Help! Need advice about boyfriend Options

[missy429]

I've been dating a guy for the past 3 years who is REALLY hot. He's been kinda of weird from time to time by disappearing for a few days, saying he was busy, and returning again. Sometimes I text him and hear nothing back for a day or two. He's got a high pressure job and says it's impossible to pay attention to anything other than work when he's there.

About 4 months ago I sent him an email playing with him and asked him if he had fantasies of other women and if so, who. He sends me a big ole message back entitled "My Ladies in Waiting" complete with descriptions of each and photos. I was blown away. We got together after that and talked about it. His response was "hey all guys have fantasies about other women, I was just brave enough to tell you". Is this true???? Should I be glad he was upfront. He said they were strictly fantasies, period. At the same time I found out he had been with someone else at a hotel near where we live during a "time we weren't getting along". That seemed to justify it in his mind. He said he would never do it again and apologzed.

I know it's been a long time ago but I'm still feeling weird about it. Yesterday he sent me a picture of his office coworkers when they went out for a company event. The picture was of his secretary, some other girl and ANOTHER one with huge boobs and cute. I asked who she was and he replied "It's Heather" like I'm supposed to know who that is. He said he would never consider sleeping with her and I'm his love. He's not one for mushy stuff. Most of his contacts with me are always about sex and what he wants to do. Every once in awhile he will send a message or call me and say "I love you".

I'm so confused by all this I can't sort it out. Any ideas or suggestions for me??? I really like him because he's so good looking and funny. I just can't get past this intuition I'm feeling or is it just me thinking about the photos, etc.?