Confused, friends or lovers? Options

[xmoon_lightx]

Well my bf hes really sweet and eveything buh then hes never really there when i need him the most. like when my parents fight. and i dont feel comfortable when talking with him while theres this other guy he's really kind to me always there to give me an advice. and i always call him dear and say stuff like i <3 yu and sometimes i actually mean it T_T. while when im with my bf my heart doesnt feel all jumpy and stuff like how most girls say that yur suppose to feel. :\. and the other guy he makes me feel safe. when im cold he wrap his arms around my shoulders. and when i hangout with him it always makes me feel like im cheating on my bf. cause my bf and i was never alone theres always some-1 there. while me and the other guy we hangout like once or twice a month ALONE. my bf is like the gangster type while my friend is like the quiet type.
Who should i choose my bf or my friend who i think much more then just a friend?
I still love my bf dearly buh then i dont show it ;x

[*a painefull euphoria*]

i think this is something you have to really sit down and think about.
it seems like your friend is the better choice

[love-issosweet]

hmm. from your perspective, it seems that your relationship with your bf seems kinda awkward. so basically, i would your guy friend but you might want to wait it out a little bit because your feelings for your friend might be a phase.

[malimars]

Seems as if you have strong feelings for your friend. I was in your situation and realized it was only a phase i went through as well I did the same as you and almost left my boyfriend thank god I didnt because I would truly regret it and you probably will too! and does your guy friend even like you like that or just being a really good friend he kinda shows signs he likes you but that shows signs he is just being a good friend to you! I dont know I say you hang out with your boyfriend ALONE more often and see if things are still the same GUYS ARE SO DIFFERENT AROUND THEIR FRIENDS OR ANYONE all us girls know that though lol! and if things still remain the same try it out with your guy friend!

[OhMyAnniee]

But you would need to know if your friend felt the same way you do about him. If he doesn't, why ruin your great relationship with him? As for your boyfriend, you should talk to him. Let him know how you feel. If you say something about your parents and he doesn't care and lashes out at you, dump him! You'll probably be sad but hey, you still got your friend that'll be there for you.

[xmoon_lightx]

Well ts not like me and my bf can ever be alone he has to go striaght home after school so theres like no way for us to hangout T_T. and when we do go to the movies together sometimes we even have to pretend we dont noe each other cause his parents sometimes come and his parent doesnt want him dat8ing at such a young age

[raenbow*]

I was sort of in the same situation... and I went for my friend. I felt more of a connection with my best friend than my bf and I denied it for a long time. I'm not saying that's what you should do, but for me I could not be happier with my friend/bf right now. The only problem was I broke my ex's heart even though I seriously tried my hardest not to. I am still regretful and guilty for that to this day, and forever. So basically, if you go for your friend, be gentle w/ your boyfriend - its obvious, but its hard to do.

[*Infinite.*]

If your even questioning your relationship then I suggest just going ahead and getting out of your relationship, from the sounds of it you've kind of made up your mind and you don't want to be in the relationship because your not exactly happy anymore in it.

It was a learning relationship, it ends and you move on. -shrugs- Your young more than likely, and if you have already thought it out pretty well, then you don't really need our opinions. If you want to be happy and thats by being with the friend then go for it.

I'm sure your boyfriend would rather you be happy then be in a relationship with him and be sad.

[*Uronacid*]

^yeah exactly

It sounds like you've already made up your mind, and your asking us to see if it's "OK". Honestly, I don't think that you love your boyfriend if your confessing your "love" to some other guy...

[*suddenly she*]

i'm pretty sure the word "but" is spelled "but."
JUST SAYING!

a boyfriend not being there for you when you need it isn't much of a boyfriend, or a friend at all.

you don't sound very secure in your relationship (with your boyfriend).
= failure.

do you know if your other friend sees you as a sister or not?
and do you think your current boyfriend would rip the guts out of your other friend if you started something?

[xmoon_lightx]

i think that my bf would start a fight with my friend even though he hardly even noes him.

[*suddenly she*]

then if you want your buddy beat, go straight ahead and get with him.

and it sounds like you should break it off with your boyfriend. who wants a boyfriend who'll start fights with people they barely know? seriously.

[show_me]

Stay with your boyfriend, He'd kill your friend if he found out!

[Mr. Slowjamz]

i say switch to the other and tell your bf its not really working out.