my best firend..our relationship is slipping...i dont wnat to lose her!, im a guy btw..please help me! Options

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last week she was all over me and couldnt keep her hands off me...we talked alot during summer and now its school and she was all over me at first...but i never realy paid her much attention and she finaly flipped day before yesterday and asked when i walked by why i acted like i didnt even know her...i admit (but not to her) that i do do this...and now she ignores me ...we are just firneds but it was definalty closer than just normal firends...evry time i used to see her she woudl alway ye;l out my name and was so happy...now shes not saying a thing and just take a looka t me and leave..whyywhat should i do...i dont want to lose her :/...i remeber she would tell me how she loves me and stuff and invite me to her volleyball games (she woudl only invite me and her bf, like her bestt friend and her bf i suposer :]) and whatever...she didnt invite me to go watch her game this week, i only talked to her at the bigining of the week...the rest she ignoreing me right in front of my face...i still ignore her, i havnt talked to her upfront about it but i have a feeling that its affecting her more then i know....shes realy melow and quite at school last week (for two weeks in a row) she does have a bf (just to let you know i just liek her as a friend)...but when i see them together at lunch they dont even talk they just sit there and dont do a thing..and i feel reluctent to aprouch her even though i know shes looking and probably in her mind begging me to come......damn it im so confused..i dont want to lose another friend especaily one that actualy cared about me so much

SHE IS JUST A FRIEND NOTHING MORE...I DO NIOT WANT TO f**k HER!

.the thing is why hasnt she even talked to me about it i dont understand...i mean i want to know how shes feeling and i can tell that she has been realy mellow latly..and i think im her problem, every since i kind of started doing this she looks depressed and shiy*...but i dont want to talk to her and seem like im analzing this constentntly, this is one of the most confused ive been in my entire life

[sakaitone]

The fact that you spelt not with an i scares me, along with your other spelling mistakes. I just letting you know.

You kept on blowing her off, way to show you care. you shouldn't blow off your best friend if she's important to you. Maybe she's giving you a taste of your own medicine. I think the best way to fix this relationship is to confront her. You have to talk to her no matter what and see what you two want and need from this relationship.

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The fact that you spelt not with an i scares me, along with your other spelling mistakes. I just letting you know.

You kept on blowing her off, way to show you care. you shouldn't blow off your best friend if she's important to you. Maybe she's giving you a taste of your own medicine. I think the best way to fix this relationship is to confront her. You have to talk to her no matter what and see what you two want and need from this relationship.

srry about spelling i didnt realy have time

idk what to say to her...the main thing im realy worriyed about is how its affecting her because i know its affecting me

[sakaitone]

srry about spelling i didnt realy have time

idk what to say to her...the main thing im realy worriyed about is how its affecting her because i know its affecting me

It's affecting both of you. If you too both want to save this relationship, you don't need to know what to say, just say what you feel and etc like how this affecting you.

[demolished]

Whenever you see her, come up to her. Talk to her about school and life. Talk to her about summer memories and how great it was.

Just do it. Dont think.

it will make you guys closer again.

[magicfann]

Just do it. Dont think.

oh yes and should he use the force too? trust his instincts? pleassee


just talk to her and be like yooo wassup homie how bout goin somewhere on friday like here ----->

[burning hearts]

that happened with this guy i know. Except we never saved our relationship. you're lucky, you still have a chance. if you dont want to lose her then go talk to her. pull her aside and talk in private. It makes it a lot easier. Just tell her you dont want to lose her and apologize for not paying attention to her. us girls like it when guys know they were wrong and apologize for it. Tell her you will pay more attention to her. If she is really your best friend and misses you she will accept you apology. She probably wants to save the relationship as much as you.

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i just kind of said f**k it but now i guess we are friends again but not half as much as it used to be

a key to anyone with brains...never ignore someone who cares about you alot...itll ruin your whole f**king relationship and set you the f**k back

she doesnt have a boyfriend anymore as of today...i acted like this whole shit never happended and we talk a little now...but its not half as much as it used to be, it breaks me to know that it will probably never be the same because of my dumbass mistake....but idc, i kind of moved on a little bit and i fooled around with another girl today and met liek 4 more...and its mainly to get over her as a friend i guess....but idk i guess ill see how this week works out, i think im done with her for good though, and honestly i think there breakup was somewhat fueled over me among other things..idk if this is a dick move, bu i think im going to avoid her even more for her sake, i dont think i mentioned this before but i was avoiding her in the first place for her sake and i think im going to keep doing just that, i care about her alot, even if it means im not part of her life anymore :/

[magicfann]

i just kind of said f**k it but now i guess we are friends again but not half as much as it used to be

a key to anyone with brains...never ignore someone who cares about you alot...itll ruin your whole f**king relationship and set you the f**k back

she doesnt have a boyfriend anymore as of today...i acted like this whole shit never happended and we talk a little now...but its not half as much as it used to be, it breaks me to know that it will probably never be the same because of my dumbass mistake....but idc, i kind of moved on a little bit and i fooled around with another girl today and met liek 4 more...and its mainly to get over her as a friend i guess....but idk i guess ill see how this week works out, i think im done with her for good though, and honestly i think there breakup was somewhat fueled over me among other things..idk if this is a dick move, bu i think im going to avoid her even more for her sake, i dont think i mentioned this before but i was avoiding her in the first place for her sake and i think im going to keep doing just that, i care about her alot, even if it means im not part of her life anymore :/

how did you get past teh filter?
edit - oh sweet nvm =]

[*Uronacid*]

Well, first of all you need to work on your communication skills... Like you said, "I admit (but not to her) that i do do this...and now she ignores me."

It sure sounded like she confronted you about it, and you really jsut sat there and said "nothing". Now, when I say, "nothing" I'm not accually saying you were silent. I'm just saying that you must not have said anything of any significance to the issue at hand. Admitting that you have a problem is the first step in correcting it, and you cannot just admit it to me or the people on CB. You have to admit it to her. She's the one that you were ignoring.

Well, I know this sounds redundant, but she's probably ignoring you because she probably feels as if you don't even want to be her friend. Alright, let me give you an example.

Picture this (Keep in mind, that it's entirely hypothetical):

I just purchased a Guitar. You love guitars, and I know that you play them. So, I decide to try and have a converstation with you about the brand new guitar that I purchased. I start off by saying, "Hey man, check out this awsome guitar that I just purchased!" Deep down inside you think that the guitar that I'm showing you is amazing. This is the guitar of your f**king dreams and you want to play it so bad, but none-the-less You look at me nonchalantly and reply, "Ok..." I get the impression that I was bothering you. I look at you with a strange look and and say, "Ok, well... I guess I'll talk to you later." Then I walk away, and try to share my guitar with someone who acts like they are intrested.

Think of your relationship with you friend as the guitar. You really like the relationship, and when your friend asked you if you were intrested in salvaging it. Even though you cared, you acted like you didn't. She probably got the impression that you didn't even care about the friendship that you had. She probably felt like she was bothering you. So, she decided to ignore you because if she didn't she would have to treat you the same as she always had been.

I don't know why you keep stating the fact that you don't want to have sex with her. It only makes me feel like you want to, and that your trying to deny it in hopes that you will feel like you won't. If so, quit denying it, and face it like a man.

[*mipadi*]

I just purchased a Guitar. You love guitars, and I know that you play them. So, I decide to try and have a converstation with you about the brand new guitar that I purchased. I start off by saying, "Hey man, check out this awsome guitar that I just purchased!" Deep down inside you think that the guitar that I'm showing you is amazing. This is the guitar of your f**king dreams and you want to play it so bad, but none-the-less You look at me nonchalantly and reply, "Ok..." I get the impression that I was bothering you. I look at you with a strange look and and say, "Ok, well... I guess I'll talk to you later." Then I walk away, and try to share my guitar with someone who acts like they are intrested.

Is it a freakin' Les Paul or something? I bet it's a Les Paul, isn't it?

[*Uronacid*]

Is it a freakin' Les Paul or something? I bet it's a Les Paul, isn't it?

How did you guess!!!?? OMG

*talks abotu it with Midapi*

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i think its over bewtwwn us

[*Uronacid*]

i think its over bewtwwn us

Well then, let this be a lesson to you.