is the first the hardest? Options

[blurrr]

is a first boyfriend the hardest to get over??? cuz i was with this guy and i guess were done but i anbsolutely cant get over him ...its only been a day but im just dieing...its not only mentally and emotionally killing me but its actually causing me stomach pain and headaches and it hasnt left my mind for one second!! help!?!?

[LiSFORLiNDA]

Oh gosh i know how you feel..
but wasnt my first bf, but he was my first love;
let me give you some advice,try not to think about it
but dont like pretend it never happen, if you wanna get over him
i always hear being friends with the guy helps, it helped me for like the first 2 weeks haha but then it went down hill...it was like my life felt incomplete without him...all i can say is life will go on, there are PLENTY of guys out there believe me...theres like this saying i forgot like theres plenty of fish in the sea haha i think thats it well if you guys are meant to be then you'll get back together good luck

[magicfann]

is a first boyfriend the hardest to get over??? cuz i was with this guy and i guess were done but i anbsolutely cant get over him ...its only been a day but im just dieing...its not only mentally and emotionally killing me but its actually causing me stomach pain and headaches and it hasnt left my mind for one second!! help!?!?

hah` noob, i didn`t have any trouble

[blacknailpolish]

Aww I know it hurts believe me. You just have to let yourself hurt for awhile, even if its hard. Then you just have to remind yourself that there will be other guys, and there really will be. It takes awhile, especially with first loves. If the physical pain doesnt go away after awhile, you should probably talk to someone you trust about that. Otherwise, hang in there!

[Just2Fresh]

hah` noob, i didn`t have any trouble

Thats because your some fat kid who has no life but to play Counter Strike all day. You couldnt get a gf if you tried.


Anyways yeah the first is usually the hardest to get over especially if youve been with them for awhile too. It just takes a little time to get over em and your realize eventually that they werent so great comapred to the guys your going to meet later on in life.

[*liquid.*]

^ Actually I think hes probably better off than you but.. The guys really funny I gotta admit!


Nah the first isn't the hardest, wait til your second one!

[AngelinaTaylor]

No. The first person who you love, however, will be.

[prettixpinay]

i think so. i was going out with this guy for 4 months...he was my first boyfriend, first kiss, first everything! when i moved a few towns over...everything started to go downhill. we didn't really get to see each other as much...but we still kept in touch by texting and Iming eachother.

then, when he could take the long distance thing anymore...he broke up with me. i was really heartbroken. we still talked to each other as friends for awhile....but we recently got into a fight. so...i don't talk to him anymore. lol!

messed up....i know.

but i still think about him...and i come out of the daydream thinking "what the hell am i doing?!"

[goodcharlotte]

I think it is because you don't have a normal routine of getting over them. People usually do the same thing every time they get heat broken. For example I always turn up music really loud and play along. And then I work out like crazy until my sister smacks the sense back into me. That is my routine and most people get theirs. That is probably why you had such a hard time.

[magicfann]

Thats because your some fat kid who has no life but to play Counter Strike all day. You couldnt get a gf if you tried.
Anyways yeah the first is usually the hardest to get over especially if youve been with them for awhile too. It just takes a little time to get over em and your realize eventually that they werent so great comapred to the guys your going to meet later on in life.

haha, ur funny and ur trying to hard

look, why don`t u go rob a store or something

[Smoogrish]

Jeff, will you stop bashing people?

[me1issaaaa]

I think it is because you don't have a normal routine of getting over them. People usually do the same thing every time they get heat broken. For example I always turn up music really loud and play along. And then I work out like crazy until my sister smacks the sense back into me. That is my routine and most people get theirs. That is probably why you had such a hard time.

I don't see how anyone could break up with you in the first place, but hey.

My first relationship was very hard to get over. However, it was a long-distance thing, so we didn't get to see each other very often. Because of that, I think that he was a better boyfriend in my head, because that's how I thought he was - I didn't get to experience how he really acted all the time as much as I should have. It's just different for everybody, I guess. But you'll move on; it took time and patience, but I did.

[goodcharlotte]

Every break up takes time and patience like Melissa said. If you keep occupied then it may help. Also being with people who feel the same way helps too. Anything that you enjoy that doesnt have a direct connection with your loved one helps.

[blurrr]

actually this guy wasnt my first boyfriend..i never had a boyfriend and we decided not to be boyfriend girlfriend...he was definitely my first love tho..we even tell eachother we love each other...i was "friends" with him for a lil over a yr and i hada crush on him for abt 7 or 8 months and then we were getting realyl close n i told him i like him and he told me hed liked me for a while also!!! so i was ecstatic!!! i had exactley what i'd wanted for months..then we got closer n closer he was my first everything besides for kiss. i was even realllly really shy and i owuldnt kiss him...he had to kiss me and the first time i had my shirt off in front of him i was SOOOOO shy....that was def a first and we got to the point where....w/e u get the point but it took alot for me to get comfortable and not its just all gone... i only told him like 3 months ago that i liked him as more than a friend and weve been very close for about 2 of the 3 months then he just started getting real distand until this!

[goodcharlotte]

Well in that case. Hang out with your other friends. Get your flirt on. I can't believe I just said/typed that. But it helps. Being with friends always helps.

[Hiphop d[-_-]b]

Not the first boyfriend, the first love.

[Aerjae]

Mostly depends on what kind of a person you are. Like, if you are an EMO person then... yah. It also depends on how close you were to him.

[BrokenDream]

My first boyfriend/love was extremely hard to get over. >>; I couldn't stop thinking about him for months! You just have to move on. There is alot of guys out there. Sooner or later, you'll find the one.

[da_SALSA]

yeah it is hard--it takes time. and that's the only way along w/ preoccupying yourself.

don't worry much, it'll go away soon.

[Gypsy Eyes]

Yeah, it really is. I'm still not over mine and it's been two years.

[no-name]

b' date='Aug 8 2006, 1:08 AM' post='2220537']
Not the first boyfriend, the first love.

agreed..first love is always the hardest to get over

[nycaf12]

its hard because its your first one.. your first love.. its not surprising to miss him/her for a while. youll get over it after you find a new one. but yet again. for me, even tho i have another gf, i still sometimes think about the times ive spent with my first one.

[Zachy-Poo]

1 day? wow, he got you whooped!
i guess it all depends. just got out a 4 year
relationship and well...it's not easy.

[TaintedDesires]

Probably not the first boyfriend but your first love. It's devastating. It'll feel better if you make yourself busy instead of wallowing in the corner.

[*Uronacid*]

Hi, I had this same problem with my first girl-friend. your first love is usually what causes this kind of pain. Just so happens that many times people pour everything they have into their first relaitonship. I know your hurt, but you have to keep going. It's difficult, everything seems grey and blurry... the things people say to you probably sound distorted becuase of all the voices and thoughts running through your head.

Keep yourself busy, and try to hang out with your friends. Do things, go for walks, wright down your thoughts, work out... try to do phisical things. Also, talk to your friends about it. Don't keep it in... the more you let out, the less time it will take to get over the situation.

What was it that caused the breakup?