First Kiss, First boyfriendd., err...what?!?! Options

[chinke3xcuti3]

Have you noticed that "kids" or should I say, "pre-teens", seem to rush into things, like, for example, the first kiss, their first love, etc.

Well, most of my friends have already had the first kiss, I haven't. Most of my friends either WANT a boyfriend, or already HAD a boyfriend, or still has one, none of those go for me. For me, I want my first kiss to be unexpected, and romantic, while all my other friends got thier first kiss in spin the bottle. I'm thirteen, turning fourteen soon, and when I say, "haha..i've never kissed anybody before, except on the cheek," they're all like. "OMFG. ARE YOU SERIOUS?" and start making a big deal out of it. I'm more of the person who just wants to have fun at this age, I'm not ready for commitment, and all that stupid drama. Like, boys have asked me out, but I always reject them, and some people start rumors saying I'm a lesbian JUST because I've never had a boyfriend. I find it kind of stupid how like, they're all rushing into these kind of stuff....I mean, why can't they relax, and take things slow? Sometimes they even make a big deal out of ME not having a boyfriend, or not having my first kiss, and it really irritates me.

So, the question is, How can I send them the message that I'm REALLY not ready for these kind of stuff, but not go bilistic on them, and be like, 'JUST LEAVE ME ALONE'....andd. What do you think of kids these days rushing into everything? ehh..some of the sixth graders at my school has already had sex, and one of the sixth graders was expelled from school because she was pregnant. >.< Oh, and...is it wrong to want to take things at a slow pace or something...because...people freak if you say you've never kissed a boy at this age..

[ilovAL092]

well, i guess u could tell them kinda like what u said in the post.."u want it to be special and unexpected" stuff liek that..and u could like rub in there face that like there first kiss was nothin, and urs is gonna be something u'll never forget...and i think it's stupid that kids these days r rushin that kinda stuff, but w/e it's there choices....and i seriously can't believe that 6TH GRADERS!!! are having sex already! that's hard to believe that that's what the world is comin too...and i really don't think that it's wrong to take things slow..cuz i mean, i do too

[xforgottenlove]

lols wow... i totally respect your decision. cuhz i lost my first kiss at 13 and even though, i really like that person and don't really regret it, it feels like i just sorta rushed it. mmm so i guess you're really lucky. i wish i thought that way when i lost my first kiss :/

and about your question, just say what ~*Blondie*~ said. it would totally make them feel that YOU are the smart one :DD

[jennyjenny]

you guys are talking about your first kiss like it's sex

it's no big deal.

[PrincessAda]

You shouldn`t care what they think cause theres like people who is way older than you who hasn`t had a relationship or kiss yet.

[pinayprincess]

just say 'no' easy & simple...

you guys are talking about your first kiss like it's sex

yup !

[xwinnie]

If someone asked me if I was a lesbian, I'd say yes (not that I am o-o). Makes them shut up and whatever. Like, what does it matter to them? Go away? Tell them to shut up and go away. :D

[AngelinaTaylor]

You're the first teenager (I'm assuming you're one?) to actually use their head like this. I admire you And I agree with you. Focusing on friends and education at that age is the way to go.

Pinayprincess/Cake, a first kiss is pretty important, in case you didn't know. And that wasn't the point of the post anyway.

[_sarcastic_]

i totally agree with you.
i don't get why so many kids are wanting to rush into things like this.
i think 13 is abit to young to even be in a relationship. i mean have fun. when i was 13 i wanted nothing to do with guys what so ever.

just ignore them, they're the ones there are missing out

[colleen92]

i feel ya. you're one of the few people our age that doesn't want to be part of the like 5 day "relationship." followed by days of break up "gossip." people think they're mature and ready for all that and they aren't. i hate how people think they're so cool if they have a boyfriend. and the only way to get popular is to kiss a guy.

as for answering your question, when someone tells you they think you're a lesbian, just say, "fck you." haha just kidding. but seriously just tell them you don't want to be sucked into the drama and you'd rather have your first kiss with someone you really like. and i wouldn't be worried about "commitment" because most middle school relationships don't last longer than a month lol

[lyin_in_wait]

tell em to cool it. you want to do something different, you want to be proud of what you do and who you are, not who/what you did....

aw youre just like me when i was 13-14. i didnt waste any time trying to get a bf or get a kiss or any of that stuff. i wanted it to happen because i wanted to, not because every one else was doing it. which is why i think younger people rush. they see older people, or their friends doing something and the rest just want to catch up. which doesnt make it right but it happens..... kudos for you though.

[vn_cuti3]

lol i can feel the same thing ur feelin bout the whole "kiss/boifriend" thing since i'm the same age n goin throu the same thing. well if peepz keep freaking out bout how u never had ur 1st kiss then jus simply tell them that u only wanna have fun n that u don wanna kiss ny1 jus to fit in cuz then that'll make u look like a slut......so ya

[miss kate x33]

noooo its not..
i think we are in the same boat.. except for people don't think im lesbian.
i know how you feel.
and isn't it terrible how girls so young are getting pregnant?
ahh its horrible.. i was at jack in the box and i saw this girl that looked to be the age of like 15 or 16.. and i was like wow,i couldn't even imagine if that happend to me

[BrokenDream]

It's totally just fine to take things slow. I'm your age, and I don't really want a boyfriend either. Too much drama like you said. I've already had my first kiss, and first boyfriend.. but we broke up.

If your friends snap at you and say, "OMG no way you never had a boyfriend/first kiss/never had sex?!" I'd just look them in the eye and say, "YOUR the one that's taking things too fast!" or what-not. Hey, that's what I'd do .

And WTF is up with people asking you if your lesbian! Seriously I'd just say, "No I'm not! I'm not like you freaks who take things too fast.. like having sex at this very young age, first boyfriend, and first kiss.. I take things slowly, and that's how I roll!"

[Joss-eh-lime]

im almost 15 and still no first kiss, never even held hands...
i guess thats just me..

but you should just tell your friends "im not gonna do the same things you do.." i dunno..

[hiromi]

I respect your choice to keep your first kiss and try not to rush things.
(i'm actually one of those people who got their first kiss through spin-the-bottle. i've also been felt-up by playing the 'nervous game'. Nevertheless, I feel like a total slutbag now, so don't do what I did.)

I agree with BrokenDream though. Just tell them you're taking it at a steady pace, while they're the ones rushing to be older than they are, and believe me, once you reach a certain point, they'll regret what they've done.

[murderwaltz]

well, i definitely agree with you about kids these days rushing into things. it seems as though our generation is lost, really. the highschool i go too is pretty "ghetto," even though i hate labels. my class wasn't as bad as this year's freshmen. i took pity upon them and im ashamed on some of them. one girl got AIDs at a daytime. and the virgins who came in, are not virgins when the school year is over. im not sure why girls and guys are losing their virginity so fast. i guess it might be peer pressure or the fact that they had sex & gloat about it. but i didnt get my first kiss until i was 15. and i started dating in 6th grade. im 16 now & im still a virgin (i plan to be until i wed or if i found the right person), so don't even worry about it. i have plenty of friends who havent had their first kiss or first boyfriend. going at a slow place is good. who cares what your friends say about it? just play along with it or say smartass remarks. maybe that'll shut up 'em up. but dont even stress about sex, kiss, boyfriends, etc. until you're ready.. go for it.

[lalalaLANUH]

Amen amen! I'm in the same boat as you. Mostly my friends respect my view on matters such as this, but yeah people have said I was a lesbian. Just tell 'em straight up you don't need that kind of stress in your life. (I also told my friends that I thought it was ridiculous to have boyfriends in the third grade and we got into an arguement....maybe that's why we never talk about) In any case, no need to mention that part. =D