freshman and senior?! Options

[shortiiex]

i use to think the same thing
i was a freshman last year, so i was 14..and 14 feels really young..a senior is turning into an aldut..i thought 14 years old are too imature to peopel who are about to go into college

[demolished]

Age is just a number, no ?

[*Infinite.*]

I don't see any problem in having a relationship or even liking someone when theres a 3-4 year old difference. One of my friends asked me the other day if he would be considered a pedofile for liking someone 3 years younger because some girl said he would be Believe me no where near it. Don't worry about what others think and if you or anyone wants to be in a relationship with anyone that they know and care for then go for it.

[-sincerely]

thanks. :D

[sarangxai]

I have alot to say about this.

A relationship between a 14-15 year old freshmen (generally female) and a 17-18 year old senior (generally male) makes my eye twitch. This type of relationship is somewhat accepted because people think both are in high school, so it isn't a big deal.

First off, I must say that it is easy to spot a 14 year old girl out. No matter how "developed" she is, you can still approximate her age. A 17-18 year old, hoever, has gone through the crucial states of puberty and is already looking like an adult. Therefore, it is very odd that a nearly grown male would be attracted to a little girl in the middle of puberty.

The freshmen is just starting her teen years and ready to explore hs, while the senior's childhood is pretty much over, for it is time to start a new chapter in his life. This is why a relationship between a 17 and 20 year old is more ok. The younger person in this case is transitioning into the same phase as the older person. You do not have that kind of emotional closeness between a 14 and 17 year old. They are at two different stages in their lives and those stages will not cross for ahilw. Therefore, the snioer who is pretyt much an adult is trying to date a CHILD... not just a girl that is younger than him.

I know there are senior guys who are trying to get with freshmen to get something, but it's equally alarming if the guy actually believes that he and someone who has just entered her teen years are both equal, physically and emotinoally. Do not use that "Oh, she's mature for her age." I've heard this too many times. A truly mature person doesn't try to go out and do things people older than them do. Instead, they will understand their age and realize they should not be entering such a relationship. There's real maturity for you!

So in conclusion: a 14 year and 17 year old does not equal a relationship. It is a crazy mess with a child and an adult. It most likely won't work.. unless.. the guy is still emotionally immature, which isn't a good thing. The older person, if mature, would realize that he should not be talkin gto somebody that young.

The end.

[Spazzzmatic]

At my school, there are a couple of freshman-senior relationships. It's not so weird because often, the freshman is pretty mature while the senior is kinda immature. I guess they kinda balance each other out.

[hojax]

I think when you look at numbers it isn't a huge deal, but it's something that I've thought to be weird. I know every person is different and that 14 and 15 compared to 17 and 18 isn't that huge of an age gap, but I think maturity wise it's a pretty big gap.
I mean, Freshmen are fresh out of middle school, they're still young. I know plenty of 14 and 15 year olds and maturity wise I think they're much different than 17 and 18 year olds.
In my opinion, I don't see why a senoir would want to date a Freshmen, mainly because of agendas, Freshmen are just starting their high school career and seniors are getting ready for college and being on thier own in the world.

Just my thoughts.

exactly.


in the real world...once you're done growing up and such...years dont make that big of a difference because once you hit a certain age...you stop maturing....

saying a senior dating a freshman isnt weird is like saying an 8th grader can date a 5th grader (if you're looking at age difference alone)

i find it odd...and almost pathetic (considering all the seniors i know that date freshman)

that's like...dating someone a year younger than my little brother...strange.


sorry if that was harsh? but yah know...opinions differ...

[mouse_3k]

the main reason why a senior is with a freshmen is to get easy ass...enough said

[pandamonium]

the main reason why a senior is with a freshmen is to get easy ass...enough said

if they were "ridiculously good looking" lmao ahha.

[-sincerely]

the main reason why a senior is with a freshmen is to get easy ass...enough said

rofl. what if they were ugly?

[technicolour]

i think that's kinda weird/wrongish if a freshman liked a sr/visa versa/they were together.
can i have opinions?
i know there's been posts like this, but this is like.. in particular.. know what i mean?
anyway. opinions?
like, i'm fine with a 3-4 age difference, but i think that fresh-senior is A LOT. like 25-29 is okay, etc. but yeah.. you get the idea.

ps: sorry i have not been posting lately.

Uhm. A freshman/senior relationship is a 3-4 year age difference.

And...Robbi is right. I have read this thread, so i'm not merely replying for the hell of it. I agree with her.

[***Lucy**]

When I was 13 my ex-bf was 15 to 16..
It wasn't weird.. But I know what you mean..
I think it depends on the people.

[-sincerely]

Uhm. A freshman/senior relationship is a 3-4 year age difference.

i knew that.

what if you are the one who's a freshmen and a senior?

(because i am) ahhhhh

wait, you're a freshman and a senior at the same time?

[*Uronacid*]

Yeah I really don't find anythign wrong with that... but if I did I would be kind of a hypocrit...

[*WHIMSICAL 0NE*]

Here, if you're a senior and you're 18 and you started dating a 16 year old, let alone a 14 year old, you're considered a sexual preditor, and you'll be on the list of pedophiles for the rest of your life. Right beside a child molester. To me, that's not worth it.

I do agree with the saying age is only number (which shouldn't be used in defense), but maturity wise a 14 year old shouldn't date an 18 year. It's just not right. Maybe if it wasn't anything too serious, but still. 14 year olds are still young KIDS. When I look back at when I was 14 I wasn't at all ready for a relationship with and ADULT. Don't be naive.

[sarangxai]

Oh, please, half of you in this thread have no idea what you're talking about, so shut your traps and spare me the bullshit.

First of all, I am, in fact, going out with an eighteen year old (18 going on 19 this November) and I am fifteen (turning 16 this December.) I started going out with him when I was a freshman and he was a senior.
I dare you to tell me that that is not also the case with guys the same age as a girl, especially in those immature stages in freshman year. Ask anyone. The rates for sex are getting younger and younger, so don't give me that. In my case, most of the guys I know who are older are more mature about these things and don't ask for sex until their girlfriends (same age, older, OR younger) are ready.

In contrast, the younger boys speak openly about dumping a girl if she doesn't put out.

Excuse me, what's the difference there?
What are you talking about? Who are you to make these laws and who should and should not be making these commitments? Are you implying that for one to be mature, one has to be past a certain age? You need to get a serious reality check and take a look at the world around you.

"A truly mature person doesn't try to go out and do things people older than them do."

I assume you are talking about the usual : Sex, alcohol, drugs.
It is all in the choice of the person. A fifteen year old girl could have had sex, done dope, and drink at a weekly rate. Another girl of the same age could be also drinking weekly with her friends, had sex, but hasn't touched drugs in her life.

It is all a matter of CHOICE. The line on who drinks or who fcuks or who does drugs has become thin and stretched out.

I could go on and quote other people but this will take way too long.

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Corey and I have been going on for a long time. One year, and about eight months if you don't count the break we took because of an argument. We've gone way past that stage where it's just you know, a relationship. The reason that I got back together with him is because I know it's something special, not just a stupid high school thing.

I'm in the eleventh grade and he's in college, studying Business Management. He has a car and I see him every day except the weekends. We study together, we eat together, we do everything together.

The relationship is actually GOING somewhere. It's not stuck in that high school stage.
So now, you fools.
Think first before making stupid judgements like that. I totally contradicts your opinions on who is mature and who isn't.

Peace out, bitches.

Um.. no, I'm sorry, but you're assuming things. There are 14 year olds that are like "Oh, I'm mature for my age" therefore I think I should go date an 18 year old guy and be able to understand a relationship. Believe me, you have no idea how much a person's mentality changes from the moment they enter high school to the time they leave.

Maturity isn't all about age, that's true... but age is a part of it. There is no way a 14 year old can have that much life experience.

I wasn't even talking about sex, drugs, etc. That would be like me saying that every person older than 14 or something does that kind of stuff. There are just some things that come with adulthood that are impossible to understand when you're younger.

You're still young and when you're older, you might be able to understand more. I'm not saying that when you're older, you'll think I'm right and you're wrong, but you will be able to understand why people's opinions are they way they are.

Btw, you're not really displaying your "maturity" very well be cursing at people who don't agree with you.

[sarangxai]

Yeah, there is a gray area and I've been there before too. I wasn't naive and nothing happened.

In my original post, alot of it was about the older guy in the relationship. I know someone who dated a 14 year old when he was 17 and I completley respected that because he understood she was quiet a bit younger than him. He knew he had to be the adult at times, because she couldn't no matter how mature she was for her age.

A relationship can work under those circumstances, but people have to realize those circumstances are there. It's just annoying when a 17 year old thinks a 14 year old is his exact same age.

[Laughsalot]

it's only a 3 yr difference...14yr old girl and a 17 yr old guy. nothing wrong with that. but yeah i do think he would expect "more" from you. right now i'm only interested in 17 yr old boys. and i'm 14. i personally think it's hot.

[-sincerely]

thanks for the opinionsss.

[blurrr]

well a 4 yr difference isnt that bad when your 25-29 but when ur 14 and 17 ur at different maturity levels n stuff...but yea age diff doesnt always hafta get in the way...im in a relationship with someone 10 yrs older than me

[-sincerely]

well a 4 yr difference isnt that bad when your 25-29 but when ur 14 and 17 ur at different maturity levels n stuff

that's what i meant at the beginning of the topic.

[*WHIMSICAL 0NE*]

Then again, not everyone lives in the middle of nowhere, do they? ( xD )

I'd like to ask you the same favor. Please don't be naive.

14 year olds are not kids. Nor are they adults, but they are definitely not children.

What is so wrong about going into a relationship with a sound mind, a mature mind, a mind that knows the consequences of what could happen? Sure, there's the case of the 13 year old who meets a 20 year old man and finds it "cool" to go out with an older man with a car, and thus, gets raped. Not every single girl (or guy for that matter) at age 15-16 (the age that is being argued here) is that stupid and that naive.

Just like everywhere else, caution must be taken.

Anyone can THINK that they are mature. But, if most people who are 17 or 18 look back to when they were 14 I'm sure they're going to think that they're more mature now than they where then.
For the most part, girls who are 14 shouldn't even be in a serious relationship with a guy who is 17 or 18 (or their own age). That's just my opinion. They're both on two way different levels.

If you say that 14 year olds are not kids, even that they are "young adults" they shouldn't be dating an adult.

For the most part a 14 year old's idea of a relationship is much different than an 18 year old's idea of a relationship.

[*sofakinglazy*]

For the most part, girls who are 14 shouldn't even be in a serious relationship with a guy who is 17 or 18 (or their own age)

Lol, No.

[*WHIMSICAL 0NE*]

Wait, I was talking about serious relationships. Like sex. 14 year olds shouldnt be having sex, even with kids their own ages. That's my big part with a 14 year old dating a 17 or 18 year old is that "serious" factor.

Anyone can be dating and not doing anything sexual with each other. That's not what I meant. Hell, I first kissed a guy when I was in second grade... but it's not like we were down each other pants.

Most people assume adults want to be in serious relationships, which isn't always the case, but for the most part it is true. Don't tell me an 18 year old boy doesn't think about sex... unless he's extremely religious and was brainwashed by his parents.

[Mschamgirl]

no cuz AGE IS JUST A NUMBER unless the dude is younger then u we have a problem