In the shadow, Should I tell my friend that.. Options

[loveandsins]

Ok my question to you all this: should i tell my friend that by the way she acts and all she's totally putting our other friend inthe shadow?

It's kinda hard to explain but it's like this: I'm really good friends with 2 girls. They have been friends longer than i've been with them. Now my one friend is a really open girl, her parents let her be wild and all, she's very nice and all but i don't agree with most of the stuff that she does. My other friend is just as nice as her yet by not being, let's say slutty, as my other friend she doesn't really get noticed. She's always in the shadow. They are really alike but just bc she doesn't have a new bf every week who tells everone bout her sex life she is just kinda ignored. I'm kinda on the outside, bc ppl know i'm my own person and all but i don't know if i should tell either one of my friends, both of them seem to not notice. But i'm not the only one who thinks this. It's always the same story; My one friend likes a guy, the guy ends up liking my other friend. So..

Should I tell my friend that she's being to..idk ignorant to notice what she's doing?Or should i just shut up and watch all the same stuff happen over and over again?

[PrincessAda]

That was rather confusing..seems to me like if it was a big problem to you..you should tell her..but you should first think what she might say back.

[loveandsins]

hehe sorry if that was confusing, it makes sence to me but that's bc i wrote it :p

[Ajmalhuuss]

I don't think I understood it clearly but from what I read I came up with this, you don't like the way your friend acts and thinks that she should calm down a little. If thats the case just talk to her. Sit her down and be like, "look this is what you are doing and you look like an idiot."

If thats not the case then idk try explaining what the problem is again, sorry I was really confused after reading it.

[loveandsins]

lol sorry. I'll try to do it clearly and short. My one friend(Tinne) is a very open girl and my other friend(Elies) who is almost alike gets pushed aside because Tinne always steals the spotlight to put it like that. When Elies likes a guy he always falls for Tinne and she always ends up getting the guy but Elies never tells Tinne that she liked him and Tinne doesn't notice that's she's stealing the attention and the boyfriends of her friend.


Get it now? :s

[*Uronacid*]

Omgosh! thats just like me and my friends... there is nothing wrong with that! My friend Nick is this super buff looking ken doll... hes really out going and gets all the girls... I guess i realized that he's really a blessing in my life. I don't ever get stuck with girls who are consumed in how a guy looks rather than his personality. I say you should let it all go the way it's going. Your one outgoing friend is stealing all the spotlight from the one girl in the showdows. Think about this:

-Tinne is accually doing Elies a favor. Elies will never get stuck with a self centered guy, becuase Tinne is always taking all the hits.

-Think of Tinne as more of a guy filter. Shes like the ozone layer, and Elies is the earth... you wouldn't want her to get hit with all those harmful UV rays. ;)

Let the situation play out. Eventually a guy will come along and pay attention to her, because she isn't a slutty little skanky ho ho.

[loveandsins]

lol the whole ozon layer thing made me laugh! and thanxz for the advice you all

[lyin_in_wait]

i wouldnt open my mouth to be honest. you could break not only one but two friendships. if the other girl has a problem with not being noticed because she is kept in the dark, it should be her prerogative to bring it up with the other person....not yours

[loveandsins]

Explain even more? Lol i don't think i can, still thanks for all the help. This is not like a HUGE problem but i was just wondering if i should tell her. But i don't think i'm gonna, it's just the way things are. And i think i should leave everything as it is untill something big happens.

Ty everyone for their help and opinions

[*krnxswat*]

What the f**k are you talking about?

[lyin_in_wait]

What the f**k are you talking about?

her two friends are completely different in personalites. number 1 is out going and flirty, number 2 isnt. when number 2 likes someone. number 1 always gets that person. and the girl wants to know should she confront number 1 of her actions....

[iROCKYOURSOCKS]

you should not say anything...shes a big gurl now she can deffend her self if its really bothering her and i really dont think it is if she has not said anything so far..i think it sounds like it might bother you that your friend gets all the spot light and acts "slutty".. jus tell her to tone it down theres a difference in being a independent woman and a hoochie. GOOD LUCK!