Age?, He's 20 and i'm 15... Options

[yaamakoh]

a friend of mine was 21, his ex was 16. his twin brother is also 21, his current g/f is 17. they've been dating since she was 14 and the relationship is going smooth even till now.(meaning he was 19, she was 14 when they started dating)
the ex which was 16, they dated for a good year up until she reached 17 (her prom night), then during the summer they broke up.
they say they're in love, and the time they were together i guess proves it. i think it's possible, but i have only met one mature 15 year old.
but yeah, since you got your hands on a college boy, and since he treats you right, i suggest not to let him go.
(i would tell your parents when you're of the legal age though, who knows what they might think)

[*Duchess of Dork*]

The age gap isn't really all that monumental. The fact that you are underage, is.

[aznraver396]

(i would tell your parents when you're of the legal age though, who knows what they might think)

Yeah, I was leaning towards that option. I'm giving it a shot right now and I know it's going to be rough, but I believe it'd be worth it whether it works out or not. Thanks for the opinions and advice, guys. I'll keep you guys posted as to what happens.

[sadolakced acid]

look, when i think of how immature i was at 15, i cringe. and at 15 i thought i knew everything.


basically, don't date anyone outside your school level. if you're both on the edges, for instance a high school freshman and an 8th grader, then it's marginally more acceptable.

a freshman and a senior is pushing already pushing it.

people are telling you "well, if you really want to " and "it's possible" are trying to be nice.

the truth is, it'd be stupid to go out with him. i know, i'm judging you and i don't even know you. but even if there are no ulterior motives, it will cause too many problems to be viable.

in one year he can drink, and you still won't be able to see R rated movies.

it'd be like one of your peers- a 15 year old boy, dating a 10 year old girl. even if they really love each other, society won't accept it, and that alone will cause more than enough problems.



5 years of age difference isn't bad. When you're an adult. people are telling you how there parents are more than 5 years apart and all- but i bet you they met after they were out of school.

What you're describing is a very bad idea. There are reasons that even if the minor gives consent, the older person can still be charged. don't do it. there's a reason it's illegal.

[CrimsonSkyGraphi...]

Here's my advice. If you believe that you're mature enough, then go for it. Age shouldn't matter. You'll have some problems because you'll both be in slightly different places in your lives, but it shouldn't be too bad. It's only 5 years.

I dated a guy for over 3 years who was 20 years older than me. Very few of my friends approved. My mom would have if she liked him. <.< She's fine with age differences, just not 'him'. His family was fine with it. Point being, I was 15 when we started dating. Yes, very illegal. 'But'..We agreed no sex untill I was 18. That's what I mean about mature. Age wasn't what broke us up, either..that was just life.

Point being, it's only 5 years. When you're 25 and he's 30 no one would even question it. Just be mature about it and try not to let anything illegal happen while you're still underage. ^_^ I wish you luck.

[pickmeup]

i dont think it's a big deal. i use to date a guy that was alst 5 years older than myself. and as you said, since you're smart and mature for your age such as myself, then nothing should go awry. take things slow with him and see things from eachother point of view. but also keep in mind that your taste might change since you're still in highschool. a sophomore at that. my tastes have changed a few times and i look back and ask myself what i was thinking. haha, but just be careful. :)

[mouse_3k]

HAHA! Aren't being a bit cynical there? Although many people are like that nowadays, it doesn't mean it's always like that. Oh, even if we had sex... Why would he do that and just leave? He could go to jail. I'm not even going there until later. Much later.
I didn't want to respond to your opinions with "no, there's no way that's going to happen" since, well, even I'm not sure. I'm giving it the benefit of the doubt, though. I wish you all knew the whole story and what we're like as individuals, but that's a bit too much to expect from all of you. The age gap does bring a lot of drama, whether or not it's "high school drama." We do get into a lot of conflicts with our friends about it and whatnot. Funny thing is that when they meet him then be enlightened about his age, they're okay with it; on the other hand, if they find out his age and never meet him, they have a problem with it.

aha ok go out wit the guy. after a few months then come back and give us a recap on how things goin. most likly u gon be cryin on how he left u and u carryin his baby in your hands.

either that or u gon be complainin on how your rep is changed and stuff but hey, thats only like 85% of the ending result. who knows, he might just wait 3-4 years for you to actually have sex with you cuz u know, 20 year old guys are so willing to give up 3-4 years of their lives in hookin up wit their own aged girls and sleepin wit them and waitin for a minor to turn 18 just to give her a kiss

**and yes it is against the law for you two for even kissin**

But if your heart is so set on bein broken, go ahead