my brother, hes going to push me to my limit and he'll see... Options

[OkamaPower]

I need some help to overcome these problems... so help a fellow createblogger out.

I am 14
Jerk brother is 15
His twin is 15

we are all freshmans, they both flunked.

I have a brother... I never like to call him that... he... is the most infuriating person in my life. He doesnt know when to stop... he wont even act his age... only around freinds he will. At home while I play game, he'd occasionally come and insult me for no reason like because I dont constantly work out to the limit or doing things he doesnt do. He sometimes slap my head and run.

Take today, he took his twin brothers shoes and wore them to do some running on the tredmill. His twin brother said to take it off and he said "No, I wanna use it to run." All of a sudden he ran outside and his twin chased after him. I saw him walk back in the house all drenched. His twin came back in and said that he had thrown his shoes on the roof so no one could have them... he already has 6 pairs of shoes!Vans, wrestling shoes, adidas, one for each subject of his daily life, come on!

While I sleep he would occasionally throw stuff or scream loud and turn quiet real quick... so I would wake up tired and I wont think its him. Id say something like "WHAT THE HELL! STOP!" and he say #@$#%@%$# it wasnt even me and Id probably respond to what he say and he'd interupt me and insult me. Take this for example.

Im playing game all alone in my room when all of a sudden he slams the door open and screams "WATCHA DOING!!!!" and then he goes OOOOH "CAN I PLAYUUUH!" and Id just ignore him because I dont want to say anything that would effect his next actions... Then he goes " #$#% you then $#$% yeah... thats why you dont work out or run everyday like me." and I'd say "so, what does this have to do with" ---interupted--- "shut up $#%#$ just shut up and while i try to say something he just runs out the room saying "ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh laaaaaaaa."

hes been doing this for about 5 years now... ever since he wasnt scared of me anymore... yes my whole family was scared of me (siblings) but its changed now... I cant overcome this anger anymore..... I just cant control it anymore... one day im going to lose it... im a really kind person to everyone, at school I help people out, I let freinds borrow stuff, I share with the homies, I let people borrow money and he says im Gay for that... I'd say im not gay man why are you always like this? and hed stare and say shut the hell up #@%$$% and he just walk away screaming so he wouldnt hear me say anything else.

He gives this family and attitude, he steals, he breaks things. once I couldnt control my anger so I got a window (we were going to install it in my room) and hit him on the head until it broke... after that my cousin called me a #$%^&* dumb ^*$% and he is the closest family member who I respect most... to think someone like him would say such a thing and take his side....

heres the last story, he wanted to play my naruto game so I said I dont feel like playing it. My home girl was on my bed watching the whole thing and he said "$$%# you #@$$%$# yeah thats why you dont wanna play cuz you gonna lose" and I said "Why... Why do you always treat my like this? Why are you always a jerk?" and he was just staring with a small grin and said uhhhh and I said dont talk to me, dont even answer that and he just stepped out the room. That day changed my life... because my home girl saw and she never knew I was like that and well that showed him... but im not going to try that again because hes going to call me gay and touchy lovey and blah blah and hes gonna interupt what i have to say and well i just dont want to deal with that.

one day.... hes going to push me to my limit and he'll see...


Any help or tips to overcome these obstacles? Dont let my story decide what you think of me. Im a kind powerful person... were asians, yup we are supposed to be good and behaved and mature.... but im the most mature one in the family, at least thats what most of the girls say.

[*x1227x*]

i suggest you just fight back, and if he trys to abuse you, tell your mom. he's practically abusing you. :\ if he's going to be immature, then there's really no use in actually talking to him since it's not going to go through his head, and it also seems through my opinion, that he has the brain of a new born (which a new born doesn't even have much in it's head.) i think you should just stay somewhere after school and just sit at a empty quiet place and just think about the things that anger you, and try to get it out of your system. (always works for me, i just stay someone where no one is, and i think and i try to get it out of my system so i dont blaze on one of my friends/family members that really didn't do anything to piss me off.) i hope things work out for you.

p.s:
you can always talk to me about it.

[OkamaPower]

sorry ive tried every single one of that.
peaceful place... it gets shattered after a few hours or mins when im out of the land of happy bunnies or sexy girls

i cant stay after school because its dangerous... long beach california

my mom doesnt do anything anymore. she just gets real pissed with a face so i just back off and leave her alone... she has so much to deal with and she works so hard.

fighting back means his all out force, i dont want any marks left on my body or face and even punching his arm playing around means all out force from him. i dont like fighting with family.

any other help? hes is... different from anyone else....

[demolished]

Put sleeping pills in his drinks
Once he's sleeping, tied him up on a chair.
Talk to him, confront him
Do whatever you can to urge him to listen to you
If he goes out of control, tape his mouth
Slap him in the cheeks
Talk to him

While he's listening to you, pat him on the back
While he's listening to you more, pat him on the shoulder



Touching motivation is a good enhancement



show him that you're a brother who do care about him
You dont have to take out all your anger into him

He just need to listen and understand about yours and family situation.

tell him to grow up, and respect to people.

if he can do that, tell him that people will respect him, people will like him better



being nice is always important.
and be sure, you know what to say to him.

[alysaphobia]

is the twin brother annoyed by your brother as well? talking about your problems to somebody who can relate might release a little bit of frustration. try seeing how he deals with it all.

try not to do anything nasty to your brother though, however annoying and mean he could get, if you do bad stuff right back at him, it makes you just as low as him. (well, not really, but you know...?) talk to your parents, if they see you're not the bully of the house, you'll have an easier time convincing them to believe what you say of your brother.

[*This Confession*]

Personally I would just ignore him, and just not even listen to him either. And if he physically touches you or hurts you then you need to bring your parents into it and if they don't care or do anything. Thats when you start fighting back. My mother always told me when I was little if anyone ever hurts you, you do exactly the same thing back worse.


Bring some parentals in to it. He needs to learn to get some respect for some people.

Tell your parents to send him to military school, that would change him around.

[OkamaPower]

wow some of these mushie stuff are disturbing.
yeah i talk to my family with it, we all hate him too, they dont deal with it, my sister just cries and my brother just fights back leading to things breaking and scars which i dont want. the only one that can control anger is my mom... but she says just get used to it. she puts up with all of us even my dad since the day she was married and the day we were born.

[LiLaZnGirL122]

omg my brother was like that too but if u ignore it and jus don look at him hell get bored becaus he knos you wont do anything. when they go off to college omg i KNOW your going to miss it becuase i really doo =[

[xforgottenlove]

well you just gotta really TAKE CONTROL of each and every situation. show him who's boss. and bring some older relatives into the situation. like Spiritual Winged Aura said, you gotta get him to listen to you. like maybe when he's sleeping you can tie him up or something. you can also get the twin brother to help [: well best of luck with your situation [:

[demolished]

omg my brother was like that too but if u ignore it and jus don look at him hell get bored becaus he knos you wont do anything. when they go off to college omg i KNOW your going to miss it becuase i really doo =[

wtf ...

[OkamaPower]

omg my brother was like that too but if u ignore it and jus don look at him hell get bored becaus he knos you wont do anything. when they go off to college omg i KNOW your going to miss it becuase i really doo =[

haaa miss it?! i miss being away from them, i miss staying away from my siblings. i spent my summer vacation and grandmas house and i miss it.... the day i had to go back i was angry.... ive been seeing him my whole life.... ive had enough and the siblings in this family dont know the word love or care.... but only for other people... we are going to end up like another family we know. they are all adults and VERY similar to us. the whole family lives together.... very close but always fights everyday and cusses at each other.... they are a very religious family but they still fight and their parents are like my parents... except they are all ages of parents but dont have kids... some of them. ill keep that in mind, i will ignore them until they get bored. also, do you leave your brother? when he comes to you, do you just go away from him?

[mocassinsx29]

I really don't know what you should do, maybe get him checked out by a psychologist? Maybe he's got A.D.D. or somethin. But... you broke a window over his head??? LOL.

[OkamaPower]

psychiatrist lol, that would cost lots of money(we hella rich) but i dont wanna spend my pocket change for him, lol!!!111oneoneone jk, my mom would call me stupid for that and she says we not gonna waste time for something stupid.....

[OkamaPower]

this just in! my brother cant even control his anger! i say one thing like your ugly and he gets something to hit me with. hes such a child, using weapons. also, yesterday my mom punished him physically and his twin made hand gestures as my mom did to hit my brother. and he started jumping on his twin. if you say mom he is gonna cuss out loud and punch you. the one that needs to control his anger and deal with it. im not the one... ANYMORE!!! THANK YOU GUYS SO MUCH! YOU GUYS ACTUALLY CHANGED THE WAY ILL LIVE MY LIFE!

[OhMyAnniee]

wow you're asian? wowwowowow. this is really interesting, i mean it's sad but it's really like yeah, "wow." i think you should just act like you dont care. act like whatever he does doesn't bother you.. don't like his shit get to you. maybe he'll then realize that he's just an immature person?