going to the doctor after losing your virginity, i need advice/help. Options

[PrincessAda]

Tell your doctor to keep it between you and her/him.No body should know your personal bussiness unless you want them to.

[Comik-knerd]

That's why you just listen to your parents and don't have sex till your married

[*Uronacid*]

That's why you just listen to your parents and don't have sex till your married

-_- its not quite that easy.... i mean, my paretns told me not to have sex, but it's like i still want to so bad... *sigh* try trying trying SO f**king HARD!!! AAAGGAGGHHH!H!H!H!!!!! MUST HAVE SEX!!!!!

[lalalaLANUH]

I don't have any first hand experience in this case, but I can tell you I hear alot of stories about highschool relationships that changed. Why put yourself through all that, if you're just acting on lust or something? I mean you've only spent 15 years on this planet. Do you know yourself well enough to get into this kind of situation?
But that's not really the problem at hand.
I say talk to your doctor. And tell your parents. It's good to have an open relationship with them. But if you really don't want them to know just ask your doctor not to tell your parents. Isn't there something like a doctor-patient confidentiality agreement? I mean, you can't always know if you have an STD or something. The signs aren't always there. For your safety your doctor should know. He/she should know the difference between their role as a doctor and as a family friend.

[Paradox of Life]

Um, don't lose your virginity if you don't want your doctor or your mother to find out. Obviously you and your mom are not ready. You can wait a few more years until that's not a concern anymore.

[Joss-eh-lime]

you can tell your doctor you want your parent to wait outside when they ask you questions.

your mom might be annoyed, but the info is between u and ur doctor.

btw they ask alot of questions for your benefit, so you need to be truthful.

[killuh katy]

well one day it will come to you.
i went through it with my mom.
she was so mad.
but she understands now and were cool.
our better safe than sorry.
tell your doctor, and even if she is friends with your mom.
as a doctor, you could ask her not to tell.

[xo_rock]

LIES!!

Your doctor doesnt check to see if you hymen is in tact during a physical. I'm sorry. Have you ever had a physical? Its not a gynocologist exam, its just a physical. They do weight and height and blood pressure and crap. To be honest, I wouldn't say a word. Youre at the age where a doctor can use her discretion on wether to tell your parents and I didnt want my parents to know either and im 20 years old. Unless you think you might be pregnant or have a disease id be quiet. and if you think you do have one of those issues, go to planned parenthood. They will respect your privacy. Just try not to have sex the week of your physical just in case there is a little spermicide or something left and it winds up in your urine sample.

im not saying she will check my hymen.
but when i go in there she always asks me, "have you had sex before?"

[DORKalicious]

if your so worried about it, just don't have sex. i can't tell you what to do, but your only 15

[*This Confession*]

^ yea i mostly agree with that
although josh [uronacid]
i think covered that part of that...

[adecimalabove]

virgin, haha but i prolly would

[TaiintedDesiires]

Doctor-Patient confidentiality. I don't think they can tell anyone unless they have your permission or a warrant. I'm pretty sure you can sue them if they do tell

[*Ox_Su`Zie*]

Even if she waited until after her physical...when she gets another one the next year, she's going to be asked the same question.

suzzette your so smart lol. the best thing to do is tell your doctor doctors have a plege to confidentiality and im sure if you ask her and stress it to her enough not to tell your mom she wont no matter how good a friends she is with your mom. BELIVE ME. its her job.

[starlette]

im not saying she will check my hymen.
but when i go in there she always asks me, "have you had sex before?"

WOAH CHICK TAKE A FRIGGIN CHILL PILL BEFORE YOU HAVE AN ANEURYSM!!! U dont know me, so dont shout. I wasnt directing that to you. I was correcting all the freaking MORONS in the thread who kept telling you the doctor will know whether you tell her or not which is not true. If this is how u act in an online forum you obviously arent mature to be screwin around. Wait a few years when you develop some maturity. And some temper control. Yellin at me like you me...sh*t.

[AngelinaTaylor]

You're 14!!!!!!! Are you insane? You want to rush having sex while you're still a child? Why? Why not just wait? It'll be SO much more special when you share actual, true, real, long-lasting love. I doubt you've been with your boyfriend for a long time (say two years), so why rush it?

Your parents are against it anyway. Just don't do it. What will you do if you get pregnat? If you get an STD? You'll ruin your life.

Kids these days.. >.<

Taylor``

[x3_mr_mak]

15 IS kinda early
if ur completely in love w/ ur bf,
why not wait 2 yrs?
it`ll be more special

[*Ox_Su`Zie*]

^^^ your pretty i saw your myspace.

15 IS kinda early
if ur completely in love w/ ur bf,
why not wait 2 yrs?
it`ll be more special

theres no telling a person if theyre in love or not. theres no age for love. Why wait two what`s the diffrence from right now and 2 years in 2 years she'll still love him right?


* How long have you been dating?

[xo_rock]

WOAH CHICK TAKE A FRIGGIN CHILL PILL BEFORE YOU HAVE AN ANEURYSM!!! U dont know me, so dont shout. I wasnt directing that to you. I was correcting all the freaking MORONS in the thread who kept telling you the doctor will know whether you tell her or not which is not true. If this is how u act in an online forum you obviously arent mature to be screwin around. Wait a few years when you develop some maturity. And some temper control. Yellin at me like you me...sh*t.

who said i was yelling?
you cant yell online,
get off the computer and get a life once in a while.

^^^ your pretty i saw your myspace.
theres no telling a person if theyre in love or not. theres no age for love. Why wait two what`s the diffrence from right now and 2 years in 2 years she'll still love him right?
* How long have you been dating?

almost a year.

[AngelinaTaylor]

who said i was yelling?
you cant yell online,
get off the computer and get a life once in a while.
almost a year.

If you type like this, with large letters, it's considered yelling!

And may I ask how old he is?

Taylor``

[mizzkim]

haha... maybe you should do your physical first.. than have sex

[mustlovegiraffes]

if your so worried about it, just don't have sex. i can't tell you what to do, but your only 15

i agree. if you and your boyfriend are in love, then whats the rush? you'll obviously be together for a long time. you could wait. 15 is pretty young. where i live its actually illegal to have sex before you're 16, not that anyone follows that law, but i think they make laws like that for a reason..

[cheri_pi]

Yeah, there's doctor-patient confidentiality, and your doctor could lose her job if she tells your mom without your permission.
But I wouldn't do it...

[Hannarr]

First off
if you are really worried
wait untill after ur physical
if u and ur boyfriend really love each other, whats the rush?

but,
if you do have sex before
just tell him/her the truth
everythin u tell doctors is confidential..

[lauren5848]

either dont have sex or tell ur doctor the truth and tell her to not tell your mom there is doctor patient confidentiality u kno and i dont want to contradict wat you think but you dont truly kno if you luv someone until u marry them

[whenshesdancing]

i think it is your doctor's job to keep it confidential, especially if you want her to.