How do you let go of something you love?, when that person doesn't love you Options

[xxmisxtakexx]

It's hard. It's been 4 months since we broke up. I'm still madly in love.


What's a girl to do?

[datass]

It takes time. You can't just do something and immediately forget about him.

[alysaphobia]

it's going to be really hard for you, but first you should get rid of all the photos, letters, emails, text messages/presents and throw them away, or at least store them in a box in a deep deep corner of the house you rarely venture into. you don't want to hang on any more than you need to.

hang onto your friends for support. they're there for you. remind yourself that you can and you will be able to love someone else again. get involved in a lot of activities/keep yourself busy so you don't have time to sit around the house moping 24/7.

the one thing you shouldn't do is start dating someone else to try to get rid of the pain. it doesn't work, trust me.

good luck.

[yaamakoh]

If you have a religion, use your religion to soothe your pain. In times of mental anguish people's religion tends to calm them down, and become more sane throughout the months after a break up. Also some say it heals them faster, gets them focused on the right track.
If not, keep yourself busy. If you're a student study more, if you're a social whore go out with your friends more.
DO NOT RELATE TO ALCOHOL OR SMOKING.
Those are the worst types of solutions to turn to, and tends to make it worse. Addiction can even occur if you're seriously depressed.
Get out in the sun more, sun helps your skin and also a good amount will make you re-energized and give you strength to do more in the day.
Wake up earlier and do some chores in the morning or read, good habits will throw away the bad habits away.
Hope this helps =]

[Anna-x-chan]

I need advice on the same thing too, but ugh, we probably have different problems, the guy I like lied and said he liked me and then went out and got a girlfriend. And hes my ex boyfriend and I still love him.

[xlitoxb]

Wow.. seems like we're in the same exact boat only it's 5 months for me. *sigh* I guess you & I both should listen to Alysa. I've been told to do the same things, too.. although I can't quite get myself to get rid of all his things. *shrugs* I'm keeping myself occupied with school activities, so yeah.. Try to occupy yourself, too? =] Hope it gets better for you.

[***Lucy**]

Follow Alysa's advice. Good Luck. I know it husrts.
I'm still in love with my ex and it's been two years
But yes: DO get rid of anything taht reminds him.

[xxmisxtakexx]

Believe me I have definatly tried all those things. Even the thing I wasn't supposed to do. And it still hurts. He is perfect for me and even though everyone has told me he is a peice of crap, HE IS A PEICE OF CRAP I LOVE.

all I have to say is..


bla.

[_sarcastic_]

go do something that you know will keep your mind off him, don't go to places that you know will remind you of him...

[purrfecto]

i think that for just one day, maybe over the weekend or something, you should do anything you can that reminds you of that person. lock yourself in a room, listen to music, hug a pillow, and cry until no tears are left. you could also look at old pictures, read over old letters, etc. or maybe you could use the treadmill and run. i often think about things while running, and it'll be good for you because you'd not only get a good exercise but also have a chance to think things over.

after that you'll probably not feel like moping over that person anymore (i think). a day later try to put all those things you've done that reminded you of the person in a hidden, hard-to-reach place. you've just spent an entire day thinking about all the good and bad times of the relationship, so it'd be wise to try and move on with life. go and watch a good movie, drink a milkshake or smoothie, go out with friends, or even do some schoolwork.

if nothing else works, just be grateful that you had the chance to have a relationship. make a mental note about what went wrong in the relationship so hopefully it would never happen again. over time you will get over this, and maybe you'll someone else who is 1000x better than the current person you're moping over.

[Mikael]

put it in your heart that it will never happen again. i mean, c'mon, you just turned 16. you have the rest of your life to find someone else. start looking around for someone else. 4 months is long enough. YOU WILL LOOK BACK AND LAUGH, i promise you.

[RyeCatcher]

well for me my friends helped me to let go of it, and it turned out for the best. dont let yourself drag on a guy for months if he hasnt talked to you hes moved on and so should you.

[dysfunctional_he...]

Best thing, I think, you could do, is write your feelings down in a journal or something... no wait, a piece of paper. Then, collect everything that reminds you of them, and store it in a box, along with the piece of paper. Write down your feelings everyday if you have to, and store them in the box. That's what I did. Also.. go talk to a good friend, or a councilor if it's really that bad.

[xmusic]

go out often. hang out with friends as much as possible. get involved in new things. go on dates. but JUST DATES. itll be nice for you to get out and get to know other fellas. just dont rush into something serious. or else ull end up doing what ur bf did to you. to them :x. it really works :D

oh and dont be afraid to cry. in fact cry as much as you can. soon ull get fed up with it and ask urself why the hell are u crying over something like that?

[*a painefull euphoria*]

the similar thing happend to me before
i threw away everythign that reminded me of him
i got rid of every gift he gave me
i deleted him off my myspace
i bascily told me self he did not excist

then when he suddenly got a new gf.the girl who he had been cheating on me with
i fell apart and started relying on my prayers to take those painefull memories away.
and it went away
beacus ei found the love of my life 1 month after
and since then we have been going 4 months
and we are doing well.