Part 2 of...what to do what to do..., more in depth Options

[brittney414211]

Ok i dont know if everyone has read the last post by me..."what to do what to do" but i just had some more stuff to say about it...My boyfriend is always making promises to me about stuff like i will come see you and i will call you ect. it always ends up to where he just DONT! im not the type of person that like to get my hopes up for nothing and i hate wasting days thinking he is going to come over at 2 and wont show up til 6 or 7 because he says he parents make him do so many chores before he can leave...and you know that gets old...and im getting tired of it...when i tell HIM im going to do something I DO! perfect example YESTERDAY "i will come see u right after work i promise" but he didnt have time to "I will call you at 9" ended up calling me at 12:30...but now the other guy...keeps his promises..."i will get on msn right when i get home" and he actually does...he doesnt make excuses...i always have to call my boyfriend to ask him why he didnt call or where he is at...and when i do i have to listen to excuses for 10 mins...i mean i love him to death and i dont know what i would do if i didnt have to around but im getting pushed past my limits...and i dont think i could ever break up with him....his family is horrible to him and he looks to me to make his life enjoyable some what and i do but it just doesnt seem like enought for him....when we get in fights or something he is always like i dont know what i would do if i didnt have you...i would probaly just kill myself b/c i dont have n e thing else to live for....then WHY DONT HE TREAT ME BETTER...i feel like he needs me when he is lonley but if he is with friends they take my place and im pushed aside AGAIN..there just isnt a easy way out of it...and i talked to the guy i sort of have a crush on and talked to him about it all...and he made it clear he would always be there if i needed to talk to him about n e thing...which made me feel better :D he is a sweetie!!!!

[xforgottenlove]

well i think the best thing to do is to just talk to him. maybe he'll tell you the real reasons why he's delaying everything. and about the other guy, well you might just have to forget about him for now since you already have a bf x__x just be like really good friends with him and see how it turns out [:

[brittney414211]

I know....i just wish me and the other guy could just hang out you know as friend without my boyfriend getting mad or jealous...but i know that will never happen he gets made when i just talk to other guys on msn or something...

[*Uronacid*]

It looks like you have a conflict. You need to tell him what your feeling. Tell him that it bothers you when he doesn't do something if he says he is going to do it. It's not as if your are expecting him to call when he doesn't say he will. When my girlfriend says she is going to do something I exepect her to follow through with it, and if it's not possible I expect her to call me and tell me she can't. I also expect her to feel that very same way towards me. If I say that I'm going to do something, and I don't do what I said I would do. I expect her to make me feel sorry for it. It's not right when people saythey will do something and they don't do it. if he's going to kill himself, better let him know that it's his own fault. You wouldn't feel this way if he would just keep his word.

-try asking him to call you if he finds out that he won't be to do the things he says...

[brittney414211]

and he showed himself up again **3:00** i will call you when i get home its 5:30 now...and he said he would be here at 6!! im getting so tired of this...i want to see him but im so disappointed in him...should i call him when he dont call me or what? should i get mad or just let it blow...i mean im already mad tho

[*Uronacid*]

A man is only worth as much as his word... There is nothing wrong with holding someone to what they say they are going to do. You are only expecting what he is telling you to expect. There is nothing wrong with you. You are only 2 months into this relationship. If I were you I would tell him that you are considering breaking up with him over this. If he comes back with some lame ,"I'm going to kill myself bit."... Tell him that he is makeing his own choices. Maybe if he was taking responsibilty for his actions and holding himself to his own word, he wouldn't be so depressed.

Call him, and tell him how you feel... if he says he's going to do something hold him to his word.

[brittney414211]

its now 6:30....he still hasnt called to tell me he is home....so i finally called him around 6 and his brother answered the phone and said he was just waking up and he would call me back in 2 mins.....its been almost 30....im breaking down....im so upset....i dont know what to do....is making me sick im worring about it so much....my heart is broken....

[iROCKYOURSOCKS]

first of all i dont get how you can have a "crush" with one dude and love another guy?

but anywayz your boyfriend if he feels so great with you then why does he keep on putting things off for later? ask him that and tell him that you feel that he is not respecting you or keeping his promises and that you dont want to hear excuses because excuses means nothing what you need is actions. maybe it is true that he is having a difficult time with his family, if he is ask him to tell you and to trust you that you will help him.

i dont even think you have a crush on the other dude i just think that you like his way of treating you. but dont develop something romantic with him while your going out with your boyfriend because that is just wrong.

GOOD LUCK