what's the best way to communicate?, phone? person to person? instant messenger? |
 Sep 11 2006, 05:09 PM
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 life is beautiful  Group: Member Posts: 65 Joined: Apr 2006 Member No: 394,856  |
there's this guy who i've liked for awhile...but the only way we have good, meaningful conversations is by using the internet (emails, instant messenger, etc). we do talk in person, but it always seems awkward because we're both kind of shy. we have attempted to talk on the phone (every now and then), and the conversations start out fine until we run out of things to say. then we start saying stuff like "um"', "oh"', "that's nice", etc.
the problem is that we're both so busy with schoolwork and other activities that we hardly talk online or see each other as much. i don't want our relationship to drift away...should i call more often to keep in touch? even if it'll be awkward? haha this is pathetic 
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| *krnxswat* |
Sep 11 2006, 05:19 PM
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Instead of having meaningful conversations online, try having more fun conversations by phone. You guys aren't going to start having meaningful conversations on the phone right away; start cracking jokes, share laughters, and get comfortable with each other.
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Sep 11 2006, 07:52 PM
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 daughter of sin Group: Member Posts: 1,653 Joined: Mar 2006 Member No: 386,134 |
Best way to communicate is in person. The end.
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| *mipadi* |
Sep 11 2006, 11:33 PM
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Scroll. Or telegram.
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Sep 12 2006, 12:30 AM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 1,388 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 4,129 |
talk on aim first & half way through the convo say that you have to go and sign off. then call him and continue the convo you had on aim except on the phone
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Sep 13 2006, 06:19 PM
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Priscilla Group: Member Posts: 141 Joined: Sep 2006 Member No: 463,856 |
QUOTE(krnxswat @ Sep 11 2006, 6:19 PM)  Instead of having meaningful conversations online, try having more fun conversations by phone. You guys aren't going to start having meaningful conversations on the phone right away; start cracking jokes, share laughters, and get comfortable with each other. I also agree with Angelina Taylor. Best way to communicate is face to face. However, what krnxswat said about phone conversations is very true. They're both right on target. |
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Sep 13 2006, 06:33 PM
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 L!ckitySplit Group: Member Posts: 4,325 Joined: Apr 2005 Member No: 129,329 |
aim- lame
phone- not that lame in person-bingo nothing beats having an in-depth/ or even just a good conversation with the opposite sex on a rooftop at night while looking in the sky. wow i had a girly moment |
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Sep 14 2006, 09:38 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 134 Joined: Jun 2006 Member No: 424,880 |
In person is the best way to have a conversation, hands down. You get something extra from just seeing their facial reactions, how they gesture with their hands, all that happy good stuff. Phone is the next best thing. But you said you were having trouble getting together because of your schedules, so how about good old fashioned hand written notes or letters? I think they're fun and sweet. They don't have to long or anything; a post it that just says "Wassup sweetie!" would be cute.
Yeah, I'm a proud corn ball :) |
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| *yrrnotelekktric* |
Sep 14 2006, 09:43 PM
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QUOTE(Angelina Taylor @ Sep 11 2006, 4:52 PM) Best way to communicate is in person. The end. Word. Even if it is awkward. If it becomes toooo awkward, crack jokes, like krnxswat said. But try not to seem TOO desperate, or overly funny, ya kno?
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Sep 14 2006, 09:44 PM
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 skaters gonna skate. Group: Official Member Posts: 6,861 Joined: Mar 2004 Member No: 6,336 |
aim and in real life.
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| *x1227x* |
Sep 14 2006, 10:12 PM
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phone & in person
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Sep 14 2006, 10:42 PM
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 Just One Kiss Will Stop Your Heart! Group: Member Posts: 63 Joined: Aug 2006 Member No: 454,951 |
Oh ok i see well go eet in person have some sex and the relationshipwill keep going
 . you have to learn to be confortable with eachother and to not always be shy its not good at all trust me try talking about somthing that both intrest you and himQUOTE(Uronacid @ Sep 15 2006, 6:32 AM) Yeah, in person is the best, but that doesn't mean that you will be able to spark a convo better in person than you can on aim. Best way to learn how to have conversations with a specific person is to spend time with them. The only reason AIM is such a bad environment for this is that you can experience a person to a certain piont. After that piont it's like you can't get to know eachother any better. AIM is missing the accents in the voice, and the expressions in the face. You will find that if you spend more time with him, you will get to know him better (giving you more to talk about), things will happen between you that will give you more things to talk about, you'll start to form inside jokes between eachother, or you may even ind that you don't like him as much as you thought you did. It's always weird hanging out with someone for the first time. So, don't worry if things are awkward in the begining. Things will work if they are ment to work, and you can't force chemistry if it isn't there. And acid you right its better in person that you guys will actually breathe eachother.And become moe understanding on alot of levels. |
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Sep 15 2006, 08:08 AM
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daughter of sin Group: Member Posts: 1,653 Joined: Mar 2006 Member No: 386,134 |
QUOTE(Venomous Lust @ Sep 14 2006, 11:42 PM) Oh ok i see well go eet in person have some sex and the relationshipwill keep going but you have to learn to be confortable with eachother and to not always be shy its not good at all trust me try talking about somthing that both intrest you and him. ... what? |
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Sep 15 2006, 08:30 AM
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 cB Assassin Group: Official Member Posts: 10,147 Joined: Mar 2004 Member No: 7,672 |
Person to person yo!
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| *Uronacid* |
Sep 15 2006, 09:32 AM
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Yeah, in person is the best, but that doesn't mean that you will be able to spark a convo better in person than you can on aim. Best way to learn how to have conversations with a specific person is to spend time with them. The only reason AIM is such a bad environment for this is that you can experience a person to a certain piont. After that piont it's like you can't get to know eachother any better. AIM is missing the accents in the voice, and the expressions in the face. You will find that if you spend more time with him, you will get to know him better (giving you more to talk about), things will happen between you that will give you more things to talk about, you'll start to form inside jokes between eachother, or you may even ind that you don't like him as much as you thought you did. It's always weird hanging out with someone for the first time. So, don't worry if things are awkward in the begining. Things will work if they are ment to work, and you can't force chemistry if it isn't there.
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Sep 15 2006, 01:21 PM
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Just One Kiss Will Stop Your Heart! Group: Member Posts: 63 Joined: Aug 2006 Member No: 454,951 |
QUOTE(Uronacid @ Sep 15 2006, 6:32 AM) Yeah, in person is the best, but that doesn't mean that you will be able to spark a convo better in person than you can on aim. Best way to learn how to have conversations with a specific person is to spend time with them. The only reason AIM is such a bad environment for this is that you can experience a person to a certain piont. After that piont it's like you can't get to know eachother any better. AIM is missing the accents in the voice, and the expressions in the face. You will find that if you spend more time with him, you will get to know him better (giving you more to talk about), things will happen between you that will give you more things to talk about, you'll start to form inside jokes between eachother, or you may even ind that you don't like him as much as you thought you did. It's always weird hanging out with someone for the first time. So, don't worry if things are awkward in the begining. Things will work if they are ment to work, and you can't force chemistry if it isn't there. I f**king agree. |
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Sep 18 2006, 05:03 PM
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 Trinie loves you Group: Member Posts: 1,003 Joined: Sep 2006 Member No: 464,831 |
actually thats funny! when me and my bf started dating thats how we were. like we have so much to talk about and then we ran out of things to say. it did get awkward at some point but you know what i did?? i just started asking random questions about anything!! lol it was pretty funnny, and he did the same thing and we both broke the awkwardness thing. :)
hope this helps. but talking in person is the best way to talk and on the phone rather than instant messnger. |
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| *Uronacid* |
Sep 18 2006, 07:16 PM
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QUOTE(Trinie @ Sep 18 2006, 6:03 PM) actually thats funny! when me and my bf started dating thats how we were. like we have so much to talk about and then we ran out of things to say. it did get awkward at some point but you know what i did?? i just started asking random questions about anything!! lol it was pretty funnny, and he did the same thing and we both broke the awkwardness thing. :) hope this helps. but talking in person is the best way to talk and on the phone rather than instant messnger. Deffinitly true... :] |
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| *suddenly she* |
Sep 18 2006, 09:03 PM
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i was rather fond of the pony express and messenger pigeons.
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| *My Cinderella.* |
Sep 18 2006, 09:23 PM
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Person to person. It can be the hardest and the easiest. But it's the best way.
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Sep 20 2006, 03:51 PM
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te quiero Group: Banned Posts: 2,586 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 14,678 |
The reason you're only able to have meaningful conversations with him online is most likely because over the internet, you have time to think and you aren't put up on the spot. That's why most of the shyness dissappears and you always have something to talk about. There's never any "awkward silence" over AIM...
That's how it used to be with me and this guy I liked. But then, we started hanging out more and the more we hung out, the more we got to know each other, the more we knew how to act and relax around each other... and it's all good now. Except ... now he's interested in my friend, so we're just "great buddies" ... |
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| *This Confession* |
Sep 20 2006, 05:02 PM
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Eh don't ever communicate with someone over aim, its the internet and its really hard to hear how people feel or react to things.
So face to face is number 1 the best, and if you can't do that then do it over the phone. Atleast you can hear his voice. |
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