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 Oct 31 2006, 07:50 PM
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 "the tofu-cow :)"  Group: Member Posts: 58 Joined: Sep 2006 Member No: 463,352  |
okk so i like this guy thats 3 yrs older than me but i suspect my friend does too. it quite obvious that she likes him but she never admit it. i havent confronted her about it because i know i cant like him if she said she did. i know this might sound quite selfish but in the past i gave up most of my crushes after i found out one of my friend likes them. right now i'm not sure what to do, should i tell my friend i like him so she could back off or just let her have him? he might not even notice me anyways =/ he's really nice but i'm sure if hes just being polite or w/e. i'm just wundering if my friend would be mad at me if she found out i like the guy. help please?
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Oct 31 2006, 09:06 PM
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Do you have a closer relationship with this guy or does she? If its you than go ahead tell her you like him so than she will back off but if its her..Move on let her like him
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Oct 31 2006, 09:14 PM
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You said you give up alot of crushes because your friends have liked the same person? Well... fight for this one... stop giving up on them because your friends like them. Hang out with more, talk to him more, get to know him... who knows what'll happen.
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Oct 31 2006, 10:45 PM
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QUOTE(xoxrawr_dinoxox @ Oct 31 2006, 9:14 PM)  You said you give up alot of crushes because your friends have liked the same person? Well... fight for this one... stop giving up on them because your friends like them. Hang out with more, talk to him more, get to know him... who knows what'll happen. i agree 100% please no matter how close your friends if you keep giving the guys you like up just so they can have their time in the sun with that guy well hun its one to many TIMES. its your turn to take the guy that you like for once and just tell her ..if she gets mad its her own fault because she never admitted to you she likes him in the first place. she will just be mad because you will make the moves on him. If you like a guy admit it! dont let your friends have their way with the guy that you like. they are not friends if they have all the guys that you like and they dont feel bad because they are taking all the guys from you. SO SCREW IT AND TAKE A CHANCE! |
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Oct 31 2006, 11:13 PM
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um, you have to talk to your friend about it. bring it up jokingly. "hey how come were 2 girls crushing over this guy, it should be him crushing over us". then you will have your answers.
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Nov 1 2006, 07:05 PM
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"the tofu-cow :)" Group: Member Posts: 58 Joined: Sep 2006 Member No: 463,352 |
thankss for helping =) i appreciate it . ty again :D
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Nov 1 2006, 07:13 PM
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Yeah, don't let your friend have all the guys. That's not fair to you because you might have been better with them (your previous crushes) then she was. Talk to him and see what happens. (:
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Nov 3 2006, 03:05 PM
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^ i agree. it's not fair to you (not to sound selfish, either) that you always give up the guys for your friend. just try to talk to her and see what happens.
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Nov 6 2006, 08:08 AM
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Hi, im a guy...and im bored as hell so I figured id check out what girls talk about.
I dunno if theres some strict anti guy rule but... Guys , if uve noticed never set any boundaries with women (unless it is an unusually large crush/obsession and ur best mates). In this situation I think its best to talk to your friend on a serious note 1 - explain your feelings for this guy, not about him persay but more the way YOU feel about him. 2- explain how you would feel if he shows interest and you were unable to reciprocate. 3 - ask your friend if she likes said guy...discuss her feelings about the issue, how she feels about your ealier comments and consider the option of allowing both of you open attention to this guy...because all men have a target and his intentions for either of you will soon become clear. 4 - it is important to remember that attraction is not a choice...if you have feelings for this guy it is not healthy to repress such things, a friend should understand that and vice versa hope that helps. |
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