will probably meet people because they will probably enjoy it with you. It will give you guys something to relate to. As your friendships develop, you will find more and more things to talk about. Don't rush friendship, it doesn't work that way. Good friends develop over long periods of time.

[show_me]

Don't sweat this kid.
Time passes, people change and you change too
Don't worry about pleasing certain people so much, I used to worry about why a lot of my guy friends were getting a little distant, its just because you're changing for the better..
I used to have a lot of guy friends all guy friends, now its just evennn and I'm starting to get pretty popular, don't sweat small things be yourself.
Don't worry about fitting in soooooooooooooooo much