I'm so nervous, about having sex for the first time. Options

[SemiErotic]

Alright, I'm a virgin, and that might be changing very soon. I've heard a lot of really bad things from my girl friends, and they made me all nervous. I'm not expecting it to be wonderful, but I was hoping that someone could tell me something positive about their first time.

[*salcha4u*]

Why don't you just....not do it

[nyctophiliac]

Why don't you just....not do it

that's what I was thinking

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anyways...I don't have any sex stories...because I'm a virgin...

[PrincessAda]

^^same here.

you don`t have to do what the crowd is doing ya know.

[*xcaitlinx*]

i'm not a virgin, and i understand how you're feeling. it varies from girl to girl...you may not feel much pain at all! if you trust your partner and you're doing it because you love them, then it's not bad at all. the pain goes away and you will most likely enjoy it. the first time is usually the worst, but once you do it a few times you'll like it better.

[SemiErotic]

I'm considering just not doing it at all, like the first three people said.

[nyctophiliac]

good for you
only do it if you really love who you're with

[AngelinaTaylor]

Don't do it.. you're insecure. Do it with someone you LOVE and trust, and you won't be worried at all.

Besides, you're quite young.

[SarahxJoy]

^ I'll have to agree. If you're unsure about doing it, and how it'll be, then my guess is is that you're not ready. You should talk about it with your significant other, so it's less scary for you (probably him too), and so that you won't be nervous right up 'til it happens. 'Cause you might regret it later on. Make sure it's something you really want. He can't force you into anything.

[SemiErotic]

The thing is, I really do want to. I do trust him and we both really care about and love eachother, I'm just so nervous about it.

[AngelinaTaylor]

^ You're not ready, trust me. If you were, you wouldn't need to post this here. Many people regret their first time because of that.. It's something that you can't take back.

[*T0rmented_Soul*]

For a guy their first time may be great but then for a lady their first can be different. if your being pressured to do it. I'd say don't do it.

[lovescream]

There's always a first in everything.
If you want to, by all means, have sex.
If you believe you're ready, then go for it.
I honestly don't care. 'Cause like I said, there's a first time in everything.
I've lost my virginity already, but I've forgotten about it.. =\ It's like it never happened.

[rorhinna]

Don't do it!
And if you're feeling pressure
from your boyfriend, and he
doens't want to abide by your
choice on that, then he doesn't
really care for you... that's all
he's looking for.

do the smart thing, and just
DONT get involved in that.

[*liquid.*]

I'll be the positive one!
Positive side: If you dont enjoy with the guy, at least you'll have some experience for the next guy!

Tell him to use studded for extra pleasure!


http://www.freehomepages.com/liquidized/003.wma

Play that while RIDING THE STICKKKKKkk

[Annie5332]

My advice: If you're nervous, you're not ready. If you two truely care about each other and whatnot, then you shouldn't be so nervous. Anyways, you are quite young. Why not wait? I'm just going to wait till marriage, that way I know I'm not making a mistake =]

[Spec_R]

it sound to me that you don't know what to do or confused. maybe you are not ready yet. To some girls losing their virginity is a big step in life. It's a very magical moment and only happen once in life. You are doing it because he is someone special to you? In my opinon, I think you should wait until the right time and moment comes. be STRONG

[*Teenage Mutant Ninja Meg*]

if you aren't fully confident that this is what you want to do, THEN DON'T DO IT!
you will regret it if you have sex before you are ready.
i've heard the first time is always the worst, because i'm sure it's painful trying to accomodate something bigger than a tampon.
but if you trust your partner i'm sure it'll all be fine.
the minute you second-guess your choice, i advise you to WAIT.

[iROCKYOURSOCKS]

^ You're not ready, trust me. If you were, you wouldn't need to post this here. Many people regret their first time because of that.. It's something that you can't take back.

i agree you dont have to do what other people are doing you know if your not ready then your partner should respect that.. and Angelina Taylor is right if you are so ready and trust your partner you wouldnt be posting. think about it.

[Doona]

This is a subject I've heard alot about at my age... I think long as you sure about wat ur doing and will not be mad about it in the future and make sure the person is the right person. Go head just dont make any mistakes.

[Just2Fresh]

it sound to me that you don't know what to do or confused. maybe you are not ready yet. To some girls losing their virginity is a big step in life. It's a very magical moment and only happen once in life. You are doing it because he is someone special to you? In my opinon, I think you should wait until the right time and moment comes. be STRONG

Took the words out of my mouth. If your not SURE you want to or your nervous then your not ready yet. When you get to the point where you and him are alone and it just gets to that point and your ok, not thinking about anything bad and everything feels right then thats when your ready. Make sure he wears a condom and make sure it doesnt break. Dont want no kids after the first time youve had sex yenno.

[Smoogrish]

If you have any doubts, don't do it. Simple as that.

Yeah. And if you do, be protected. Unless you want kids.

[AngelinaTaylor]

^ Regarding that, you should know that sometimes, even if both of you are protected, it can still result in a kid.

[cassjamminx]

^ True (if it rips and what not)

But if you're nervous.. then you might not be ready. Don't let the nervousness take control of you though. If you really want it, you should be up for anything, even if that means a little it of pain.

[xforgottenlove]

hmm to me, i think that if you're having these feelings then you shouldn't do it at all.