Best Friend: Long Distance Relationship Options

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My best friend needs advice on her relationship, and well I can`t really give her advice because I`ve never been in a relationship. She`s willing to accept any advice.

My best friend just recently dumped her ex-boyfriend because they went to different schools and it didn`t work out well. Afterwards she moved to a new state. But before she moved to that new state, another guy asked her out and she said yes. Since she moved she never sees this guy, but they went to school together and she talks to him on MSN every once in awhile. My friend`s guy friend told her ex that she has a new boyfriend and he never said anything about it. Now my friend starts to have feelings for her ex again. She wants to break up with her boyfriend, but doesn`t want to hurt his feelings and she doesn`t know what to say to him. Also, she wants to get back together with her ex, but they live far apart now and he doesn`t talk to her anymore. I was thinking that she should dump the guy and find other guys where she lives, but she can`t get her ex out of her mind and doesn`t know anyone where lives. What should my friend do?

[Melissawilson5]

Your friend should tell her ex how she feels but should not dump her bf...maybe she should just stay close friends with her ex but not do anything about it until they live close together etc. Long Distant relationships can sometimes work if you hav a way of seeing each other every now and than but sometimes they do not work at all...it's prob normal that she has feelings for her ex again...well good luck

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Okay, I think she needs to break up with the guys shes in a relationship with at the moment, and take a week or so and talk to both of them. And get your feelings all straightened out til' she figures out who she likes and which one shes better off with. Because in a way for her to say yes to someone else after just getting out of a relationship with someone else just sounds like she was using the other guy. Sounds like you guys are pretty young, and your just getting in all these learning relationships to learn what you really want.

But she needs to figure out who she likes and who she really wants to be with, aparently she broke up with her ex for some reason and she has to think if she wants to go through that same reason if they get back together.

Long distance love isn't easy. Really I wouldn't just leave talking on msn every now and then. Long distance relationships fail all the time because their isn't enough communication between the two, so people start to worry and wonder and they lose trust between each other. If she wants to be in one then she needs to talk to who ever she chooses to go out with and talk to them about what they think about being in a long distance relationship. Ask them if their okay with it, and that their willing to talk atleast once a day or every other day or so. Because when you can't see each other, all you have is talking to each other to keep the relationship.


Sorry I type to much.

[PrincessAda]

She should talk to her ex about her feelings..and sometimes long distance relationships could work..so she could give it a shot.

[jennyjenny]

Forget about the ex. Maybe tell him a couple feelings but really there's nothing to do. If she goes back out with the ex again it's like online dating and that's just foolish.

Tell her that it's going to take some time and it's not going to hurt being single for a while. Tell her to meet other guys in her area where they could do more than just talk on msn. Long-distance relationships hardly ever work out, in my opinion.

[tooeffingcrazy]

The ex doesn't even want her. If he did, he wouldn't break up with her, or ignore her. IF HE WANTED A LONG TERM RELATIONSHIP, HE WOULD STAY IN ONE. Why would she dump a guy, who likes her a lot, and end up with nothing?

If your friend doesn't like the guy she's seeing, I'd say tell her to stop being a brat, and dump him. You're only teasing him, which can lead to a more seroius relationship, which will be harder to get out of.