Two Questions for Guys, Long-distance relationships and approval Options

[Psychotic-Freak]

Question One:
Do guys believe in long-distance relationships? Cuz there's this guy, and he lives about a five hour drive away, but we do see each other a few times a year, and it could be more if we were going out. Do you think this could work?

Question Two:
I know girls do, but do guys' friends have to "approve" a girl before he asks her out? Like, find out more about her to see if they would like it if they went out with their friend. Cuz a friend of this guy who I think might like me visited my xanga, and I'm not sure if it was just browsing or checking to see if he would approve of me dating his friend. Which is more likely?

[*I Shot JFK*]

well, my friend was in a long distance relationship, and they were very happy (they did break up in the end, but that wasn't to do with the distance so much as with him being a psycho). It's a personal thing, like any other relationship... Some relationships will work, some won't.

Well, I've never personally discussed 'approving' any of my friend's girlfriends, but it certainly helps if they all get along. to be honest, i would say he was likely just browsing. personally i wouldn't go out of my way to 'approve' a girl, but wait and see, and then deal with it if i thought there was an issue

[*krnxswat*]

Question One:
Personally speaking, of course, I believe in long-distance relationships! I am in one myself. Well, it's not exactly long-distance, but we're two hours away when I go back to college and we only get to see about once a month (excluding the breaks). I know it's only going to get harder once she goes to college as well though. In your case, five hours is a lot (atleast, for me). Also, considering you guys only see each other couple of times a year, that can be tough as well. However, I certainly believe you guys can work it out! As long as you guys communicate effectively and trust each other wholeheartedly, it'll be fine :)

Question Two:
He could've just visited your Xanga out of curiosity; to see what you are like. From my point of view, we don't necessary have to "approve" who our guy friend's are dating. We're not as vicious as them ladies ;) I wouldn't worry about it too much! However, it does help a great deal if you get along with his friends.

[Psychotic-Freak]

Thank you both. :)

[*I Shot JFK*]

No worries, and good luck!

I mean, obviously it will take work, but if the chemistry is right, it's going to be worth it!

[LostRenaissance]

yup mine last for almost 2 years we broke up cuz of schol reasons

[demolished]

Most guys are relaxed. We're not like most girls. We're not going to be like, " DONT f**kin DATE HER, SHE'S LIKE A BITCH TO ME, OMG, OMG OMG, HE GOT MEAN EYES, AND THE WAY SHE TYPE WAS RUDE. SHE MUST BE LALALALALALALALA .. EWWWW. ZOMG, PLEASE, DONT DATE HERR"


Please.

[miiichellley]

Long distance doesn't always work out unless you have the right commitment and trust and everything.

And the guy who saw your Xanga doesn't necessarily mean he's 'checking' you out. Don't jump to conclusions so fast. He could've just found your xanga off someone else's and was curious to see who it was.

[*Uronacid*]

Question One:
Do guys believe in long-distance relationships? Cuz there's this guy, and he lives about a five hour drive away, but we do see each other a few times a year, and it could be more if we were going out. Do you think this could work?

Question Two:
I know girls do, but do guys' friends have to "approve" a girl before he asks her out? Like, find out more about her to see if they would like it if they went out with their friend. Cuz a friend of this guy who I think might like me visited my xanga, and I'm not sure if it was just browsing or checking to see if he would approve of me dating his friend. Which is more likely?

Q1:
Yes, I'm in one and she lives 1000 miles away. We fly back and forth to see each other and take turns going to each others houses. 1 hour is not a long distance relationship. You could take a bus to see that girl any time you want, and it would probably cost you less than 40 dollars. Yes, it could definitely work, but the chances are very slim for any relationship working... especially at your age. You will probably go through at least 4-5 relationships before you find your one true love. That's just the truth.

Q2:
Yes they do. I do, but it's really just a joke. I like to see what they think, but it really doesn't effect my opinion of of my sunshine. I can form my own opinions, and he should be able to also. It's a good idea to get on his friend's good side though. It's never good to be hated by your boyfriend's best buddies.


As far as recieveing input from your friends:
In a long distance you're going to have to deal with skeptics all the time. As long as you are truly happy, stick with it. Listen to others and hear them out, but know where you stand and don't let their ideas mess with your head. You should be able to form your own opinions of people. Live your own life, don't let others live it for you. If he's good enough for you, then it doesn't matter what your friends think.

[*icecreamisyummy*]

I go with that ^

[AngryBaby]

question 2: guys arent like girls. we dont care about the girl our firend is dating, nor does the friend care what we think.

....unless that girl is ugly, then the guys might make some remarks

and oh will they make them

[MarcoDeSanctis]

5 hr drive? Honey, you and me greatly differ on the definition of "long distance"

[Kontroll]

Q1:
Yes, I'm in one and she lives 1000 miles away. We fly back and forth to see each other and take turns going to each others houses. 1 hour is not a long distance relationship. You could take a bus to see that girl any time you want, and it would probably cost you less than 40 dollars. Yes, it could definitely work, but the chances are very slim for any relationship working... especially at your age. You will probably go through at least 4-5 relationships before you find your one true love. That's just the truth.

Q2:
Yes they do. I do, but it's really just a joke. I like to see what they think, but it really doesn't effect my opinion of of my sunshine. I can form my own opinions, and he should be able to also. It's a good idea to get on his friend's good side though. It's never good to be hated by your boyfriend's best buddies.
As far as recieveing input from your friends:
In a long distance you're going to have to deal with skeptics all the time. As long as you are truly happy, stick with it. Listen to others and hear them out, but know where you stand and don't let their ideas mess with your head. You should be able to form your own opinions of people. Live your own life, don't let others live it for you. If he's good enough for you, then it doesn't matter what your friends think.

Haha. Question two is funny. I never ask my friends what they think about the girl I'm interested in. I tell them about her, and they always fill me in about what they think, but I never ask. For the most part. haha. Like he said, it's pretty much a joke. That's how we feel about it, but we're good friends. So, it might be different in other areas, but around here, guys don't give a crap. As long as it's not their exgirlfriend. >.<

[heyjoy]

Q1- im in a long distant relationship now and i used to be so against it but if it happens it happens right? so im totally into him and im gonna try my best to make it work and he tells me the same so as long as you guys put the effort or have the trust and it should be fine. it'll get hard but what relationship isnt hard? he lives in FL while im up in NY.

[Mikhayl Wilson]

In my opinion, relationships depend on the maturity of the couple. If they are mature, then most likely... the relationship will work out. In my opinion a long distance would make your partner more precious. You wouldn't get to see him/her as much as normal close-distance relationahips making it all the sweeter to see him/her.