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DisOriental85
post Aug 15 2006, 10:46 AM
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Ok... I met this girl twice and I was interested in her... When I was starting to hang out with her and her friends, she started dating one of my friends. I got the guts to ask her after she and my friend broke up a while back, out to dinner and a movie on Sat night... I expected a distinct "no" but instead I get "I'm off Wednesday..." We didn't make exact plans until Sunday Night... We decided that I would pick her up after I get off work and we would go eat, then a movie or a nice walk along the Riverwalk. So comes Monday afternoon, while she is at work, she texts me and asks if its ok for her to cancel on me and hang out with her friend before she moves to Florida next week. I didn't want to get in between anything so I said sure.
Maybe I'm looking too into this, but I think she didn't want to go out with me in the first place, but couldn't say no and now came up with an excuse. I'm not saying she is lying about herself moving next week, but I just feel that I was led on and then crushed... Although, I'm really not crushed, it's just that it would've been better if I had received the truthful answer in the beginning. Anybody have any ideas?
 
 
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post Aug 15 2006, 11:07 AM
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It seems like you are looking a little too into this I agree. To me, the situation is she thought you might be a nice guy she would want to get to know better, but she has known this other person longer and has a better relationship with her as a friend because she's known her longer, and if it was going to be between a guy she doesn't really know and a person she's been friends with for awhile, she would pick the person she's shared more with. You know what I mean, I feel like I'm not making sense here...

Hope that helped some...
 
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post Aug 15 2006, 11:53 AM
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yeah, you have to take what she's saying at face value, if she says shes hanging with her friend then you have to acept that. maybe ask her when she wants to plan for it again.
 
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post Aug 15 2006, 01:54 PM
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its awful when people have to over analyze things. she might be moving and wants to hang out with her friend who she has known longer than she has known you. just accept that she wants to go and hang out with her friend.just talk to her and get to know her and plan another day when you guys can date each other. if she cancels again then it prolly means she might not be interested. but if that happends just get things straight with her and tell her if she likes you or not because no one should get lead on and then dissapointed.
 
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post Aug 15 2006, 01:59 PM
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^Ditto. She's known her friend longer than you, that's all. Just ask her if she wants to do something before she moves.
 
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post Aug 17 2006, 02:15 PM
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I guess I am looking TOO into this situation... My reasons for doing so is that I've heard some people are like that... Where they tell you yeah and then at the last minute, they cancel on you or leave you hanging... So I was just making sure... Now, I'm not saying that EVERYONE does this, its just that I was curious to know what others felt and if they felt the same as me. I was proven wrong, but you can't say you wouldn't have felt the same... I hope I'm not offending anyone, because my goal is not to... I was just stating my views. Thanks for the insight, it made me feel better, and yes, I guess I'm over it... I did talk to her again. I asked that maybe we could hangout before she leaves and she hasn't replied at all... It's ok... I'm used to rejections... Isn't it how we deal with rejections and the painful roller coaster ride that make us a better person? Well, another lesson learned and now to keep trying... Thanks again!
 
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post Aug 17 2006, 02:26 PM
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Well, I'm not going to lie, there is a chance that she didn't want to... however, it looks like you're just looking too much into this. She gave you a reasonable excuse - she is moving away next week. Because of that, I wouldn't worry about it too much... I mean, she's moving. Logically, it'd be pretty hard to see her often if anything were to happen. Next time you talk to her, just casually ask if she'd like to reschedule. If she doesn't really make any kind of effort, I'd back off. You don't wanna seem pushy, y'know? I don't think there's really anything to worry about right now. Good luck [:

Edit - oops, you already did that. Well... good luck anyway!
 
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post Aug 17 2006, 10:35 PM
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i think if she was just trying to break the date she'd have told u something else. i think she was honest
 
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post Aug 18 2006, 11:21 AM
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Ok i think the fact that you really did like this chick ,your taking it the wrong way.Im my opinion I think that its best she told she tried to avoid you from the start rather then later,because then it would have hurt more.So dont take it personally and just move on .
 

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