MY BFS MOM HATES ME!!!, things are getting worse Options

[CO0KiE]

I thought of a different way to handle it too!

This is just me, you should probably be yourself but this is how i would handle it too

I feel you have problems with me i really care about your son so i think we should talk and get things straightened out between us to the point where we can at least be civil to one another.
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Remember, just my suggestion, its all you when the time comes.

thats what i would do but you see.. SHE IGNORES ME !!!

Tell your mom and if she under stands and is considerate she will tell him to back off or you can do it the fun way: play tricks on him woopie coushons on his seats shaving cream in his walet that will drive him away

WHAT ? i dont wanna DRiVE MY BF AWAY!!! lol

I meant break up with him and tell his mom to shoot her son because you're pregnant now. that works EvERYTIME

but i dont wanna break up with him.. && if i say that im pregnant shes gonna hate me even more!!!! & plus i dont think hed like that idea..

wow dude is gonna have a birthday..and you can't do nothing about it..cuz the mom is soo drama queen..but then after you and you boy get into arguements..then he gets into arguement with his mom..which causes him not to see you..I think he should step up, go against his parents wishes instead of falling back behind after every fight. If you love him. right now you can support him...and it seems that his parents...are really something else..like one of them strict parents you see in filipino dramas..usually it happens to girls..but for a guy I dunno. but it looks like it's been quite awhile since you and him been going out...and not seeing him either must hurt..and to feel like maybe things are getting out of hand..hold your head high..you've done alot and you've loved alot to let his parents hold you down..if he believes in you, you believe in him..maybe you'll get your big break. dont give up.

yeah if u seen Gulong Ng Palad this is what it reminds me of.. jeez`.. >.< My dad doesnt know and ithink hes gonna find out soon.. & my mom likes him.. his mom doesnt like the way that SUPPOSEDLY since he met ME.. hes been rebellious or whatever.. but its only because his mom is so rude.. and is such a BLAAHHHH !! yeah his dad doesnt care but his mom wont let him go anywhere !! because the first thing she asks is: IS NICKI GONNA BE THERE? jeez` im not gonna do anything to her son or HER! i dont get her.. AGH!!! hmm salamat.. ^_^ & im N0T gonna give up.. >:P

[*T0rmented_Soul*]

^ Glad to be of help =] I just know how you feel...went through the same thing..but in the end I lost..and I had to lose her as well..so when I see a problem that relates..I know how troublesome, hard it is, and how much pain you have live through...my fault is was giving up..

[CO0KiE]

^ Glad to be of help =] I just know how you feel...went through the same thing..but in the end I lost..and I had to lose her as well..so when I see a problem that relates..I know how troublesome, hard it is, and how much pain you have live through...my fault is was giving up..

ooh... aww that sucks.. i dont plan on giving up.. i just hope things get better.. because the only way we can hang out is if we see each other at YFC meetings & stuffs like that.. so gay.. and unless one of the Leaders in YFC takes him to my house for about 10 minutes.. >.< why didnt her mom like you ?

[*T0rmented_Soul*]

I didn't meet up to the moms standards. she didn't like filipino guys like me. who waste time playing music. That pissed me off and we started an arguement..and she was like how can a person who can't keep their grades be anything with your life..do you even plan on going to college..I believe there isn't going to be a bright future for you and my daughter..yeah she kinda hurt me right there..and my ex..didn't even say anything..so I felt like my time was just being wasted..that my fighting had no effect if she didn't do anything..i felt as my heart was torn into so many pieces that it can never be repaired..and her dad despised me...I kept my grades up..but it wasn't good enough for their taste..so I gave up..said my goodbyes...and had the hardest time of my year..questioning myself..

[CO0KiE]

I didn't meet up to the moms standards. she didn't like filipino guys like me. who waste time playing music. That pissed me off and we started an arguement..and she was like how can a person who can't keep their grades be anything with your life..do you even plan on going to college..I believe there isn't going to be a bright future for you and my daughter..yeah she kinda hurt me right there..and my ex..didn't even say anything..so I felt like my time was just being wasted..that my fighting had no effect if she didn't do anything..i felt as my heart was torn into so many pieces that it can never be repaired..and her dad despised me...I kept my grades up..but it wasn't good enough for their taste..so I gave up..said my goodbyes...and had the hardest time of my year..questioning myself..

awww.. im sorry.. that sucks.. i try to talk to his mom but she doesnt want me talkin to her.. shes uncomfortable with me around her.. she thinks she knows me by just one look at me.. she thinks im lazy... & all this other crap. she even told my bf that she doesnt like me. but my bf is defending both me&himself` i just with things were different.. idk how to get his mom to like me.. and im not gonna just kiss up to her n crap cuz thats now what i do.. so yeah.. shes so MEAN. so closeminded.. so rude.. & so arrogant.. jeez`.. she cant hold onto him forever.. and i hope you find the right girl for you =] next time that girl shouldve said something if she wanted to keep youre relationship going..

[*T0rmented_Soul*]

^ haha yeah...but that stuffs all the past on clinging on to the past will make it so you can live in the future..well sometimes a little prooving them wrong is all you can do...be acknowledged by them..show them what a different person you are than what they see intheir eyes..prove them wrong. you can do it =]

[LiSFORLiNDA]

Dont worry about it, your dating him not his mom.

[CO0KiE]

^ haha yeah...but that stuffs all the past on clinging on to the past will make it so you can live in the future..well sometimes a little prooving them wrong is all you can do...be acknowledged by them..show them what a different person you are than what they see intheir eyes..prove them wrong. you can do it =]

hmm thanks i hope i can =]

Dont worry about it, your dating him not his mom.

yeah but i cant see him as much so yeah.. aghhh

[PrincessAda]

Well it ain`t like you the one who is acting like a child talkin` smack and ignoring others when they want to work things out..so why care? if you love him so much,do what ya can.Beg her to talk to your mom&aunt so they can work it out and all.

[CO0KiE]

Well it ain`t like you the one who is acting like a child talkin` smack and ignoring others when they want to work things out..so why care? if you love him so much,do what ya can.Beg her to talk to your mom&aunt so they can work it out and all.

well its not that easy. she wont listen to me. she doesnt like me. she doesnt want us together. etc ! why care ? because i wont be able to see him.. and i dont see him alot anyways because of his mom and yea! it sucks bootcrackers` >.<

[AngelinaTaylor]

Unless you're marrying him, I wouldn't worry about it.

[CO0KiE]

Unless you're marrying him, I wouldn't worry about it.

either way i HAVE to worry cuz i dont want her to split us up !

YES. YES YES YES.

You are Filipino right? You gotta understand that some Filipino mothers are like that. Close minded. Kiss lots of ass. Try not to get your guy in any more trouble, because it seems like the reason she's not liking you much is because she thinks you are a bad influence who makes her kid stay on the phone till 4 in the morning.

yea I AM filipino... but she should be like that to a GIRL not her SON. ihgbffg i dont like his mom

[CO0KiE]

Tell your mom and if she under stands and is considerate she will tell him to back off or you can do it the fun way: play tricks on him woopie coushons on his seats shaving cream in his walet that will drive him away

thatd be funny lol

[*a painefull euphoria*]

this dosnt really look like its going to work out.
i understand the overprotective parent
but shes beyond that

but this lady hates you.
and you cant really get anywhere in this relationship with that barrier.
especialy the fact you never see him.
he needs to speak up to his mother and set her ass straight on his own free will rather then on you plea
otherwise
shes not worth it.
and hes not worth it...

[CO0KiE]

Well it ain`t like you the one who is acting like a child talkin` smack and ignoring others when they want to work things out..so why care? if you love him so much,do what ya can.Beg her to talk to your mom&aunt so they can work it out and all.

she is ONE STUBBORN mother ugghh so freakin irritating too.. ive tried alot of things.. nothings really worked

this dosnt really look like its going to work out.
i understand the overprotective parent
but shes beyond that

but this lady hates you.
and you cant really get anywhere in this relationship with that barrier.
especialy the fact you never see him.
he needs to speak up to his mother and set her ass straight on his own free will rather then on you plea
otherwise
shes not worth it.
and hes not worth it...

well its not like he doesnt do anything. i mean he does try and he does speak up. it his mom. she wont listen to him. and she says im making him crazy and stuff when he hasnt changed since i met him [at least i havent noticed]

[Trinie]

actually from my experience, my parents hated the idea that i had a boyfriend when i was in 8th grade! yup they just thought was too young and said i can have a boyfriend when im in college! so i was just like whatever! but i knew my mom didnt hate him cuz she doesnt even know him. but my bf's mom was ok with it.

so what we did was we still spent alot of time together. we tried to avoid my parents. i was able to spend time with him at his house and go out and whatnot. after a year! my mom gave in and didnt care anymore. he was able to come over the house now. it was so awesome! so we pretty much waited it out. and now we've been together for 8 years. :)

[CO0KiE]

actually from my experience, my parents hated the idea that i had a boyfriend when i was in 8th grade! yup they just thought was too young and said i can have a boyfriend when im in college! so i was just like whatever! but i knew my mom didnt hate him cuz she doesnt even know him. but my bf's mom was ok with it.

so what we did was we still spent alot of time together. we tried to avoid my parents. i was able to spend time with him at his house and go out and whatnot. after a year! my mom gave in and didnt care anymore. he was able to come over the house now. it was so awesome! so we pretty much waited it out. and now we've been together for 8 years. :)

wow thats a long time. he and i are having our ELEVEN months in a few days though. and id love to spend time with him but he goes to a private school and i dont.. and he lives aboutr 30 minutes away from me and i have no way to go to him and he has no way to go to me >.,<