Porn - Yes Or No? Options

[minnesotan987]

I've been in a relationship, not serious for about a year. It's nothing official however we live together. I've caught him on multiple occasions looking at porn. Most times, it's suppose to be when I'm asleep, however, I sleep light (he knows this) & the computers are in our bedroom.

What's your guys view with porn in a relationship? Is it okay to not get irritated & let them look at it, or is it okay to get annoyed at the fact their looking at it & not being intimate with you?

Most people I've talked to have said "it's a guy thing" however we've had multiple arguments about this.

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This post has been edited by Kathleen: Aug 18 2006, 12:06 PM

[*Kathleen*]

Wow. He's that obvious about it? Kinda like he's rubbing it in your face that he's doing it. I know that past guys I've gone out with have looked at it, although nowhere near me when we're together. Does it bother you that he's doing it, or that he's doing it around you?

[satch]

I've been in a relationship, not serious for about a year. It's nothing official however we live together. I've caught him on multiple occasions looking at porn. Most times, it's suppose to be when I'm asleep, however, I sleep light (he knows this) & the computers are in our bedroom.

What's your guys view with porn in a relationship? Is it okay to not get irritated & let them look at it, or is it okay to get annoyed at the fact their looking at it & not being intimate with you?

Most people I've talked to have said "it's a guy thing" however we've had multiple arguments about this.

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I am going to give you a guys point of view on this, guys look at other girls and porn if they tell you they don't they are lying. It is I guess you can call it a guy thing, but I think it is in our blood or whatever you want to call it. A guy can be with the most awsome girl in the world BUT still look. It does not mean he does not Love/like you it is just something we do. My wife knows that I look at other girls and I will look at porn (once in a while busy house here for me) and sometimes she will watch or look at it with me.

And girls you look at other guys to come on, maybe not so much porn (guys are more visual then women hence the 100,000,000 strip clubs out there) it does not bother me at all.

[minnesotan987]

i guess what bothers me the most is that he is so obvious about it. If I wasn't home I understand but we're literally not even 10 ft away and he does it. He also get's jealous when I talk to other guys so I guess I feel like it's almost a double standard.

[PrincessAda]

Maybe if you have a problem with it,you can talk to him about it.

[LiLaZnGirL122]

i think its okaaay for like once awhile but while your sleeping is like hes trying to hide it its kindaa.. offensive saying your not sexy enough or something askk him . i think its fine tho cus all guys loko at porn

[OkamaPower]

eh you cant understand, guys cant control it. its like we are programmed to like play with mr.hand. if we dont, ur wang is gonna bother you.

[*My Cinderella.*]

If it bothers you...maybe you should talk to him about it.

[Spec_R]

maybe he thought that you were asleep and he didn't want to wake you up. He was probably really in the mood for it maybe?? Personally I wouldn't mind if I have a girlfriend who masterbate to porn... but talking to other guys is a different story.

[satch]

Its just something we do you girls need to understand that we look at porn and it is no disrespect to you girls!

[*This Confession*]

Eh, well Josh's sister pretty much made him think if hes in a relationship with someone and he looks at it then hes cheating on the person hes in a relationship with.

I don't look at it. But I could really care less if anyone looks at it. It doesn't bother me.
Its really up to you, if it does bother you then I think you should bring it up with him and tell him your opinion of it and then let him tell you his opinion.

[oXMuhNirvanaXo]

My boy friend and I have been going out for the past 10 months and he has some what porn on his walls.

I dont really let it get to me because I know he loves me and he wont ever see the girls on his walls in real life beacuse .. porn stars dont come to my town. Hahah that would be hot if they did.

:-)

[*Uronacid*]

Yeah, I used to look at it all the time... XD, I had a girlfriend at the time, and my sister caught me. She told me it was kind of like cheating... I mean drooling over naked women other than my girlfriend... I have to admit, I feel pretty guilty now when I look at porn... I have done it a few times this year, but I really try hard not to... It's honestly, like satch said, "A guy thing"... It's a guys instinct to want sex. Sex is almost considered a need for most guys. We are all pigs deep down inside, but that's just how it is. We can't help but think these thoughts. Some learn to control it better than others, but in some way shape or form all of us need an outlet. Some way to get out our sexual side. Whether it's porn, jerking off (with our fathers, LMAO Bobby... HAHA), talking about it, preforming sexual acts, or doing something else, you have to let that out. Many people who tell you otherwise has either had some sort of sexual truamatic experience that keeps themfrom thinking about it in a good way (I'm saying that with all seriousness), or they're lying to you.

[illriginal]

What's the big deal? He's not f**kin the women in the porn video. Men love sex just like women love sex. Except women can control their sexual urges.

If you're asleep, obviously you're not gonna let him slip inside of you and have his way with you, right? So let him watch his damn porn

As far I go... I can careless for porn, I've learned plenty and I have my own imagination to work with.

[_sarcastic_]

if it's bothering you so much bring it up.
he probably doesn't know that you're not in a deep sleep yet.
heck i know my bf watches porn, i've seen like a lot of those kind of folders on his comp. it doesn't really bother me, since he's not doing anything with them

[cassjamminx]

i don't think that it's that big of a deal really. but if it is to you just bring it up to him, i'm sure he'll understand if you guys are friends

[Dreamerx]

I'm pretty sure all guys have watched it and would you believe them if they said they didn't. You shouldn't worry to much about it becuase nothing really happens porn is just there but i understand that it bothers you when they do it around you. I would be bothered too. it's better to not know if they do it at least you wont have to think to much but try to talk things over or compromise on something so the two of you could work this out. Wish you the best.

[*Zatanna*]

I know this really bothers most women, catching their boyfriends, husbands, lovers, et al looking a porn. It's just never bothered me. My ex and I used to watch it together actually and it was a very healthy experience.

Not to sound too forward, but have you expressed interest in (or are you willing to) watch it with him? You know the old adage, if you can't beat them, join them? :)

[fameONE]

I've been in relationships where the woman I was dating at the time encouraged it. I've also been on the other end; where that particular woman threatened to end the relationship. Whatever the case, servicemen view a lot of porn. If you can't find porn in Marine barracks, then hell has frozen over.

I don't see the problem with it, then again, I don't know how women feel about the issue.

[Just2Fresh]

Its a guy thing

[illriginal]

Plain and simple, girlfriend, wife, mistress, whatever... women will not always put out when a man wants it. What's the back up plan? Porn. With women, there's nymphos and there's non-nymphos. The non-nymphos don't like to have sex all the time because they think the man only wants them for the sex. So men have to understand that protocol in their relationship, so they depend on porn if he has an urge. Now if the woman put out every time the man wanted it, trust me... the only reason they'd have to look at porn was to get new ideas, to spice up the sex, not for their selfish pleasure.

[scottypottyboi]

its like uv heard...its a guy thing and if it bothers you talk to him

[xforgottenlove]

haha guys will be guys and i personally wouldn't mind if my bf did it. but well, if it bothers you, then talk to him.