Cheating boyfriend...?, Help! Options

[Paradox of Life]

I know you people dont' like to read a lot, so I'm going to try and make this short and sweet.
*Alias name.

My boyfriend's name is *Gary. His ex-girlfriend's name is *Marion and another ex-girlfriend *Jamie. My friend, *Zachary, is going out with Jamie.

So yesterday, Zachary sent me a message saying that Gary told her he still loved her, and that he didn't want him to interfere. And he also wanted to tell me that Gary was cheating on me. And he also was going out with a girl named *Wanda. I said, "How do you know?" and he said he called Gary and asked.

I called Gary up immediately and asked him if he was going out with Wanda. He said he didn't even know who she was, and who told me that. I said Zachary did, and Gary said he wasn't even friends with him, and he was probably just trying to screw with me. He also read through his received calls, and none of them were from Zachary. So I sent Zachary a message asking for the date he called and what number he called. He didn't respond.

So I sent a message to Jamie, and she responded with this message:

"okay cause he came to my house one day ( im not trying to make you jealous) well we kind of [had sex] not technically well after he left the next day he broke up with me and then like three days later he called me and he wanted to go backout with me and because i still liked him i said yes and then he came over that day and i know he only came over cause he wantedsome so im trying to help you i don'tknow you but if you are like that if you would [have sex with] him then don't cause if you don't he is going to break up with you and as soon as you do he is going to break up with you the next day and it sux if you really like him and if you do really dolike him then i feel sorry for you cause all my friends hate him and he went out with or likes all of my friends he likes my friedn *Lauren and he went out with *Cheri he went out with *Christina and he went out with me he went out with the whole 8th grade at my school in like 1 semester and i don't talk crap about you i would like to be your friend cause your just another friend of mine he went out with and that makes like 200 of yall of my freinds that he went you that he went out with well if you want to be my friend then just tell me but you seem pretty cool well if you don't want your heart broken you better breakup with him cause after the 4th time i went out with him i just gave up i don't like him anymore!!!!!HE IS A BI TENNAGE BOY THAT IS DESPERATE FOR SEX AND THAT IS ALL HE WANTS FROM A GIRL ONCE HE GETS IT HE DUMPS HER!!!!! AND I HOPE YOU BELIEVE THAT CAUSE IM NOT LYING!!! "

I don't know what to believe. I think I'm going to give it time and see what happens. If there's anything I want to do, it's make him stop doing this to girls. I dont' want to be another girl that he just dumps like trash. I want to have something of an impact. Help! What can I do? Who should I believe?

[*This Confession*]

Well I had to read that thing that girl sent you like 2 times she misspelled stuff and put the wrong words in some places. From what I see you can't really do anything, it does sound like hes a i don't know. But going around just sleeping with people is wrong. You can wait for it to pass or you can take a stand and talk to him about it. If you really like him and you want it to work, tell him that. Tell him that people have been telling you things and you don't want to believe them because you care about him but you want it to work and you need to hear his opinion on things and the truth. A relationship isn't going to work if there isn't any trust there.

[verbalistic]

i think you should leave his broke ass..

[LiSFORLiNDA]

Uhm, If you really like him talk to him tell him what they are saying about him. Well im not sure if you had sex with him yet, but tell him that your not going to have sex with him, & see if he "breaks up with you" like that girl said. & if you have had sex with him he didnt leave you like she said..right ? - Well what im trying to say is like test him, see if he is willing to leave/dump you just because you wont have sex with him. & you never know they could just wanna start shit with you & gary...you have to listen to his side see what happened with him & jamie. & about him dating "the whole 8th grade" doesnt everyone date around ?...so they can find the right one. Umm i hope everything goes well, come back & tell us what happen :)

[Paradox of Life]

^ I haven't had sex with him. Thanks so much for the input. I'll definitely tell him I won't have sex with him and see his reaction. I just don't want him to dump me because I don't think I'll be able to communicate with him anymore. I just don't want him to go around doing this to people.

[LiSFORLiNDA]

Yeah :)
How long have you two been dating ?

[*liquidize*]

Make sure none of those girls are going to kill you if you hold onto that guy man. Furreal Like girls go crazy for like the good guys...noone likes the shitty ones! I mean shitty ones are like...that midget grill guy coleman, and Donald Trump.. I mean i bet when he has sex, he ejaculates bills!


Nah he isn't worth it. Get rid of him like fasttttt

[LiSFORLiNDA]

Make sure none of those girls are going to kill you if you hold onto that guy man. Furreal Like girls go crazy for like the good guys...noone likes the shitty ones! I mean shitty ones are like...that midget grill guy coleman, and Donald Trump.. I mean i bet when he has sex, he ejaculates bills!
Nah he isn't worth it. Get rid of him like fasttttt

HAHAHA

[lyin_in_wait]

i was in the exact same situation 3 months ago. its hard to not to know who to believe and who not to believe. but you really need to sit him down at talk to him about this, if he really cares like he says then he will atleast try to make all the rumors stop. but you have to remember that she *is* his ex. if she was someone who didnt matter then maybe you could think a lil more clearly. but unfortunately shes not...if your willing to put up with the rumors and believe that he is faithful then theres nothing wrong with waiting it out. but if his story starts to crack then yea...how legit is the ex anyway? has her story changed at all?

[Paradox of Life]

^ Well .. that's what it's always been. And she kind of blows it out of proportion sometimes too. So I have a sense that all she's saying is just a way to let out some steam and a bit exaggerated. I just got off the phone with him. After I talked to him the other day about the rumors, it seems like he's been really concerned about me losing trust in him. He calls every day to just say hey or goodnight and stuff like that. And he always says "I love you" or "You're beautiful". And to answer your question, Linda, we've only been dating for a week and a half. But I've been friends with him for around half a year.

And liquidize, I'm sorry. I didn't understand a word you said.

[lyin_in_wait]

^ Well .. that's what it's always been. And she kind of blows it out of proportion sometimes too. So I have a sense that all she's saying is just a way to let out some steam and a bit exaggerated. I just got off the phone with him. After I talked to him the other day about the rumors, it seems like he's been really concerned about me losing trust in him. He calls every day to just say hey or goodnight and stuff like that. And he always says "I love you" or "You're beautiful". And to answer your question, Linda, we've only been dating for a week and a half. But I've been friends with him for around half a year.

And liquidize, I'm sorry. I didn't understand a word you said.

if your gut says hes truthful then go with that. its going to be hella hard in the next coming weeks because no matter what you believe, the what if question will always be in the back of your mind. but he seems to be concerned about loosing you and if he did mess up (God forbid) then he obviously doesnt want to lose you over this. and he learned his mistake. everybody deserves the benefit of the doubt atleast once...

and i think liquidize was tryin to say get ready for the girls to come back harder to break yall up. (they did it to me too) just trust your heart and try to think clearly about everything

[tooeffingcrazy]

I say stay, and get as much sex as you can.
Are you into threesomes?

[*chaneun*]

I say stay, and get as much sex as you can.
Are you into threesomes?

HAHAHAHAHAHA

[AngelinaTaylor]

Definitely tell him that you're not willing to have sex and see what he says/does.

If he doesn't like it, dump him.

[Paradox of Life]

Well .. he came over yesterday. We were watching TV on the couch, and he practically forced his tongue into my mouth even after I told him to stop like twice. I think he's really nice, but I totally don't feel comfortable around him as much anymore. I don't know what to do. It would be so rude to just dump him, but I don't feel so strongly about him anymore.

[xforgottenlove]

ooh wow that was confusing x__x lols all i can say is that you should dump him and not have anything to do with him. chicks over dicks :DD so i think you should trust what jamie said.

[Paradox of Life]

Well, me and "Gary" are over.

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