HELP !, how should i tell my mom .. Options

[haha xoxo]

I have had a couple of bf's now, nd the one im currently with, wel i REALLY like him, but i didnt tell my mom. Instead of sneaking behind her back, i wanna go on an actual real date nd not be worried. I mean i never brought up the subject, but im afriad if i do, shell make me brake up with him .. nd to make it worse, i dont really get along with my parents or praticuly tell them anything about my life .. PLEASE SHOULD I ASK MY MOM, IF SO THEN HOW ? ND WAT IF SHE DOESNT APPROVE ?

[LiSFORLiNDA]

Well how long have ya'll been together ?
Anyways just be like " mom would it be okay if i have a boyfriend, if you meet him & blah blah"
see what she says about that...& if she's okay with it then let him come over & meet your parents dont tell your mom you love him yet...because she's not going to believe you love him & she might think you want to have sex with him because you "think" you love him...& im not saying you do love him or not. But if she doesnt like the idea of you having a bf then...if you truly like him just dont say anything about it. I mean you've gotten through at least a couple of days without her knowing you have a bf...right ?
& if you wanna go on a date just tell you mom your going out to the movies with a couple of friends..& meet up with him ?
BUT then again if she does find out your hiding him from her she might think there is something fishy about him ya know what i mean ? -
i know if i had a daugher & she hid something that simple from me i would wonder what else she hides from me ? & i would think is there a reason she's hiding him from me is there something wrong with him ?
Well just do what you have to do :)

[Classical Twist]

You should try talking to her about dating in general. Ask her if she thinks you're old enough to date/if she would let you date now, first of all. I know my mom doesn't want me to date until I'm 18 (LOL), but she knows I have a bf and allows it reluctantly.

[*baby_in_blue*]

just go with the flow, tell your mom.
the worst that could happen
is that she won`t allow you to date.
But still, it won`t keep you
from seeing the guy like.

[PrincessAda]

Tell her your growing up and your ready for a relationship with a boy.

[da_SALSA]

well if you dont have a good relationship w/ your parents--why not start by making it better. tell them if you're tired of sneaking around and i bet you, they'd even appreciate it. if she doesn't approve, make a deal--let her meet your boyfriend. if she still doesn't approve--well it's really your decision to keep seeing him.

[magicfann]

Take a few black-and-white pictures of your boyfriend walking down the street/getting out of a car/buying newspapers and make sure there is a good view of the face. Print them out on 8x11 pieces of paper and laminate them, then put them in a manila folder, stamp a red CLASSIFIED thing on them, type up some profiles on him like his eye color, weight, age, car he drives, address, nicknames, numbers, etc. Set up a desk, with chairs on opposite ends, ask your mother to sit down, you dress up in formal clothing, put on sunglasses, and slap the folder down on the table, proceed to look through very slowly and deliberately, occasionally muttering under your breath. Remeber to act like YOU'RE interrogating HER.

[cassjamminx]

^ hahahhahahahahah that's a good one, huh?

*back to the point*

well, i remember when i wanted to tell my mom about my boyfriend, i was afraid that if i asked her if it was okay all she'd say was no, so i just TOLD her, i didn't ask, i was like "hey mom, remember that one guy i always talked about? yeahh we're going out now."

that's it. but she really likes him now though. she met him before i told her. of course because when she met him we weren't dating?

maybe if you say "mom can we go out, and can i bring my friend?" bring him and see what she thinks of him. keep inviting him out and then tell her, maybe that'd work?

[haha xoxo]

Well, thanks everybody for helping, but the thing is .. my mom doesn't even let me have guys friends. And plus, i don't talk to her about that kinda stuff .. and my mom is VERY strict toward boys. I mean she even found a picture of a past boyfriend in my drawer [cuhz she's so nosy] and got hecka pissed ..

[Stefanny]

Just tell her. Sit down with her like at night before you go to bed. Ask her if it's okay if you go out on a date or something. If she doesn't let you, then tell her that you want to go with a group of friends. That's the only way my mom lets me go out with a BF. And that way there's no lies! You're enjoying yourself, and you can sit away from your friends! Just make sure you've actually got friends there so that your mom doesn't catch you lying, lol. The worst she could do is say no. That's it.

[*WHIMSICAL 0NE*]

Just talk with her. My mother is the "smothering" type but I understand. I'm the youngest and my older brother left on bad terms.
I would just suggest you let her know him. Because she's probably going to say something like "Well, I can trust you but I don't know his intentions". Show her what you already know.
If you haven't given her any reason to doubt you or not trust you I'm sure she'll be okay with it.

[ghjgfkgfk]

Well, thanks everybody for helping, but the thing is .. my mom doesn't even let me have guys friends. And plus, i don't talk to her about that kinda stuff .. and my mom is VERY strict toward boys. I mean she even found a picture of a past boyfriend in my drawer [cuhz she's so nosy] and got hecka pissed ..

my mom is like that too!

[LOWinSKANK]

How old are you? She shouldn't be mad or make you break up.. She's going to have to get used to the fact girls will like boys and it has to happen sometime. I don't know. Just tell her there's a boy who asked you out.. blah blah lol.

[jennyjenny]

look, don't tell your mom about your boyfriend.

i mean, there's two ways that it can go. one will be that she won't care and she'll allow you to date him

or

she'll completely object to it, tell you you can't see him, and then go snooping around and being MORE nosy so that she'll get suspicious even when you go out and who calls so that you're probably even going to see him LESS than you already do.

[Looow]

If I were in your place I wouldn't tell her. I'd keep my mouth shut. If I ever want to go out with him . . I'd lie & say I'm with so and so. That's what I did.

I know lying is not the way to go but parents just need time to realize you growing up.

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My parents said I was allowed to date till I was 15. I had boyfriends before then. Short relationships though. Like a month so I never told her. However, my last boyfriend and I were together for three & a half months. I know she said I could date at 15 but she still seemed stricted about it even though we never talked about it. ( I am allowed to have guy friends tho.) I really though that last boyfriend was going to be real long term & I wanted to tell her. Instead, I decided to wait a little longer. I was planning to tell her slowly but it never happened cus we broke up.

[Chad_man]

tell ur mom, if she doesn't approve forget her, just do it anywayz. A parent can tell you no dates but you can't be babied forever. And f she's nosy then tekk her you need space.

[x3itsLYSS]

I think you should tell her now because she'd probably be more open if you just get it over with and tell her, rather than waiting and her finding out later some other way or she might even just not be as open because you chose to sneak behind her back about it

[iminlovewithTomD...]

it kind of would help to know your age.

if you're like 16 + it shouldn't hurt to tell your mom... she should be okay with it, otherwise she's messed up in the head.

[pinayprincess]

well yeah; take a shot, but if you RATHER NOT RISK IT then i suggest you dont.... i did the same w/ my mom and she actually approved [when before she didnt] i was 13 when i had my first boyfriend... [thats when she found out]