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QUOTE I know that people have it worse than me, and that only makes me feel shittier because I realize I feel bad and I don't feel like I have to right to feel bad about myself and I hate myself even more becuase I feel like a selfish stupid moron... You shouldn't feel like that. So what if people have it worse than you? You went through a rough time. Try to build up your self-esteem. Learn to love yourself. Just trust your girlfriend. Talk to her. She's supposed to be like your best friend. You're supposed to be able to complain about your fears to her. She loves you and I'm sure she wants to make you feel better. Everytime you overanalyze, just think of the happy times with her or sweet things she said. That's how I got over paranoia..I thought about the way he always smiled at me and all the good times. You should enjoy the relationship while it lasts. And I know that right now it seems so impossible to face you fears and make them go away. But they will eventually. I was in the same situation before. Talking to my boyfriend (now my ex) helped a lot. |
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Jul 12 2006, 08:46 PM
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Well I can only tell you one thing:
those issues are in your past.. so let them stay there. They're over. A bad relationship doesn't mean that all of your relationships will be the same. Just let it all go, man.. |
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Jul 12 2006, 08:53 PM
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If I were you, I would either give her the link to this page, or print off what you wrote, give it to her, and tell her that it's something you said on a message board.
I'm sure she won't reject you, or think that you're a pussy... And if she does think you're a pussy, then she's not even good enough for you... The best thing is to get it out in the open.. But really, all it takes is time. It takes time to build up trust in someone - trust that they won't leave you. |
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Jul 12 2006, 10:09 PM
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 ^aparently you didn't read all the post I'm his girlfriend. QUOTE those issues are in your past.. so let them stay there. They're over. A bad relationship doesn't mean that all of your relationships will be the same. Just let it all go, man.. I've told him things similar to this. Such as I'm not everyone else, so he shouldn't worry about it so much, and so on. Believe me, I doubt any of you could really say something that can make him quit. More than likely I've already said it all more than likely. Once we talk for a while hes usually fine though. |
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Jul 12 2006, 10:20 PM
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daughter of sin Group: Member Posts: 1,653 Joined: Mar 2006 Member No: 386,134 |
^ So why is he posting if he won't take advice? Seems really illogical to me.
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Jul 12 2006, 10:46 PM
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he read everyones advice, its just something hes already thought of more than likely, hes waiting for something he hasen't thought of yet.
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Jul 12 2006, 11:12 PM
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daughter of sin Group: Member Posts: 1,653 Joined: Mar 2006 Member No: 386,134 |
^ I know he's read it, but he's not taking it really..
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Jul 13 2006, 06:08 AM
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^ maybe it's because she's already mentioned what we're saying before and he tried to follow it but it doesn't work for him. I think that's why he's resorting to us.
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Jul 13 2006, 01:21 PM
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QUOTE(This Confession @ Jul 12 2006, 11:46 PM)  he read everyones advice, its just something hes already thought of more than likely, hes waiting for something he hasen't thought of yet. yes QUOTE(x0xIlmBx0x @ Jul 12 2006, 6:45 PM) You shouldn't feel like that. So what if people have it worse than you? You went through a rough time. Try to build up your self-esteem. Learn to love yourself. Just trust your girlfriend. Talk to her. She's supposed to be like your best friend. You're supposed to be able to complain about your fears to her. She loves you and I'm sure she wants to make you feel better. Everytime you overanalyze, just think of the happy times with her or sweet things she said. That's how I got over paranoia..I thought about the way he always smiled at me and all the good times. You should enjoy the relationship while it lasts. And I know that right now it seems so impossible to face you fears and make them go away. But they will eventually. I was in the same situation before. Talking to my boyfriend (now my ex) helped a lot. I guess complaining about the way I feel makes me think I'm this burden... I think that if I talk to much about it people will be driven away by the negativity... hmmm... but you are right, thinkin about smiles and stuff... replacing my thoughts seems to work better than some other things I have tried... I have to accept the fact that she loves me I think... but I don't understand how. I mean, I know she does, and I try to believe it and I love her but... I just don't understand how she can do it... I dont want to ask her why she does eithere, becuase I feel like it won't help and I feel like I will just be being a knat because I aksed that before to understand, but it really didn't help... Hmmm, I don't think I could ever understand... i have talked to alot of people about this... well, recently... I never accually started talking about this problem with people until... recently... I guess it also just seems like all my problems came out again when I started dating holly... but then again, I hadn't dated anyone for 1 1/2 years before her... I guess I was afriad of another relationship... I don't even think I really thought about dating until I was talking to her she kind of just like fell into my life... completely random... I mean, I don't even understand how she found me or even why she requested to be my friend on myspace... She never requests people to be her friend (or rarely)... makes me wonder... it also makes me feel special :']... It makes me feel like it was meant to appen because it was so crazy and random... and if this girl with such a beautiful amazing personality just randomly falls into your life and shes also so pretty too.... how can you just sit there and not wonder... if it was part of some crazy master plan or something... even if it's not meant to last forever. It has to be meant to be... and... and... i'm speachless... (<-- that doesn't happen very often) |
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Jul 13 2006, 01:55 PM
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^ Just accept it.. it happens to people. Simple as that.
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Jul 13 2006, 02:29 PM
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QUOTE(Uronacid @ Jul 13 2006, 2:21 PM) yes I guess complaining about the way I feel makes me think I'm this burden... I think that if I talk to much about it people will be driven away by the negativity... hmmm... but you are right, thinkin about smiles and stuff... replacing my thoughts seems to work better than some other things I have tried... I have to accept the fact that she loves me I think... but I don't understand how. I mean, I know she does, and I try to believe it and I love her but... I just don't understand how she can do it... I dont want to ask her why she does eithere, becuase I feel like it won't help and I feel like I will just be being a knat because I aksed that before to understand, but it really didn't help... Hmmm, I don't think I could ever understand... i have talked to alot of people about this... well, recently... I never accually started talking about this problem with people until... recently... I guess it also just seems like all my problems came out again when I started dating holly... but then again, I hadn't dated anyone for 1 1/2 years before her... I guess I was afriad of another relationship... I don't even think I really thought about dating until I was talking to her she kind of just like fell into my life... completely random... I mean, I don't even understand how she found me or even why she requested to be my friend on myspace... She never requests people to be her friend (or rarely)... makes me wonder... it also makes me feel special :']... It makes me feel like it was meant to appen because it was so crazy and random... and if this girl with such a beautiful amazing personality just randomly falls into your life and shes also so pretty too.... how can you just sit there and not wonder... if it was part of some crazy master plan or something... even if it's not meant to last forever. It has to be meant to be... and... and... i'm speachless... (<-- that doesn't happen very often) Think of it this way... What if one day Holly comes to you and asks you why you fell in-love with her of all people? What would your answer be? I think people see you different than the way you see yourself. You may think that you're the worst person on Earth and it turns out that you're not to other people, and they're actually attracted to you. You're very lucky to have her and she's also very lucky to have you. I think that you should just be thankful that you have someone that awesome in your life, and I think that you should stop questioning. Everyone deserves someone special. |
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Jul 13 2006, 03:24 PM
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QUOTE She loves me, but how? How can anyone love someone who is so f**ked up... How? Simply because she does. Coming from someone who loves a guy who has had a rough past--she just does. She sees something about you that you can't see. Let her love you and just love her. What happened in the past is in the past. Although it's hard to let it go and forget, you have to. The more you live in the past, the more you're going to let so many things in the present go--like Holly. |
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Jul 13 2006, 10:44 PM
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QUOTE(Angelina Taylor @ Jul 13 2006, 2:55 PM) ^ Just accept it.. it happens to people. Simple as that. you are far to simple, most of the problems people have can't just be solve in such a simple fassion... I'm literally ignoring want you say... |
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Jul 13 2006, 10:58 PM
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Ok, I hope you get better advice than that. Even though I doubt you'll get many things other than what I said, sugarcoated and described with hundreds of words :) I don't even see what the problem is.. You just wonder how a person like her can have feelings for someone like you, right? Well, she can.. She does. That's how. She's attracted to you. She loves you. For you. I don't know what else to tell you.
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Jul 13 2006, 11:03 PM
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QUOTE(Angelina Taylor @ Jul 13 2006, 11:58 PM) Ok, I hope you get better advice than that. Even though I doubt you'll get many things other than what I said, sugarcoated and described with hundreds of words :) I don't even see what the problem is.. You just wonder how a person like her can have feelings for someone like you, right? Well, she can.. She does. That's how. She's attracted to you. She loves you. For you. I don't know what else to tell you. He overanalyzes...he has low self-esteem, so I'm guessing it's hard for him to accept that. |
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Jul 13 2006, 11:03 PM
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daughter of sin Group: Member Posts: 1,653 Joined: Mar 2006 Member No: 386,134 |
^ Yeah, no kidding. He has to realize that he's a decent person.
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Jul 13 2006, 11:06 PM
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^ yeah..so I guess that's why it's not that simple for him to just accept that fact.
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Jul 13 2006, 11:07 PM
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Lol if there was a way to make him.. "Accept it, man! Just accept it, accept it!!!!!".. and he accepts it.
But it doesn't work like that. Epsecially if he refuses to listen. |
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Jul 13 2006, 11:17 PM
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He will eventually..he just has to convince himself.
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Jul 16 2006, 11:58 PM
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How did you guys convince yourself... ugh, even when I pray to God I notice myself talking negative about myself... I truely think of myself aa a major screw up... I don't understand... Why choose me when so many other people are better suited... I guess I will always try my best, but... Why me? Why me, when there are probably other people she could wait for that are probably better... I don't understand that... -_-
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Jul 17 2006, 02:07 AM
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Joshh.. Sweety, you wanna know why she chose you of all people? Maybe its that: She loves the thought that you care about her soo much... Or maybe it's the small things, like singing, and sketching... Or maybe its because you try to help everyone, and don't like being a burden upon people? Maybe it's because you're someone who understands her... Maybe she finds you absolutely stunning in every way possible... Maybe she sees you as the most perfect person around... or it could be... That she just does. Love is hard to explain, its an emotion thats felt, but it's hard to explain....
I know how you feel with the low self esteem, trust me, I have it. But Mike always tries to cheer me up... I used to have problems confiding in people, because they used to turn their backs on me, or stab me in the back... I slowly got into confiding into him, and it works.. I know you feel like its a burden on Holly, and stuff like that, but really... She loves you, its bluntly obvious... Everyone who knows her, or you, will tell you the same thing. I'd like to say a lot more to help, but right now, im freezing because of my AC, its 3 AM, and I have a headache from reading repeated posts of the same thing "Get over it" "Blah, De, Blah" It's not easy for some people, it can be really hard... Especially with past harms. Ask yourself this, "Has Holly ever shown dis-trust in me? Has she ever said she couldn't trust me?" Holly obviously really trusts you... And you should trust her... You're both amazing people, hopefully you'll realize that someday... *hugs* |
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Jul 17 2006, 09:29 AM
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QUOTE(xCrys @ Jul 17 2006, 3:07 AM) Joshh.. Sweety, you wanna know why she chose you of all people? Maybe its that: She loves the thought that you care about her soo much... Or maybe it's the small things, like singing, and sketching... Or maybe its because you try to help everyone, and don't like being a burden upon people? Maybe it's because you're someone who understands her... Maybe she finds you absolutely stunning in every way possible... Maybe she sees you as the most perfect person around... or it could be... That she just does. Love is hard to explain, its an emotion thats felt, but it's hard to explain.... I know how you feel with the low self esteem, trust me, I have it. But Mike always tries to cheer me up... I used to have problems confiding in people, because they used to turn their backs on me, or stab me in the back... I slowly got into confiding into him, and it works.. I know you feel like its a burden on Holly, and stuff like that, but really... She loves you, its bluntly obvious... Everyone who knows her, or you, will tell you the same thing. I'd like to say a lot more to help, but right now, im freezing because of my AC, its 3 AM, and I have a headache from reading repeated posts of the same thing "Get over it" "Blah, De, Blah" It's not easy for some people, it can be really hard... Especially with past harms. Ask yourself this, "Has Holly ever shown dis-trust in me? Has she ever said she couldn't trust me?" Holly obviously really trusts you... And you should trust her... You're both amazing people, hopefully you'll realize that someday... *hugs* This, is intresting... well, thank you... :] I think I found what I need to do... ;) If you want to know... You have to pm me... I'm not going to tell this critical world... |
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Jul 17 2006, 11:35 AM
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Well, thats me at 3 AM for you, anyway... I hope things work out for you :}
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Jul 17 2006, 02:37 PM
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roosternamedingo. Group: Member Posts: 1,211 Joined: Dec 2005 Member No: 333,926 |
good luck = ]
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Jul 17 2006, 02:38 PM
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She realy does love me :]
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