Do you think LOVE is overrated?, Do u really love someone or just saying i love you in a relationship b Options

[addiction x3]

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Ok, so i've dated a guy for a little over a year and of course we said Iloveyou. But who really knows what love is? I dont think i was in love because when I think about it now.. I dont know if i was. It was in 2003. So i think if i cant remember it must not have been.

Then there was another guy. We also exchanged the three word sentence and maybe ILOVEYOU was just a subsititution for the attractive we had strongly against each other.

Well now there is this wonderful guy I am talking to. He does everything any girl would want.

It maybe corny but its exactly what you decribe and see in the movies. I feel different towards him then I felt towards the others two. When i think about him i just smile even if something very wrong is happening. I talk to him and i just get soo happy. I cant stop thinking about him and when im with him i dont care about anyone or anything else. If i lost him, id be devistated. I think I maybe falling in love with this amazing guy. We have been talking for nearly a month now, and I am/have been on vacation for a month and we miss each other very much. We talk everyday and its always something new. We are always telling the truth and ahh i dont know what it is. His personality is great and I just love being around him.


I am sixteen years old, So could this be love?

[AngelinaTaylor]

If you have to ask, then no. You just know when you're in love.

[pinacoolada]

^sometimes people get confused...

sure it could be. sounds like it. but you're the best judge.

[ghjgfkgfk]

POSSIBLY

[silver-rain]

We can't tell for you. You would know if you were in love.

[addiction x3]

Yeah, I had been thinking about it and I feel that I am but I feel like one of those dumb girls who date a guy for a week and then say I love you.. so i wanna be sure and I think I am

Thankyou.

[pinacoolada]

and people use the sentence: "I love you" loosely these days.
example: OMG lyke, I LOVE YOU SOOO MUCHHH *insert friend's name here*.

I did use the sentence just to make him feel good at the beginning..now I really do..but I think people shouldn't do that

[*This Confession*]

No love isn't overrated.

In some sense it is though.

If you have to ask your in love I don't really think your in it. Although you could just be confused with what you see around you on what is love when it really isn't that at all.

Love isn't perfect, okay. Love is filled with hard times and I'm not saying your going to have them constantly but when your in love you work things out you don't just give up because of some fight. Its not selfish, or possessive, or even jealous. Love isn't blind either, when you love someone you see all their faults and their imperfections and still love them none-the-less. A big one most people don't get is that love isn't condescending. Such as if your partner is always telling your wrong or something quite a lot, they more than likely don't love you. They should be more considerate to your opinions. Everyone isn't always right.


0_o
I have to go do something now.
I suppose that may have helped.?

[addiction x3]

aww. thank you all very much.

[pinacoolada]

do you guys agree that people don't have to fit the signs of being in-love to be in-love?

[addiction x3]

yeah, see i dont know.

i think i am getting the stereotype mixed up in my feelings.

[*This Confession*]

do you guys agree that people don't have to fit the signs of being in-love to be in-love?

Signs?


Okay some doctor wrote these.
and its like the 7 stages of love

here :

First Level: Security, simply. We feel safe and secure with the person we are with. The security is more than a friend you can tell everything to because should the same security be offered to others, jealously might/will occur.

Second Level: Pleasure. The person offers pleasure and comfort. This could just be a comforting place after a long, hard day or more physical pleasure.

Third Level: Companionship. The person we are with shares the same ideas, thoughts and feels (at least in general) and offers positive reinforcement for our daily goals and aspirations.

Fourth Level: Unconditional love. This is the stage where both people see the other as being imperfect. Should one person make a mistake or the two people get into a fight, they would still be loved by their partner. A good example is the love of a parent for a child; even when the child misbehaves, the parent will never stop loving them.

Fifth Level: Universal love. This stage indicates a desire to feel unconditional love (or forgive) other people outside the relationship. This could be described as the stage where suddenly the sky seems bluer and the grass greener and you can see the good in everyone.

Sixth Level: Soulful love. The attraction between the two does not rely on the physical. Things like death, injury or old age do not change the feelings between the two. There is a realization of a deeper part of human nature (the soul) which is loved more than the body it is in.

Seventh Level: Divine love. Regardless of religious beliefs, this stage is closely related to the love of Jesus Christ in the Christian faith. It is a realization that there will be no separation through death and that we are all part of one consciousness.


In Closing


Love, no matter what system you believe in, takes time and an investment of time in both yourself and the other person. While there can be daily trauma, fights or insecurities, love tends to be a foundation that cannot be so easily effected. If the foundation of any relationship is strong, even if it is friendship, there are few things that can break it.

[ghjgfkgfk]

aww. thank you all very much.

WELCOME

[*Uronacid*]

No love isn't overrated.

In some sense it is though.

If you have to ask your in love I don't really think your in it. Although you could just be confused with what you see around you on what is love when it really isn't that at all.

Love isn't perfect, okay. Love is filled with hard times and I'm not saying your going to have them constantly but when your in love you work things out you don't just give up because of some fight. Its not selfish, or possessive, or even jealous. Love isn't blind either, when you love someone you see all their faults and their imperfections and still love them none-the-less. A big one most people don't get is that love isn't condescending. Such as if your partner is always telling your wrong or something quite a lot, they more than likely don't love you. They should be more considerate to your opinions. Everyone isn't always right.
0_o
I have to go do something now.
I suppose that may have helped.?

I couldn't have said it better myself

[PrincessAda]

Maybe.It depends..if you feel DEEPLY in love.

[demolished]

you can feel deeply in love with him.


he may NOT feel deeply in love with you. what have you done for him that any guy would want ... ?

[lyin_in_wait]

i wouldnt say that i take what i have with my significant other for granted. but sometimes yea it is....i dont think love in its true form is overated, although i think that hallmark and every dept. store known to man helps make it overrated specially around the holidays..

you just know when you are. it can happen at anytime but...its hard to describe. i cant say that i was given a sign, nor is it when i would read his text messages over and over again. you just know

[addiction x3]

yeah i see what you mean.

im finally realising that.

and now its like clear thanks to everyone :)

and i dont even know how to say it to him.. theres another problem haha

[*This Confession*]

well say what you mean, Tell him the truth because everyone deserves that, even if it does hurt sometimes.

good luck

[Kontroll]

Wow, it's been a while since I've said anything. Well, love isn't overrated because it's a feeling, and even deeper. It's not like love magically sprouted out of some new hybrid plant that we've only known about for a couple years. It's been around through out human existence. So I think that answers that question.

Secondly, you still love some one when you question it. You have your 'Up's' and 'Down's.' If you're lying next to your husband or wife and ask yourself what you're doing there, lying next to that person, are you not in love still? There will be times that you question things and it's perfectly normal. I think that you still might have loved that person even though you were not sure. Like Josh [Uronacid] said to me, love isn't always a feeling. It's deeper, more sacrificial than that. It's getting to know their bad side and sticking with them through it. Thanks Josh. Haha.

[cassjamminx]

love is filled with everything you can imagine. so much pleasure and pain. but the greater feeling always cancels the lesser one out.

KLEE, i think you should let time decide? if you continue to feel this way, ask yourself how you really feel instead of coming on the boards. i mean, who are we to know how you really feel? sometimes love is hard to put into words.

love is different for everyone else, too. keep that in mind. you say that you might be getting the wrong impression of what love is from what you see around you. but love is what you define and see it as. make it your own

[bobby james]

I think when you are in love you KNOW, you do not have to think, it's some kind of knowing thing that comes with it. And my take on your subject is "whoever says love is overrated, must not be gettin' none", the lady who said that was right.

[addiction x3]

yeah, i mean i feel like ill be with him and he'll do something little and i feel like i fall in love all over or something like that. Or he will say something and im just like wow, you are amazing, but only time will tell.

i dont want to come out and say something until i know im sure. but i appreciate it alot from all of you.

[*This Confession*]

well I'm sure if you wait before you ever tell him and wait until your sure that you know. He'll respect you more and probably be happier that he knows its true.

[imnoxonesmemory]

i think a lot of times it's overrated because even though people dont mean it, it seems to bring people together. i've said "i love you" to many people but i know inside i don't mean it. but it happens. sometimes people really do mean it thou...