Does this guy like me?, Bear with me...it's actually semi-interseting! :) Options

[letdramadie]

I'll try to keep this as brief as possible, but bear with me!! Please read the post in it's entirety and write your honest opinions!!! :]

Mid-October:
Meet guy. Talk on phone for 2 hours. 2 nights later we hang out. Go back to his place. [You may now use your imagination as to what happened when we went back to his place, and I'm sure whatever you're able to conjure up DID, in fact, happen...] {That was me politely saying that I slept with the guy...JUST INCASE you didn't catch on}

Moving on...

Didn't hear from him for a week or so, then out of the blue, he texted me. Mmmk, cool.

We kept in touch on Myspace, but our conversations were always directed towards meeting up again and repeating what happened on the first night...

December 7:
Called me during the afternoon to "meet up" <--we'll just call our rendevouzs that from here on out...okay? I couldn't drive to see him, though, because my parents were coming into town and I had previous engagements

December 12:
He came over to my place because I had to help him with an assignment...fair enough, I REALLY DID help him with the assignment. Of course, we had a little fun afterwards, and he ended up spending the night at my place. I had a final the next morning, so he left with me when I had to leave for class. He kissed me goodbye, and that was that.

December 16:
He called me. He HAD been drinking, but he wasn't so wasted that he couldn't control himself. Wanted me to come over. I drove to see him and we ended up having some fun. I got up to leave, and he seemed almost BITTER at the idea of me getting up to leave, but I had just assumed that he called me for one thing, and one thing only. We ended up cuddling and falling asleep. I woke up 2 hours later and realized I had fallen asleep, so I got up and left.

WENT HOME AFTER FINALS FOR CHRISTMAS BREAK

He called me on 12/28 or 12/29 to see what I was doing, but I told him I was still at home. He said he was driving back to our college town after being back to his hometown for a few days and told me to give him a call when I got back in town.

I called him yesterday because I came back to our college town for a few days [mainly for New Years]. He sounded TOTALLY UP to hang out, but he was going to go to a movie first. He said he'd call me afterwards. Never got a call.

Sent him a message on Myspace saying that I'll be here until the 2nd and that I'd like to "meet up" before I have to leave for home again [if possible]. I know he read it because on Myspace, you're able to tell if someone has read a private message you send to them. So he read it, but hasn't replied.

It's obvious that I wasn't just a one-night stand since we've met up on 3 different occasions, but I'm starting to wonder if this guy thinks there's more to us than messing around...??? My philosophy on guys getting some JUST to get it is this:
-They would get it and immediately leave or find an excuse to make me leave. [Well in my current situation: the first time he told me I could stay, the second time he stayed at my place, and the third time I fell asleep at his place....]
-They wouldn't just call out of the blue to talk. [But in my situation, he called me on the road, and he didn't seem to have anything in particular to talk about. He knew I was at home, and was wondering when I'd be getting back to town, but nothing was really said about "meeting up".

I'm confused. I'd really appreciate the GUYS' HELP, since you might be able to tell where this fella's comin from....ya'll have the testerone runnin in your veins....give me some insight.

Am I crazy to think he's developing SOME SORT of feelings for me????

(I know it's like a diary entry, but I remember dates well...especially when it comes to stuff like this, and especially since it hasn't been but 2 weeks since we last "got together")

[bambamboozle]

He's using you.

It looks like its you who has the feelings and thats why you're giving him the benefit of the doubt.
Basically he's just going to call you to "hang out" 'cause even though he makes it sound innocent, he knows what its going to lead to.
And since he wants to "meet up again" its not like hes going to toss you out/leave afterwards.

If you don't want him as just a hook up buddy, you should end it.

[Die romantic]

Yea, I think he's using you..sorry :[

[asung88]

yup hes using you.

[malimars]

omg yeah he is using you and if you cant see that your just a booty call to him well thats not good , everytime you two met up you 2 fooled around why cant you two just hang out?. Sorry but you need to ditch him!

[showstopper!]

You guys have already met each other a few times. He is mos def using you. Sorry dear, but just tell him enough. He just wants to sleep with you.

[voguelove]

wtf..you slept with him after the first night?

it's just a booty call.

[-sincerely]

you slept with him after only talking to him on the phone for two hours?
he's using you, though. no doubt about it.

[letdramadie]

^^^Hey everyone, thanks for your brutally honest opinions!^^^

I never doubted that he was using me...I just needed to hear it from someone other than a friend, who obviously tend to sugar-coat things a bit in a situation such as this.

The guy and I got together again last night...and again this morning. I stayed there. Needless to say, we brought the NEW YEAR in with a bang...literally.

[*suddenly she*]

Do you just want to be used? Or are you the sort that just wants a fcukbuddy?

FRENCH CONNECTION UNITED KINGDOM

[itsnever4ever]

^^^Hey everyone, thanks for your brutally honest opinions!^^^

I never doubted that he was using me...I just needed to hear it from someone other than a friend, who obviously tend to sugar-coat things a bit in a situation such as this.

The guy and I got together again last night...and again this morning. I stayed there. Needless to say, we brought the NEW YEAR in with a bang...literally.

so do you really even care that he's using you or what?
cause it seems like you guys don't really even have a relationship like can't you ever just go get something to eat or go bowling or just hang out? is your relationship only sexual?

[*a painefull euphoria*]

sorry hun its just a booty call.

[letdramadie]

so do you really even care that he's using you or what?
cause it seems like you guys don't really even have a relationship like can't you ever just go get something to eat or go bowling or just hang out? is your relationship only sexual?

As of late, yes, our relationship is strictly sexual. I guess the correct term for what he is would be a 'f**k buddy', like a few people have already mentioned above. It's not that I DON'T care that I'm being used, but aren't I just using him too?

I'm not saying I don't like the guy...he's a lot of fun, and we obviously have a lot of [sexual] fun when we're together, but we also joke around aside from having sex. I don't know...he's only the second guy I've slept with. It was completely UNLIKE me to just give in to having sex with him on the first night. I've said "NO" to plenty of guys in the past, so I don't know what made me incapable of telling this one "NO".



Again, thank you for all your opinions and advice. It means the world.

[xmoon_lightx]

maybe hes just think over about what he did.

[*Uronacid*]

He may be developing feelings for you, but personally it sounds like he's just using you. It seems like every time you hang out you guys have sex.

Who did he goto the movies with?

Maybe he found a new F*** BUDDY!

[ReggieM]

i want to see how he looks like.

[LostRenaissance]

ditch'em cuz he's playing around with u

[ReggieM]

all u have to do is rinse and repeat

[*x1227x*]

he's using you for a booty call.

[multifaceted]

he just thinks you as a toy honey. sry.

[letdramadie]

He may be developing feelings for you, but personally it sounds like he's just using you. It seems like every time you hang out you guys have sex.

Who did he goto the movies with?

Maybe he found a new F*** BUDDY!

Hey everyone, it's me again! I haven't checked this since the last time I posted [January 2] so needless to say, I had a few more replies to read.

In response to the quote posted from Uronacid, he went to the movies with his MALE friend, and his friend's mom, so I don't THINK he went with a new f**k Buddy! Haha However, he HAS been open with me about how he has slept with other girls since the first time him and I had sex. What can I do, though? I can't stop him...we're not dating!

Him and I hung out again today...it was the first time since New Years Day. I had gone back home, and he went out of town as well. I left him a message asking if he wanted to hang out and maybe have a littlte fun [therefore, I initiated it!] He called me, drove over to my place, and we had a little fun before I had to go to work.

That's the only updates I have for now. I plan on going to get tested for HIV/STDs in a few months. I figure if he's sleeping with other girls [I have to give him SOME credit for being honest with me about it!] then I'd rather be safe than sorry. If I go get checked too soon, I might run the risk of any STDs not showing up because it's too soon to detect!

Thanks for all the comments! Ya'll are great!

[Kontroll]

No, he hates you. He's just afraid to tell you. Ha.

[RAWRxhardcore]

it sounds to me like hes using you...

it seems to me that after you guys hooked up he thought that he 'had' you uk? and so thats why he kindah ignored you at first that next week. now it just seems like he calls you to have sex. and hun no one deserves to be used like that NOBODY.

hope it all works out for you

[letdramadie]

UPDATE TIME

I got a phone call from the guy last night--I was leaving a friend's house around 1:00AM and that's right about when he started calling. We hadn't done anything since the last time I posted [Monday, January 8]. He said he'd really like to see me and wanted me to come over to his place because they were having people over, drinking, etc...

I drive to his place, and we wait about an hour before we go into his room to have some fun. After that happens, we get dressed and go back out and mingle with everyone for another 30-45 minutes. Then we go back to his room for Round 2. After the second round, he's lying there and starts talking about how I'm too sweet of a girl to be messing around with a guy like him. Then he proceeded to tell me that we should stop having sex and establish a friendship and a mutual respect for each other, to which I asked, "Do you not respect me now?" to which he responded, "No, I DO respect you, it's just a completely different kind of respect..." [Whatever THAT'S supposed to mean!] Haha

To make a long story short, my best friend seems to think that was his way of hinting that he's developing feelings for me. There was more to his and I's conversation, but I'm too tired to write it all out!

We had sex again this morning because I crashed at his place. I ended up going to Walgreen's and getting Plan B [the OTC morning-after pill] because we slipped up last night. Keep your fingers crossed that I'm not pregnant!

[Hiphop d[-_-]b]

You're over analyzing everything. He's realized that whenever he calls you, you let him f**k. Whenever you call him, you let him f**k. Either way, he's just using you to f**k.


OR I could be wrong.