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 Jul 27 2006, 04:25 AM
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sad to say the other day my girl of 2 yearz and 3 days left me for a nother dood? wtf
she said that she was gettin tired of me bein to controlling and not letting her talk to a bunch of guy wich r her friends , iono i guess i didnt want to loose her:( m i rong? |
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Jul 27 2006, 04:35 AM
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Jul 27 2006, 05:03 AM
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 (′ ･ω･｀) Group: Official Designer Posts: 6,179 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 72,477 |
Probably all you can do now is just move on
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| *Uronacid* |
Jul 27 2006, 10:56 AM
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Yeah, something very similar happened to me... Exept before she broke up with me, I broke up with her... Yeah, my advice to you is to hang out with people. Also, talk to people about what happened.
I'm sure there was truth in what she said, but don't take it to heart. There are times you need to take control in a relationship, and then there are times when you need to back off. What didshe mean buy you being to controlling... |
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Jul 27 2006, 11:06 AM
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 CB's Official Ninja Group: Member Posts: 709 Joined: Jul 2006 Member No: 434,477 |
All you can do is move on and seek bigger and better things. Nothing you can do about her now, shes a lost cause. Just take this as an experience that you can learn from.
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| *Uronacid* |
Jul 27 2006, 11:24 AM
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^yeah, thats what I meant
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Jul 27 2006, 11:34 AM
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POWAPOSTA Group: Member Posts: 3,169 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 30,725 |
lol
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Jul 27 2006, 03:11 PM
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You kept her from her guy friends? That's a no-no in a girls book... We get angry if you don't let us talk to them, or hang with them.
My guy, see he gets jealous, I know he does... But he doesn't stop me from hanging out with my friends, or talking to them, because he knows I hate that. (the jealousy thing is cute though!) He knows I love him, and that should be enough for him :3 to know I won't cheat! I'm sorry she left you like that, an ex of mine did that to me... Best thing to do, is get over her, hang with your buds. They'll be bound to cheering you up :) 
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Jul 27 2006, 07:18 PM
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and hopefully, the mistake doesnt repeat.
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Jul 27 2006, 08:36 PM
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 Mrs. Delonge Group: Member Posts: 426 Joined: May 2006 Member No: 406,185 |
that sucks so bad... i couldn't imagine being in your place :[ maybe you should ask her for one last chance, and promise her you'll be less controlling. And if she says no, then I guess you'll have to move on.
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Jul 27 2006, 09:26 PM
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well i suppose if your really controlling and you don't let her talk to her other friends then she has the right to dump you.
I mean you shouldn't control someone into being someone their not and hang out with people just because of your jealousy. Thats kind of rude. No offense. But if you want her back and shes willing to allow that if you change, then you need to get your feelings in check and make sure your not the same person you were to her before. |
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Jul 27 2006, 09:29 PM
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 Sharie. Group: Member Posts: 2,429 Joined: Dec 2003 Member No: 103 |
QUOTE(airam @ Jul 27 2006, 9:34 AM)  lol Haha that made me laugh for some reason. I guess she does have a good reason for leaving you, but to leave you for another guy kind of revokes what she said. It might have been an excuse. But really, if she had problems with that, she should have told you and maybe you guys could have worked it out. |
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Jul 27 2006, 09:30 PM
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 Peggy. Group: Member Posts: 2,508 Joined: Aug 2005 Member No: 214,025 |
Make sure you don't limit your next one's social life (just because she has a bf doesn't mean depriving her of guy friends).
Move on with your life and find another one. |
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Jul 27 2006, 10:36 PM
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 live + laugh = life [[you don't need love]] Group: Member Posts: 191 Joined: Jul 2006 Member No: 441,854 |
all u can do now is move on
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Jul 27 2006, 11:31 PM
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 ouch
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Jul 28 2006, 12:45 AM
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Member Group: Member Posts: 21 Joined: Jul 2006 Member No: 444,683 |
wow thanks for all the advice and help and i thought about it alot last not after i posted this and i figred u know i mise well let it go and forget becuz every thing happens for a reason rite and also i feel like it wud be diff now i dont want her back only if she tovemes me , other wise i see no point , i cant be with her if she doesn tfeel the way i feel for her i feel liek im just cheating my self in that situation , but thnks for every 1 helpin and what not it really did help
final asnswer? = letting go the sooner the better :( |
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Jul 28 2006, 03:28 AM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 363 Joined: Jan 2006 Member No: 344,469 |
Yeah it is ^
But don't be soo selfish and controlling with the next gf. As I said earlier, we don't like that. Haha. |
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Jul 28 2006, 04:02 AM
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*Influential Guitarist & Inspiring Writer* Group: Official Member Posts: 1,217 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 51,134 |
dayum bro i know alot of people say this but shoot I know how you feel...2 years thats pretty long....and sometimes you think too hard you get confused at the decisions you dont know what to do....and maybe sometimes when you really think of it you start doubting your self.. like man what a waste of time and you be like what could I have done in those two years... but doode for her to leave you with another fella ... that sh*t feels pretty damn bad...but time heals and that seems proven to work...even letting go may be the hardest..sometimes you dont know if ever let go..yenno what im sayin..juss hold in there man
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Jul 28 2006, 10:15 AM
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 girls peepee when they see me Group: Member Posts: 207 Joined: May 2006 Member No: 407,388 |
i feel your pain man.
i was a control freak but i also treated her like queen. in girl's views, they remember the bad, not the good. ex broke up with me after 4 years. tells me that 'i love you, but not in love with you' shit. i was depressed, pissed as hell. hard time going to sleep, blah blah blah. long drives, hang with your boys...and especially time heals. 'if the milk is spoiled...do you put it back in fridge'? remember that... if its meant to be, it'll happen. if not, enjoy what you have man. |
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Jul 28 2006, 11:44 AM
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 the most flavored one Group: Member Posts: 132 Joined: Jun 2005 Member No: 148,593 |
join the club dude!
but don't worry, you'll feel better someday. |
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Jul 28 2006, 02:31 PM
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move on. my best advice.
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Jul 29 2006, 03:39 PM
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 the name is ada. Group: Official Member Posts: 4,688 Joined: Dec 2005 Member No: 334,608 |
Yeah moving on is the best.You`ll feel better soon.
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Jul 29 2006, 05:57 PM
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 <33 Group: Member Posts: 2,745 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 114,234 |
QUOTE(airam @ Jul 27 2006, 11:34 AM) lol Excuse me.. it's not funny. Anyways, just move on. There are other fish in the sea. Well, err, girls  .
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| *Uronacid* |
Jul 29 2006, 09:12 PM
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The more I think about the big picture here's what i think:
If you truley are being controlling: -you need to learn to back off a little bit -jealousy is the one thing that will turn you into a control freak -you need to realize that she choose you becuase she liked you... se could have choosen all those other guys If you weren't being a control freak: -don't take it to heart, maybe she just wanted to get away from you, so she used it as an excuse -don't become so careless in future relationships that your partner feels like you don't care. -don't becuase someone who avoids conflict just becuase youare afriad of "controlling someone" Some extra stuffs: -sometimes people need to be told off, and sometimes they don't... I mean, if your girlfriend started smoking or something, and you couldn't handle that... yeah, thats probably something you should say something about... her guy friends are completely disrespecting her body and it bothers you... yeah, thats probably something you should say something about... I remmber one time this guy kept touching my ex-g/f's leg, and she got mad at me for getting mad about it (I yelled at her for letting him doit... she was too it was pretty lame) ... she said I was being tooo controlling, and that I should have just let it slide... >.> forget that... |
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