freshman and senior?! Options

[-sincerely]

^ yeah, true. it's like a you-can't-jump-to-conclusions-thing.
not saying you were jumping.

[sarangxai]

well acutally it wouldn't odd. because you'd never know if they were just friends then then the girl went to high school and hung out with him and they probably grew feelings for each other now than before.

Yeah, that's true, but I don't see how a junior in high school could get to be friends with someone in middle school. I guess, it'd be possible, but if I was still in high school and one of my guy friends told me he was friends with a girl in middle school, I'd be like .

[-sincerely]

Yeah, that's true, but I don't see how a junior in high school could get to be friends with someone in middle school. I guess, it'd be possible, but if I was still in high school and one of my guy friends told me he was friends with a girl in middle school, I'd be like .

eh, that's not bad. kinda.. i consider somebody wayyy older than me my friend.

[*a painefull euphoria*]

Well a (guy) friend once told me...

"When you're a freshman, don't date anybody older than a sophomore because they'll probably expect sex."

anyone in that teenage age group u can expect for some guys to expect sex.

[shorty373]

so yeah ok sweet_suicide your kinda...take that back you ARE really on my nerves!! i can tell you have no idea what you are talking about!! see i'm a senior/freshman relationship and well quite frankly i see nothing wrong with it!! see we met in a class a school that was mostly older people so yeah the younger ppl had no choise to talk to the older ones...well any ways we got to knop each other and we just clicked. and he doesnt push for sex...as a matter of fact i told him before hand thati just wasnt ready for that and we were both a-o-k with it!! see let me help you out just a little hun...most freshmen guys are way more ready to have sex, and are willing to push for it because they haven't had it yet and they feel as though it is something that they have to do!!(which is so LAME !!). trust me i kno them and that is all they talk about...like 90% of my friends are guys!! i think some times it wont work but if you really love each other then it can...see just because it is difficult doesnt mean you should give up!!
and before you say any thing about this...i know you are intitled to your own opinion but you dont have to shut others down every chance you get!!**your mind is like a parachute...works best when it is open **
so to any one who is in/ wanting to be in a senior/freshman relationship- it is a challenge but it can happen--i know first hand!! but is rather difficult but have fun...it is not your fault that you wernt born sooner or them later some things you cant control...but what is ment to be will be!!

[youlovejade]

well i am a freshman but i still feel immature compared to a senior even though i drink, i've done drugs (pot, coke, ecstacy), but i'm pretty much beyond all that now. and i'm a virgin.

i am interested in a guy that is also interested in me, and he is a senior. we already both quit drugs TOGETHER, but he isn't a virgin and i am. i intend to keep m virginity, too because i think it is empowering, but other than that i feel more mature than my age and even people in their 30's see it. i hate to fall into that catergory that people keep talking about. the "i act older than i am" bullshit, but i guess its inevitable for me to not be considered that.

the senior guy sees my maturity in me as well, and i believe that is why he is attracted to me. we are so simular in the way we think, so it might work out, but i really can't be sure. both of us are afraid of relationships because i know i am too young for a serious relationship, and he has had bad relationships in the past and now he sort of thinks all girlfriends want to use him for sex, so i am almost sure that he won't pressure me into anything like that, not that i would give in.

what i am trying to say is it really depends on the people that are dating. the maturity level is VERY extreme in my opinion, but that could help both people grow.

[-sincerely]

he doesnt push for sex...as a matter of fact i told him before hand thati just wasnt ready for that and we were both a-o-k with it!!

that's good.

[SkittleyDoo]

It's fine but from what I've noticed before, it rarely ever works out because the two people are in really different points of their life.

[sarangxai]

so yeah ok sweet_suicide your kinda...take that back you ARE really on my nerves!! i can tell you have no idea what you are talking about!! see i'm a senior/freshman relationship and well quite frankly i see nothing wrong with it!! see we met in a class a school that was mostly older people so yeah the younger ppl had no choise to talk to the older ones...well any ways we got to knop each other and we just clicked. and he doesnt push for sex...as a matter of fact i told him before hand thati just wasnt ready for that and we were both a-o-k with it!! see let me help you out just a little hun...most freshmen guys are way more ready to have sex, and are willing to push for it because they haven't had it yet and they feel as though it is something that they have to do!!(which is so LAME !!). trust me i kno them and that is all they talk about...like 90% of my friends are guys!! i think some times it wont work but if you really love each other then it can...see just because it is difficult doesnt mean you should give up!!
and before you say any thing about this...i know you are intitled to your own opinion but you dont have to shut others down every chance you get!!**your mind is like a parachute...works best when it is open **
so to any one who is in/ wanting to be in a senior/freshman relationship- it is a challenge but it can happen--i know first hand!! but is rather difficult but have fun...it is not your fault that you wernt born sooner or them later some things you cant control...but what is ment to be will be!!

How do you know how I have no idea what I'm talking about?

I'm quiet a few years older than you and I have been called mature my whole life, but as I look back at when I was 14/15... there is just too much I did not know simply because that is such a young age, where I was just becoming a teen. That is true for every person. No matter how mature you are, it won't add on any years to your life.

When I was a freshmen in high school, I so called "dated" older people. They did not use me in any way and we are all still on ok terms today. However, there is a reason why such relationships are debated about over and over again.

The physical and emotional aspects are far off, even if they do not always appear to be so. I'm not trying to convince people to believe what I believe, but I am trying to get the 14/15 year olds to realize that there are still many years of learning to go through.

[Lamar]

You know you should do what your heart desires because thats what makes you special!

[shorty373]

How do you know how I have no idea what I'm talking about?

I'm quiet a few years older than you and I have been called mature my whole life, but as I look back at when I was 14/15... there is just too much I did not know simply because that is such a young age, where I was just becoming a teen. That is true for every person. No matter how mature you are, it won't add on any years to your life.

When I was a freshmen in high school, I so called "dated" older people. They did not use me in any way and we are all still on ok terms today. However, there is a reason why such relationships are debated about over and over again.

The physical and emotional aspects are far off, even if they do not always appear to be so. I'm not trying to convince people to believe what I believe, but I am trying to get the 14/15 year olds to realize that there are still many years of learning to go through.

[font=Times New Roman] mmk well let me see did i ever say i was mature for my age...NO. although i kinda am. see i kno that we are not the same b/c he is older than me...i'm also aware that we aren't on the same level. but what i do kno is thatwhen were together it is as if nothing else matters. and it is not the 14/15 year olds at fault...you say we have a lot of learning to go through still and i 100% agree with you, but if an older person likes us then we cant help that so it is not just us!! you should address both parties in a relationship

[sarangxai]

[font=Times New Roman] mmk well let me see did i ever say i was mature for my age...NO. although i kinda am. see i kno that we are not the same b/c he is older than me...i'm also aware that we aren't on the same level. but what i do kno is thatwhen were together it is as if nothing else matters. and it is not the 14/15 year olds at fault...you say we have a lot of learning to go through still and i 100% agree with you, but if an older person likes us then we cant help that so it is not just us!! you should address both parties in a relationship

I respect completley what you're saying and I realize the older person is in it too. Alot of times, it's the older person that has more issues though.. haha

It's just a bit annoying to hear a 14 year old elevating themslelves to the maturity of someone who is 25 or something.

[-sincerely]

^ it would be 14 and like 17.

[laurie_]

There's really nothing wrong with it.. I guess.
I [am a freshmen] & was kind of with a senior at the beginning of the year..
but it didn't quite work out because of our differences.

I don't think that age should become a barrier in any situation.
If you really like someone, who they are or what they are wouldn't matter.

Well a (guy) friend once told me...

"When you're a freshman, don't date anybody older than a sophomore because they'll probably expect sex."

Not all Juniors/ Seniors are sex pervs.

[femmefatale4160]

I don't think the difference is that big.
Actually, I find it normal.
I've seen 16 year old girls with 35 year old guys, so.. yeah.

Um, ew. That's what we Yankees like to call illegal.

[unconfirmed_exis...]

I think it depends on the people involved really..
Age shouldn't really matter too much with a 4 year difference.

My sister and her current boyfriend used to be boyfriend and girlfriend
sometime in high school, she was a freshman and he was a senior..

It lasted until sometime past their first year in college
when my sister decided to make some foolish mistakes..
But they're back together now (after at least 10 years of seperation)
and they seem pretty happy even with the mess of trouble that
happened during the 10 years of being away from each other.

[brokenxwingsx]

I suppose it could work, but it's very unlikely. Think about it. What's a freshman to do with a person that's at a totally different point in their life? Just starting high school and almost moving onto the next phase of one's life is kind of hard. At a different age, it's fine. Like 24 and 28 or something. But..it's a little weird in hs.

Most seniors just want to get in young girls' pants anyway.

[-sincerely]

^ not all.
and there's still probably some stuff they share in common.

[xmoon_lightx]

I htink yu should get to know the guy more b-4 yu actually date him b/c who noes how they really are like? =]

[shorty373]

well here i am to swallow some pride and admit defeat. senior and frosh relationships are oh so complicated!! sure the person is so great adn you love them with all your heart, but that isnt always enough...trust me i wish more than anything that i could say that it would be enough but i cant truthfully say that. see i was in a senior/frosh relationship until today and well right now things pretty much suck!! before you date an older guy make sure of a few things that you can talk to each other(not the prob. for us) you know them pretty well(still not our problem) and that your parents are okay with it...if they are not at least make sure you will be able to see them some where besides school(this is where the problem occured). so today started our christmas break...because we exemted finals so we dont have to come next week!! but that ment 3wks without seeing each other!! i was really worried, i know he goes to parties and stuff with his friends and i was scared he might cheat on me or maybe just stop liking me(even though he swore he never would, 3wks is just a long time). so please before you get involved or attached make sure you meet all of these requirements!! because i feel horribly crappy and like part of me died

and that is with a clean break up!! see i waited till the last second. it was after the bell rang to go home!! we were about to part in the hall and i was like do you want to break up over the holiday and he was like if you do and i was like well we wont be able to see each other and he was like the thought crossed my mind to and he goes but i dont want it to ruin our friendship and i was like yeah me either so we promised we wouldnt and we agreed to break up we hugged goog bye and i didnt honestly want to let go... im starting to think that breaking up was a huge mistake and i cant take it back!! it hurts really bad because i still think i love him

well that's all i've got sorry it was such a long sad story i just had to tell it !! and to any one who wants a senior frash relationship i hope with all my heart it works and that you will be happy...some one deserves to be

[-sincerely]

^^^^ i'm sorry.

[drummergirlmarim...]

i think its possible but thinking deeply here: the age difference between a 14 and 17 yr old and the age difference between a 25 and 29 yr old is the exact same. but thinking logically,a 15 and a 29 yr old basically has the same maturity as the other. but a 14yr old has yet to experience things in life, and a 17 yrs old person would have some more of that experience and therefore be a bit more mature. thats why i think it'd be possible, but the 17 yr old would soon get tired of the immaturity of the 14 yr old and they'd break up pretty early into the relationship. this happened to my guy friend and he and his ex gf was only 2 years apart. 8th grader and sophmore in hs. and + that this guy thats a college freshman likes me and i think hes too mature and stuff for me. so similar situations. hope it helps?

[satisfied-tom]

from my point of view, i wouldn't care how old the person was. personality counts the most! take my friend for example. hes a guy (sophomore) and hes going out with a girl (senior). i am also a sophomore and i went to homecoming with a junior. its all about personality. not age. but then again, seniors can take advantage of a freshmen.

[eugene87]

geez some of you are starting to give me a complex! I was a 17 year old male senor last year who began dating a 15 year old freshman. (We're two and a half years apart). We dated for 4 months, broke up for about 8 months, and are now back together again. Im currently a freshman at a community college and she's a sophmore. I resent the fact that most people would assume I just want sex, because both of us are still virgins by choice... Do I still constitute as a craddle robber?

[Laughsalot]

i never really thought about the guy's point of view. but i do wonder. does it seem harder for guys to stay virgins then for girls? i always thought that it was harder for them..but maybe it's not true? cuz my grandma did say that females demand more from sex than guys do. i'm not sure though