Would u keep the baby.., if you got pregnant?(and u were still a teenager?) |
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| ***Lucy** |
 Sep 30 2006, 09:30 AM
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Three years ago(september of 2003) i met my ex-bf. he was extremely handsome and sweet.he was two years older than me(now i'm 16 he's 18)
we had sex many times and he got me pregnant. His best female friend told him various lies about me and told him also that i cheated on him(i didn i loved him very much). So the day i wanted to tell him that i was pregnant he broke up with him and he was really angry and kinda violent. when i told him about my pregnancy he wouldn't believe me. Anyway after some months i know he found the truth but i moved with my older brother to Paris(from London).So i never saw him again. The thing is that i actually kept the baby and i raise my son,his name is Aaron he's so wonderful, with my brother. Just wondering would you keep the baby or would you get an abortion? You think i did the right thing?i always wonder.. |
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Sep 30 2006, 09:36 AM
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I would put my kid up for addoption. I wouldn't have the heart to kill or keep the baby. I would find him or her a nice home to live in. I would also hope that The baby would understand.
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Sep 30 2006, 11:08 AM
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Priscilla Group: Member Posts: 141 Joined: Sep 2006 Member No: 463,856 |
Personally, I think you did the right thing. I don't believe in abortion; it's murder. You did the right thing in not killing him.
There is always the possibility of putting him up for adoption, but I still think you did right in keeping him. If you feel you can't keep the baby, the only option is for adoption- not abortion (that makes a good motto, no?). I believe you did the right thing. Good job 
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Sep 30 2006, 12:38 PM
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=Moved to Relationships=
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Sep 30 2006, 01:31 PM
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QUOTE(Synthetic.Love @ Sep 30 2006, 9:08 AM)  Personally, I think you did the right thing. I don't believe in abortion; it's murder. You did the right thing in not killing him. There is always the possibility of putting him up for adoption, but I still think you did right in keeping him. If you feel you can't keep the baby, the only option is for adoption- not abortion (that makes a good motto, no?). I believe you did the right thing. Good job ^ I agree. You did the right thing. I don't believe in abortion either. & if I was in your situation, I would have kept the baby too. If I had to raise a child alone, it might be too much. I would definitely ask for help. It's so nice that your brother is helping you. I think that your ex will come to find you. He'll realize it one day and want to know & see your son. |
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Sep 30 2006, 01:33 PM
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 All The Girlies Say I'm Pretty Fly For A White Guy Group: Member Posts: 1,944 Joined: May 2006 Member No: 400,858 |
Well I personally couldn't get an abortion but even if I could I wouldn't. I also like kids. I would probably freak out but I would keep it.
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Sep 30 2006, 02:59 PM
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Wow. You kept the baby =) that's so cute.
I would've probably put it up for adoption if I was at that age and gottten pregnant. I can never handle a baby by myself. I might have even pulled an abortion if I was that desperate. I'm not one against abortions either. (dunflameplz) Plus I don't think I'd ever be ready for it just that soon. You did the right thing for your son though. 
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Sep 30 2006, 04:07 PM
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im against abortion.. and im not saying raising a baby is going to be easy but i'd rather go through all the struggle then kill a baby....
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Sep 30 2006, 04:39 PM
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i'd give it up for adoption.
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Sep 30 2006, 05:42 PM
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[font=Trebuchet Ms]I was put in the position of deciding whether or not to keep my child. I was 18 at the time and I got pregnant. I was going to keep the baby until I miscarried. But if the complications wouldn't have had happened, I would have kept the baby. I don't believe in abortion and as good as the idea of adoption is, I don't think I would have been able to deal with the fact of someone else raising a child I carried for 9 months. So I was going to keep it. But like I said, unfortunately I miscarried and lost the baby 2 months into the pregnancy.
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Sep 30 2006, 05:46 PM
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i would put it up for adoption but you made the right choice!
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| *ECD & C0* |
Sep 30 2006, 05:47 PM
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you should always keep it good for you
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| *Uronacid* |
Sep 30 2006, 09:17 PM
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*mad props*
I would never hurt that baby... :] If you can't handle taking care of a kid put it up for addoption. There is always someone who is looking for a baby. |
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Sep 30 2006, 10:33 PM
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I would put it for adoption.. Unless health issues were making it difficult. But yeah, I can't have a child right now. You did the right thing, though. Good luck :)
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| *My Cinderella.* |
Sep 30 2006, 11:56 PM
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I'd probably go with what the others said and put it up for adoption. At this age, I can't even take care of myself.
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| *Infinite.* |
Oct 1 2006, 01:32 AM
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I would never get a abortion, even if it ended up happing like what happend to you. I would keep it and raise it to the best of my ability. And if I didn't find it to be a really good time in life to raise a kid then I suppose I would end up putting it up for adoption. I would be rather sad about this but in the end I would understand of course.
What you did was nice, and I'm glad over the years its always getting better 
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Oct 1 2006, 02:57 AM
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you did the right thing i had to other friends (which im not really close to) that got pregnant one knew who the dad was and the other didnt (unfortunately) but they still had the baby and was really happy about it they got their own close friends to take care the baby and stuff
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Oct 1 2006, 03:54 AM
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QUOTE(**Lucy* @ Sep 30 2006, 7:30 AM) Three years ago(september of 2003) i met my ex-bf. he was extremely handsome and sweet.he was two years older than me(now i'm 16 he's 18) we had sex many times and he got me pregnant. His best female friend told him various lies about me and told him also that i cheated on him(i didn i loved him very much). So the day i wanted to tell him that i was pregnant he broke up with him and he was really angry and kinda violent. when i told him about my pregnancy he wouldn't believe me. Anyway after some months i know he found the truth but i moved with my older brother to Paris(from London).So i never saw him again. The thing is that i actually kept the baby and i raise my son,his name is Aaron he's so wonderful, with my brother. Just wondering would you keep the baby or would you get an abortion? You think i did the right thing?i always wonder.. Your brother and you are truly amazing.  Your boyfriend is very immature and irresponsible. 
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| ***Lucy** |
Oct 1 2006, 04:16 AM
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QUOTE(Spiritual Winged Aura @ Oct 1 2006, 9:54 AM) Your brother and you are truly amazing. Your boyfriend is very immature and irresponsible. Oh, thanks! My brother was 20 when i got pregnant. my mother had died when i was three years old and my dad died some months b4 i met my boyfriend.  Anyway i adore my brother he's the most amazing man i've ever met. He helps me with Aaron(my son) and he studied hard at the university at the same time. You know although our parents left us a great inheritance so Julian(my brother) and I would never have to work, my brother has goals and wants to work and doesn't like spending money without working. I mean he's so nice. Now, about my ex- bf.. the thing is i guess he didn't act nicely at all. But Aaron takes after him so much: same cute freckles, same deep blue eyes, same blonde hair..It's so tough to forget him when I see everyday Aaron who looks exactly like him. My bro says that I've got blond hair and blue eyes too so it's not that Aaron takes after only my ex-bf but i think he says that to make me feel better. It's so obvious that Aaron is like a yound David(David is my ex-bf)  Plus, Aaron has exactly the same scar on his cheek that David has. I still love David although I know i shouldn't..what can i do to forget him? any ideas? |
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| *Infinite.* |
Oct 1 2006, 02:45 PM
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You quit thinking about him, even though its awfully hard since you do have a son to reflect upon. Although you son can't exactly have the same scar that David has, atleast I wouldn't think so. Unless its some growth scar. -shrugs- I would normally say distance yourself from the guy but it sounds like you've already done that much. There isn't really anything you can do to get over him, in the end your always going to remember him because you had a son with him. Just give it time and perhaps he will fade from your life.
Although I have a question, are you ever going to let him meet his son? Or just let it be? I mean a lot of kids when they grow up and realize that their different because they don't have two parents end up wanting to meet their other parent. |
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Oct 1 2006, 03:26 PM
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You did the right thing. Now your baby will grow up and know who it's real mother is, instead of being hurt by the fact that he was put up for adoption. Abortion is just wrong, the baby did nothing; so I respect you for not doing that.
My friend is 14 years old and she has been pregnant before. Her mom forced her to get an abortion. But now she is pregnant again (same guy) and will not let her mom force that on her again. I think its a little too early for her to be pregnant, but I support her decision to keep the baby. Well good luck! |
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Oct 1 2006, 04:02 PM
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QUOTE(**Lucy* @ Oct 1 2006, 2:16 AM) Oh, thanks! My brother was 20 when i got pregnant. my mother had died when i was three years old and my dad died some months b4 i met my boyfriend. Anyway i adore my brother he's the most amazing man i've ever met. He helps me with Aaron(my son) and he studied hard at the university at the same time. You know although our parents left us a great inheritance so Julian(my brother) and I would never have to work, my brother has goals and wants to work and doesn't like spending money without working. I mean he's so nice. Now, about my ex- bf.. the thing is i guess he didn't act nicely at all. But Aaron takes after him so much: same cute freckles, same deep blue eyes, same blonde hair..It's so tough to forget him when I see everyday Aaron who looks exactly like him. My bro says that I've got blond hair and blue eyes too so it's not that Aaron takes after only my ex-bf but i think he says that to make me feel better. It's so obvious that Aaron is like a yound David(David is my ex-bf) Plus, Aaron has exactly the same scar on his cheek that David has. I still love David although I know i shouldn't..what can i do to forget him? any ideas? How did you got all the money to support your child? it's pretty expensive? did you go to Cosco? Their diaper is cheaper and same brand.
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Oct 1 2006, 04:52 PM
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i'd keep it. =]
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Oct 1 2006, 05:01 PM
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I definitely wouldn't get an abortion, but I'm not sure if I would keep him/her or not. Maybe.
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Oct 2 2006, 10:02 AM
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YOU BITCH! I CANT BELIEVE YOU HAD SEX WHEN YOU WERE LIKE 13.
YOU SHOULD HAVE GET AN ABORTION. I HATE YOUR BUSTARD SON. I HOPE HE DIES AND YOU DIE WITH HIM. YOUR BOYFRIEND ACTED OK. wHAT DID U THINK TAHT HE WOULD EVER STAY WITH WHORE LIKE YOU???????? YOU F***ING BITCH I HATE YOUR KID. YOUR KID IS NOT A NORMAL KID. HE'S NO FATHER, HE'S SON OF THE BIGGEST WHORE EVER. HE'S A BUSTARD. I HOPE U DIE |
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