what to do...what to do Options

[brittney414211]

Ive been dating my boyfriend now for almost 9 months. But latley things have became boring from doing the same things all the time. just hanging out with each other everyday, and we're starting to argue alot and just have act like a old married couple. When were not fighting i honestly love him...alot...he is basically my bestfriend...But on the other hand there is another guy. Ive known him forever and ive always liked him...we've been seeing each other just around local places and i talk to him more than even on msn and we text back and forth...ive developed a crush outside of my relationship...im always thinkings about him it seems...and i know he likes me back...how do i deal with loving some one so much but wanting to be with someone else and thinking about them all the time! its bringing me down

[*T0rmented_Soul*]

well one of the rules in a relationship is Commitment, it seems to me that you liking this other guy, is bringing up a wall between you and your boyfriend. and to Honestly say, it's not love if your not giving him your full potential. Your sharing the love for his sake because he's your boyfriend but then again sharing it to someone else you've had a crush on for a long time. but If you feel that this relationship is nothing but a downhill then you must do what you have to do. But then again, its not entirely his fault for the arguements, and the boringness between you guys, you've found passion for another and you lay your eyes away from your BF. soyou should think about it from here on.

[cassjamminx]

hmm it seems like you really need time to sort things out. just ask yourself who would you rather be with? if you get bored after 9months of the same person, then obviously he might not be the one. and if it's arguing that's bring you down, just talk it out with him before another fight comes up. but about the crush, you should mention that to your current boyfriend. and just really sort out your feelings.

[*yrrnotelekktric*]

does your boyfriend know about this other guy?

[Aerjae]

It's simple! Go for your little 'crush' if you feel the end of your relationship with your boyfriend is not gonna be a pretty sight.

[blacknailpolish]

just ask yourself who would you rather be with?

That's not always so easy, but it's what you should do. Who do you have more fun with? Who do you like more, really? It's a tough decision, but it's one you have to make.

[*Uronacid*]

Ive been dating my boyfriend now for almost 9 months. But latley things have became boring from doing the same things all the time. just hanging out with each other everyday, and we're starting to argue alot and just have act like a old married couple. When were not fighting i honestly love him...alot...he is basically my bestfriend...But on the other hand there is another guy. Ive known him forever and ive always liked him...we've been seeing each other just around local places and i talk to him more than even on msn and we text back and forth...ive developed a crush outside of my relationship...im always thinkings about him it seems...and i know he likes me back...how do i deal with loving some one so much but wanting to be with someone else and thinking about them all the time! its bringing me down

Agruements/conflict are something that are always going to occur in a relationship. Two people with different personalities are bound to disagree on things. In a relationship it's up to you to take these arguements and turn them into something possitive. It means you have to compromise and work them out. Maybe you don't feel need to do that, and your looking for other options so that you don't have to.

Do you think that relationship with this new guy is going to be any different 9 months down the road? People are attracted to what they don't know. I personaly believe that you you like this guy becuase you don't know as much about him. People are attacted to people that they don't know because:

THEY DON'T KNOW ANYTHING AND CAN HOPE THAT THE PERSON IS EVERYTHING THEY DREAMED.

This concept is very unrealistic, but it's deffinitly true. People do this all the time. That's why when a guy/girl gives another guy/girl "the look", and that guy/girl giving you the look is attractive. You like them. You don't know them, it doesn't make sense, but that's exactly why you like them in the first place.