Advice..? hmm?, cheater, cheater Options

[BabiiJay]

Well I'm sorta lost. I'm in a long distance relationship rite? Yeah, so last summer my boyfriend cheated on me with my best friend. I forgave him for it. Right now, we're trying to work things out, but we barely ever get to talk bcuhz we're both so busy. I'm trying to get over the fact that he cheated and look forward but I can't help but look back. And I hate bringing it up. I don't know if I should just give up and take a little break with him and try going out with other guys to see what's out there or just stick with him like I've been doing. He's the sweetest guy in the world but I just can't help thinking he's gonna hurt me again. I have more problems with him but yeah. This is mainly the one I'm stuck on.


So i ask u "strangers" for advice.

Do I forget about his mistake and give him another chance to prove himself?
OR
Do I make him realise what he had?

[pedophile]

Hm, I think you should take a break for 1-2 weeks. If you guys miss each other a lot & shit afterwards, then yeah, you guys are good to go, but otherwise, hm, you decide what happens from there.

Oh, & if you don't wanna do that, then try finding out why he cheated on you & then talk to him about it & make sure that he won't do it again.

[Julianexdx]

complicated. wow. well u have to really think how much he means to u. because if he cared alot for u, he wouldnt even think about cheating. if i were u, id make him realize wat he has done. if a guy would cheat, hese not worth it. ur too good for him

[*yrrnotelekktric*]

well personally, i`d make him
realize what he had. to me, if someone
does the cheating, they were never really
worth it in the beginning. But hey,
thats just me

[cassjamminx]

I'm in a long distance relationship rite? Yeah, so last summer my boyfriend cheated on me with my best friend.

Do I forget about his mistake and give him another chance to prove himself?
OR
Do I make him realise what he had?

Obviously it's hard for you to forget seeing as this happened LAST summer.. as in LAST year? So.. "forgetting about his mistake" hasn't happened yet. I know it's hard to forget, and forgetting something like is probably impossible. In this case, it's more so forgiving than forgetting.

Since this is a long distance relationship, my advice to you wouldn't help much, because I'd suggest that you see him more often. Just so you feel more comfortable around him, to notice how he is around you and stuff so that he catches your mind before you wander.

It's really up to you if you want to give him another chance, just make sure you 100% forgive him before you do, or else it's going to be stuck with you.

[*This Confession*]

Well if you really like this guy and you want it work then you both need to make time for each other out of your busy schedules and talk to each other. Look the first rule/step in a long distance relationship is communication. If you can't even have that then the relationship will go completely down the tubes.

It up to you if you want it to go on also, and if you can't get over the fact that he cheated on you and hes not putting in any effort to help you throughout this time for you and how you can't get it off your mind, BUT FOR THAT have you even told him how you feel?

I don't think you have, so its up to you if you want to end it and move on, or make this relationship work and work harder and talk and express yourself to him.


[eh may not be the best, I got sidetracked]

[OhMyAnniee]

if this was me, i would probably have dumped him. from my point of view, you should dump him and if he asks why then tell him. maybe then he'll realize it?