Is it worth speaking,, or should i rest in agony 'till it's gone? |
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 Jun 25 2006, 06:09 PM
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 Mrs. Delonge  Group: Member Posts: 426 Joined: May 2006 Member No: 406,185  |
Alright... how to explaiiiiiiiiinnn...
I really really like this guy (named Will), and I have liked him for *counts* 16 months or so... and we used to like be good friends, but then he started getting all weirded out because he knows I like him... Then he sorta just stopped letting me be by him, and he got all annoyed and told me to like leave him alone and stuff... so I went through a whole suicidal phase, and now I'm out of that whole phase, but he does't understand that... and I think he still talks behind my back to his friends about me being suicidal and shit... And so he's like really really mean to me now, and I can't stop replaying all the mean things he says to me. Last night I even had a dream that he was being mean. All I really want is for me and him to be able to be friends again and stuff, but he doesn't understand, so he just goes and acts like an absolute bitch to me, and I can't take it anymore. So I really wanted to let him know, but I don't know if it'll work, because I explained to him that I'm not like suicidal anymore or anything, but he didn't listen to me - he didn't reply (and yeah, it was like 2 weeks ago that I told him that). So I'm really confused.. To speak, or not to speak... because I don't want him to just keep on being this way... it really really hurts. I don't wanna have to let go... I mean it's just not fair!! I've accepted the fact that I'm never going to "get anywhere" with him, so why can't he and his lazy ass just accept the fact that I care about him!? Ughh.. |
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Jun 25 2006, 06:24 PM
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You can try talking to him and tell him the truth that you don't like him anymore and you just want to atleast be friends. And just explain everything, if he doesn't want to listen or he doesn't believe you. Honestly I say to just leave him be, I'm sure you can find better people out there to be your friends and that will trust and believe you. The only way to get him to accept anything is to prove to him its right. And well if that fails just give up. Its not worth it.
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Jun 25 2006, 06:34 PM
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 What the fack. Group: Official Member Posts: 6,164 Joined: Mar 2004 Member No: 8,519 |
I think that if he isn't willing to listen to you, and talks about you behind your back, he's not much of a good friend. I think that you've given him enough chances to turn the tables and be friends again. IMO, you should move on and find someone new, even though it'll be tough. You'll be happier once you stop worrying about him.
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Jun 25 2006, 07:05 PM
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Mrs. Delonge Group: Member Posts: 426 Joined: May 2006 Member No: 406,185 |
QUOTE(This Confession @ Jun 25 2006, 6:24 PM)  You can try talking to him and tell him the truth that you don't like him anymore and you just want to atleast be friends. And just explain everything, if he doesn't want to listen or he doesn't believe you. Honestly I say to just leave him be, I'm sure you can find better people out there to be your friends and that will trust and believe you. The only way to get him to accept anything is to prove to him its right. And well if that fails just give up. Its not worth it. Well I would, but I still like him.. even though I know that we can just be friends... I'm just not like suicidalish anymore... But he said this to me on my Xanga QUOTE That's funny. I actually laughed out loud. It's amazing you have friends. You know, maybe I would want to be your friend if you STOPPED. It's pathetic. Seriously, f**k off. Don't ruin my summer with your....Psycotic reasoning. You remind me of a misquito. So I guess he said he would want to be my friend if I stopped... but what I'm supposed to stop I'm not so sure of...  QUOTE I think that if he isn't willing to listen to you, and talks about you behind your back, he's not much of a good friend. I think that you've given him enough chances to turn the tables and be friends again. IMO, you should move on and find someone new, even though it'll be tough. You'll be happier once you stop worrying about him. I've given him a ton of chances, but I just think he doesn't see it that way... or maybe I'm doing it wrong... I don't know... But I know there are other people, but being as I go to a Christian school with 26 people in my grade, 9 boys (over half of which think I'm some pity-seeking suicide freak because of Will) I can't really find anybody, except in my brother's pile of friends, which I rarely get to see... I mean, I like one of my brother's friends... but I like Will even more... and I don't even know why! Because 1. He's an absolute bitch, and 2. I don't even really know him anymore... |
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Jun 25 2006, 09:46 PM
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 sarcasm hides what you really feel Group: Member Posts: 550 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 37,105 |
its probably best to let it slide until he comes to you. going after him constantly will make you seem even more obseseed than you were before...just have fun with other people and maybe he will see what a good friend you can be
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Jun 26 2006, 01:25 AM
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Mrs. Delonge Group: Member Posts: 426 Joined: May 2006 Member No: 406,185 |
i've been doing that for like 2 months.... how long does that dumbass need?
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Jun 26 2006, 01:35 AM
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What the fack. Group: Official Member Posts: 6,164 Joined: Mar 2004 Member No: 8,519 |
I say..drop everything having to do with this Will guy and leave it be.
He obviously isn't going to want to be friends again, despite the fact that you've given him a lot of chances. I say he's not worth it. You can try to find some new friends, even if it's outside of your school. But then again, what about girl friends? Why keep on looking for guy friends to have? Or even a guy to have a crush on? Maybe you need to hang out with some girls who you're close with at your school, and forget about guys for a while. Not liking someone for a while is okay. |
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Jun 26 2006, 02:26 AM
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Mrs. Delonge Group: Member Posts: 426 Joined: May 2006 Member No: 406,185 |
Lol, I'm going to copy the first part and post it as a comment on his Xanga...
Anyhow... I have a lot of friends that are girls.. wel.. not like an overflowing amount... but you know. But there are only like 2 or 3 that are actually alike to me in more than 5-6 ways... And then the only person that I feel is able to be my best friend lives forever away, goes to a completely different school, and half of the time is grounded from the phone... I don't know... and then the 2 or 3 that are like me in more than 5-6 ways are all the tightest of friends between themselves, so it's hard for me to fit.. As for finding new people at different places (like church or softball) I'm too shy! My social skills really need work... I mean when I'm with people I know I'm waaay outgoing, but when it comes to new people it's just like, "ehh what are you thinking about me right now?" And I'm really bad at starting conversations and whatnot.. so yeah... maybe I should start a topic about being able to start conversations with new people... i'll search for it first.. |
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Jun 26 2006, 02:33 AM
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 i'll fvck you til you luv me fagget Group: Official Member Posts: 2,152 Joined: Jun 2006 Member No: 428,884 |
I think you should just let him cool off for a while. I mean, you've already tried speaking to him, right? So I don't think there's the choice of "speaking to him" or not. Because you have already done what you can. I guess just let him cool off, then try talking to him again.
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Jun 26 2006, 02:41 AM
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Mrs. Delonge Group: Member Posts: 426 Joined: May 2006 Member No: 406,185 |
Yeah, I've been letting him "cool off" for about 1 week or 2... so I said something :P I can't contain myself... here's what I said...
""I say..drop everything having to do with this Will guy and leave it be. He obviously isn't going to want to be friends again, despite the fact that you've given him a lot of chances. I say he's not worth it." This one girl at the createBlog message board. :p" And then I realized that I needed to add somethings... so I posted again (excessive posts Hehe) "Ohh... and another thing... "That's funny. I actually laughed out loud. It's amazing you have friends. You know, maybe I would want to be your friend if you STOPPED. It's pathetic. Seriously, f**k off. Don't ruin my summer with your....Psycotic reasoning. You remind me of a misquito." Look at the section I bolded for a moment... I'd like to know what I'm supposed to stop doing... Because if I recall, you never gave me a precise (spelling?) chance to do what you want me to... I mean seriously!! You can't be angry at me for not knowing what I've been doing wrong... If you're going to be mean to the extent where even my DREAMS are filled with you being a bitch, then at least give me a reason!!" |
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Jun 26 2006, 08:42 AM
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 naïvety Group: Human Posts: 1,303 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 488 |
QUOTE I mean seriously!! You can't be angry at me for not knowing what I've been doing wrong... If you're going to be mean to the extent where even my DREAMS are filled with you being a bitch, then at least give me a reason!! You can't say to him "give me a reason" and expect him to give you one. If he had one, he would've given it to you to shut you up (pardon me) a long time ago (seeing as he really wanted to get rid of you). But really, i don't think he's worth being friends with if he won't even talk to you. Think about it, wouldn't you be the least bit concerned if someone you know starts talking to you about suicide, let alone a friend? Maybe this means he doesn't consider you a friend... sorry. I think you should stop thinking about him no matter how hard it is. It's going to be tough, but it's one of those things that you just gotta do, regardless of how much it's going to hurt.... kinda like a diet. By the way.. just curious... how old are you? |
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Jun 26 2006, 09:13 AM
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maybe ur not satisfying him anymore
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Jun 26 2006, 12:14 PM
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Just drop this "Will" guy and get him out of your world. Honestly, what's the point of liking a guy who's only going to be a jerk to you? My advice to you is to stop arguing about it (especially on xanga) and move on. Find a better guy to suit you and get some new friends :] Even if your social skills aren't great, you can still try. Don't let "Will" and his friends get to you.
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Jun 26 2006, 12:40 PM
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i'll fvck you til you luv me fagget Group: Official Member Posts: 2,152 Joined: Jun 2006 Member No: 428,884 |
QUOTE(I_Heart_Blink @ Jun 26 2006, 1:41 AM) Yeah, I've been letting him "cool off" for about 1 week or 2... so I said something :P I can't contain myself... here's what I said... ""I say..drop everything having to do with this Will guy and leave it be. He obviously isn't going to want to be friends again, despite the fact that you've given him a lot of chances. I say he's not worth it." This one girl at the createBlog message board. :p" And then I realized that I needed to add somethings... so I posted again (excessive posts Hehe) "Ohh... and another thing... "That's funny. I actually laughed out loud. It's amazing you have friends. You know, maybe I would want to be your friend if you STOPPED. It's pathetic. Seriously, f**k off. Don't ruin my summer with your....Psycotic reasoning. You remind me of a misquito." Look at the section I bolded for a moment... I'd like to know what I'm supposed to stop doing... Because if I recall, you never gave me a precise (spelling?) chance to do what you want me to... I mean seriously!! You can't be angry at me for not knowing what I've been doing wrong... If you're going to be mean to the extent where even my DREAMS are filled with you being a bitch, then at least give me a reason!!" I have no idea where some of your quotes end/start. |
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Jun 26 2006, 01:32 PM
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jeez.... he doesn't sound very nice, does he?
 so, why do you like him so much when he talks to you this way anyway? |
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Jun 26 2006, 09:09 PM
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this guy is such a BASTARD!!!
I_heart_blink pardon me for saying this but you really have to get your selfrespect. you cannot let this bastard walk all over you and treat you this awful.. dont even talk to him no more! hes going to be more mad because you seem to be more obsessed to find his forgiveness when its really HIM who should be apologizing. jus find another friend out there who will really appreciate you and not talk behind your back.. i really hope in the end you realize what a jerk he is.. GOOD LUCK AND I HOPE EVERYTHING IS OKAY! |
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Jun 26 2006, 11:04 PM
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Mrs. Delonge Group: Member Posts: 426 Joined: May 2006 Member No: 406,185 |
QUOTE(K!$$ @ Jun 26 2006, 8:42 AM) By the way.. just curious... how old are you? 13 QUOTE(jooleeah @ Posted: Jun 26 2006, 12:40 PM) Just drop this "Will" guy and get him out of your world. Honestly, what's the point of liking a guy who's only going to be a jerk to you? My advice to you is to stop arguing about it (especially on xanga) and move on. Find a better guy to suit you and get some new friends :] Even if your social skills aren't great, you can still try. Don't let "Will" and his friends get to you. Yeah, my friend (anna) once said to me, "I know it's hard, but you NEED to stop taking him personally, because he's a real dick head" haha... i love when people say mean things about him... even though that's really bad... oh well he deserves it. QUOTE jeez.... he doesn't sound very nice, does he? so, why do you like him so much when he talks to you this way anyway? I'm not sure... I guess it's just like in Mean Girls, "Even though I hated her, I still wanted Regina to like me." (or however it went..) I don't know... I do think he's a bitch and he needs to figure it out... but I don't know... It's like I want his approval, because I'm the only one who doesn't have it... QUOTE this guy is such a BASTARD!!! I_heart_blink pardon me for saying this but you really have to get your selfrespect. you cannot let this bastard walk all over you and treat you this awful.. dont even talk to him no more! hes going to be more mad because you seem to be more obsessed to find his forgiveness when its really HIM who should be apologizing. jus find another friend out there who will really appreciate you and not talk behind your back.. i really hope in the end you realize what a jerk he is.. GOOD LUCK AND I HOPE EVERYTHING IS OKAY! ...Omg... I LOVE YOU!! haha... this is the most amazing thing I've ever heard... and it made me laugh out loud... yes, he is a bastard. hehe. thaaank you :) valuable information |
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Jun 26 2006, 11:11 PM
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To everyone: I used to go to the school of the poster, (Not sure if I can use her name) She is prolly my best friend. I know the guy she likes, Will. Believe me. Will is the biggest Bastard since Hitler. I thank you all for helping her where I can not. The thing (Insert name) does not know is there is a guy who likes her alot. She should know soon.
To (Insert name here): You still owe me a hug in 2 days! We really need to talk at youth group k? - Vash |
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Jun 26 2006, 11:21 PM
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Mrs. Delonge Group: Member Posts: 426 Joined: May 2006 Member No: 406,185 |
Lol :) Welcome to my home (cB) Vash. Lol... Yes... Will is a bastard... but I don't think as big of a bastard as Hitler... I mean... Will's horrible, yes, but he didn't kill 6,000,000 jews... just one poor li'l' heart. Meh... yep... you can call Will ANYTHING mean that you want :) It helps me not to like him, because it helps me realize that he's mean.
Anyhow... Don't make his be your onliest post ever... :( STAY STAY STAY. |
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Jun 26 2006, 11:24 PM
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Newbie Group: Member Posts: 4 Joined: Jun 2006 Member No: 429,912 |
btw, i didnt flunk out of the school, I graduated ( im one year ahead of Gina). I miss ya Gin! AND RETURN MY CALL FOR ONCE LOL!!!
"It's like I want his approval, because I'm the only one who doesn't have it..." Dont worry Gina, Will hates me too! |
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Jun 26 2006, 11:33 PM
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Mrs. Delonge Group: Member Posts: 426 Joined: May 2006 Member No: 406,185 |
Haha!!!! Sorry, my bad... I was talking about girls... and the first section of your post is spam, because it doesn't have to do with the topic. NOOO SPAM. >:|
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Jun 28 2006, 12:29 PM
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 the name is ada. Group: Official Member Posts: 4,688 Joined: Dec 2005 Member No: 334,608 |
You should give him time to like and notice you more..if he doesn`t want to be around you..ehh whatever..find a new guy.
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