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 Sep 10 2006, 04:21 AM
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 oh baby!  Group: Member Posts: 210 Joined: May 2006 Member No: 404,785  |
Okay! Enough with it, the "i love you's" it has to stop. I can't believe I've said it incessantly to people, and I actually didn't mean it. So now I've made an oath with my bestfriend. That when I get a boyfriend, I wont say "I love you" until 5/6 months in the relantionship. But what I'm really curious about is how the way he would re-act to it.
I think his questions will be: Why aren't you saying "i love you" back? Do you even love me? Why wouldn't you say it? Is it because your unsure of your feelings for me? What do you mean? I don't get it. Hopefully he won't break up with me just because of this. But I wanna mean what I say. What do you think? |
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Sep 10 2006, 04:26 AM
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 naïvety Group: Human Posts: 1,303 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 488 |
I completely agree with you. It ceases to have meaning when people are constantly saying it.
BUT worst of all is when your boyfriend forces you to say it and is constantly worrying about how many "i love you"s he hears. QUOTE(tinasmileeetina @ Sep 10 2006, 4:21 PM)  I think his questions will be: Why aren't you saying "i love you" back? Do you even love me? Why wouldn't you say it? Is it because your unsure of your feelings for me? What do you mean? I don't get it. I can't stand people who say that. If someone merely mentions their "concern" for my not loving them, it's over. I mean, where is the trust!? |
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Sep 10 2006, 04:37 AM
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I don't think you should put a time limit on your relationship before ever saying I love you. What happens if you actually get in a relationship and 3 months down the road you know what love really is and the meaning and feelings behind it and you figure out you love this guy. Yet you can't tell him how you feel until 5-6 months. So your just going to keep how you feel away from him?
I don't think you should put a time limit on your relationships feeling BUT make a promise and oath to not say I love you until you truly understand what love means and truly know your in it before saying it. When he tells you he loves you and you know you don't love him, tell him the truth. They will like you even more for being completely honest with them. Tell him that you know you don't like him but you know that you really like him. You can't just change your feelings for someone with the snap of a finger or the trading of a few words. It takes time and patience. I think you doing a good job and its a neat idea.  If the guy breaks up with you for something you really think is right, and something you really want to do. Then hes not the right guy for you.
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Sep 10 2006, 05:20 AM
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oh baby! Group: Member Posts: 210 Joined: May 2006 Member No: 404,785 |
QUOTE(This Confession @ Sep 10 2006, 4:37 AM) I don't think you should put a time limit on your relationship before ever saying I love you. What happens if you actually get in a relationship and 3 months down the road you know what love really is and the meaning and feelings behind it and you figure out you love this guy. --Hey! Your so correct, this makes me rethink everything I just said about the monthly limit. I'll take your advice into TOTAL consideration. Lol, you have such a good point. |
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Sep 10 2006, 05:54 AM
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Awe, I feel so I don't know. I'm glad you agree though and that I could help
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Sep 10 2006, 12:31 PM
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mmkay. i see.
i'll tell ya somethin i've never gone out with a girl longer than 5/6 months kekeke |
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Sep 10 2006, 03:35 PM
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^that just shows how much of a committed relationship you want and how much you just want to learn about it all at the moment.
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Sep 10 2006, 03:42 PM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 2,343 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 17,767 |
My boyfriend of 11 months told me he loved me a few weeks into the relationship and I looked at him questionably and told him to stop and not say it again until he meant it.
He then admitted to saying it only because he thought I would like it if he did. He told me he loved me a few months ago and I knew he meant it. I'm sure your boyfriend would understand how you feel and would agree with your logic if he thought about it a little bit... no worries. |
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Sep 10 2006, 04:58 PM
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te quiero Group: Banned Posts: 2,586 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 14,678 |
I think you should tell him you love him when you actually mean it. I mean, hey, what if 5 months pasts and you still don't feel like you love him? What is love anyways? Obviously, it's just a chemical equation. I just haven't figured out the second reactant yet and will probably never figure it out. And the entropy and enthalpy and energy of reaction... it's just not working out.
I'm a really reserved person. I'll admit to WANTING someone,... but I've never told anybody I loved them. |
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Sep 10 2006, 07:03 PM
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QUOTE(This Confession @ Sep 10 2006, 1:37 AM) I don't think you should put a time limit on your relationship before ever saying I love you. What happens if you actually get in a relationship and 3 months down the road you know what love really is and the meaning and feelings behind it and you figure out you love this guy. Yet you can't tell him how you feel until 5-6 months. So your just going to keep how you feel away from him? I don't think you should put a time limit on your relationships feeling BUT make a promise and oath to not say I love you until you truly understand what love means and truly know your in it before saying it. When he tells you he loves you and you know you don't love him, tell him the truth. They will like you even more for being completely honest with them. Tell him that you know you don't like him but you know that you really like him. You can't just change your feelings for someone with the snap of a finger or the trading of a few words. It takes time and patience. I think you doing a good job and its a neat idea. If the guy breaks up with you for something you really think is right, and something you really want to do. Then hes not the right guy for you.seriously. i couldn`t agree more. 
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Sep 10 2006, 09:04 PM
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just say how you feel about your significant other when you're ready. don't set up a time limit to say "i love you". love just happens...as others said, what if you realize what love truly is before 5 months in dating the person? my parents dated for about 3 months before they got married...and they're still together. there is no specific time limit to determine when you're truly in love.
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Sep 10 2006, 09:18 PM
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 All The Girlies Say I'm Pretty Fly For A White Guy Group: Member Posts: 1,944 Joined: May 2006 Member No: 400,858 |
^Seriously. My uncle got married on his first date. He had a dream that he had to go buy an engagement ring he did and my parents set him up with my aunt and she had the same dream except she got proposed to.
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Sep 10 2006, 09:24 PM
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I agree with purrfecto. It's not about the time period that you've been with them where you think is appropriate, it's how close you've gotten and all that you've shared together. For instance, my boyfriend and I were together for only a few months before we said it, but during that time we had become so incredibly close it's just unimagineable for anyone else to even comprehend, because they don't know about our relationship the way that we do. But, that's just me... whatever works for you.
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Sep 10 2006, 09:59 PM
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Jeez, Holly you beat me to this one... and I completely agree ;]
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Sep 10 2006, 10:14 PM
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i agree with holly, you shouldn't have a set time for you to say i love you to your significant other. you should say it when you know you mean it.
but yeah i totally agree with you |
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Sep 11 2006, 11:50 AM
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yay most people agree with me in here
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Sep 11 2006, 12:33 PM
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 cB Assassin Group: Official Member Posts: 10,147 Joined: Mar 2004 Member No: 7,672 |
Which is why I never said it..
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Sep 11 2006, 12:44 PM
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I love you Eddie.
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Sep 11 2006, 01:49 PM
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cB Assassin Group: Official Member Posts: 10,147 Joined: Mar 2004 Member No: 7,672 |
I love you too Sandra!
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Sep 12 2006, 12:07 PM
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Sep 12 2006, 05:20 PM
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i think its a good idea to not say it too early...but dont put a time frame on it...u dunno if ur gonna fall in love with him in 5 months...if u truly are in love with him at 3 months then u can tell him...
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Sep 12 2006, 09:23 PM
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oh baby! Group: Member Posts: 210 Joined: May 2006 Member No: 404,785 |
HAHA, okayy thanks for the adddviiccee.
But what is love anyway? Whaaaattss your opinion? |
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Sep 12 2006, 09:59 PM
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Oh NOES
 WHATS LOVE?! What do you think love is? Now that I think about it, its different for everyone, everyone expresses love in their own way. Its never the same. Thats why when you change lovers and move on your love is always going to be different for them, because people need to be loved in different ways. Thats why you can't just jump in a relationship and say you love one another because you may know each other on the best friend level but not on the relationship level. I'll have to come and edit this later
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Sep 12 2006, 10:12 PM
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QUOTE(blurrr @ Sep 12 2006, 6:20 PM) i think its a good idea to not say it too early...but dont put a time frame on it...u dunno if ur gonna fall in love with him in 5 months...if u truly are in love with him at 3 months then u can tell him... We got that established already, shithead. |
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Sep 12 2006, 10:24 PM
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Love, simply put, is doing what id best for people, but love is complicated as hell and isn't always what it seems... this is a very broad deffinition, and if you want to know more you wil either have to ask more specific questions or think about what I said... for hours....
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