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 Dec 23 2006, 02:43 PM
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So here's the thing. My sister's 27 and i'm 15. I never really bonded with her like other sisters did because of the obvious age gap. I'm starting to think that it's maybe time to bond with her like that. I couldn't before because..maybe I wasn't mature enough to understand everything she did. Better late than never, right? Anyhow, I'm kind of apprehensive about this since she might tell my parents about what really happens in my life and how I feel. It's not that I don't want my parents to know (I don't care if they know) - I'm just afraid that they won't understand. (Don't even tell me that they do.) I'd like to talk to her and get to know her a little better as a sister and a friend, but I'm not exactly sure as to how to do this. She'd always come visit and joke around by asking me if I had a boyfriend and I'd always say no...yada yada. She reads my xanga sometimes [and I don't exactly like that idea, but I deal] and I found hers. She doesn't write much, but I found her boyfriend's too. He seems to write a lot about their relationship so I skimmed through it. She's had quite a few boyfriends, but I never really asked about them. It wasn't really any of my business. It seems like she's ending another relationship (6 month) and tearing the guy apart. It sure does sound like something I'd go through. I think I'm a lot like my sister when it comes to relationships with the opposite sex. I'd like the sisterly advice and whatnot. Well anyway, sorry for going into a ramble. I guess all I really want to know is how to spark it. Should I email her? Talk to her in person? Just...randomly bring it up?
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Dec 23 2006, 02:55 PM
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Just randomly bring it up. When she asks you if you have a boyfriend, ask her.
I don't think that she'd tell your parents. She knows what it's like to be a teenager and probably understands that you need someone to trust. If you want to get to know her better, call her everyday and talk to her more often. Joke around with her, ask her how her relationship is going. You may think that it's none of your business, but sooner or later, once you guys establish a strong connection, she'll come to you for your advice/opinions. |
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Dec 23 2006, 03:09 PM
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Tell her what you just wrote.
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Dec 23 2006, 03:54 PM
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 Oh Wow ... Group: Official Designer Posts: 688 Joined: Sep 2006 Member No: 468,522 |
i had the same thing but with my cousin. i was just like hey can you teach me how to do my make up? and hten we bonded after. do something like that. be like hey i wanna find a really nice dress for i dunno a dance or say for a party, ask if she can help you go shopping? that way. i dunno something like that maybe; if you wanna see her in person.
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Dec 23 2006, 04:30 PM
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Maybe you should share first? It'll make her feel more comfortable that your making the change. Just ask for her advice. I suggest starting in an email (or IM?) first because usually people are more comfortable with themselves online. And you can just say something like, "There's this guy I know, and ............. but I just don't know. Anything like that ever happen to you?" Something along those lines?
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Dec 24 2006, 12:41 AM
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look for the stars as the sun goes down Group: Member Posts: 493 Joined: Aug 2006 Member No: 453,963 |
does she try to bond with you even? if she do3esn't even try and she doesn't even try to get to know you then forget it.
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