20 yr old, with complex personality...., never had a real bf |
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 Jun 12 2006, 11:26 PM
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 love is on your list of things to do....  Group: Member Posts: 22 Joined: Mar 2006 Member No: 388,516  |
ok, so i'm 20 and never had a boyfriend before. And i think that the reason is because I just don't know how to act around guys. Whenever I meet a guy I like, I start acting weird around him and it's like if i have a multiple personality disorder or something. My best friend tells me that If a guy is really meant for me then he would just adapt to my craziness, but i think that maybe i should just try to change this flaw of mine. what do you guys think?
(P.S. and by acting weird around them i mean, i'm nice to a guy one minute and then the next i'm critisizing him and even making fun of him. Then the next minute we can be just hanging out and having a great time and the next minute i'm shy and avoiding him all together. yeah i know, i'm weird! LOL) |
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| *This Confession* |
Jun 12 2006, 11:32 PM
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haha
wow I think one other person could you give you good advice on this. But personally I agree with your friends, you shouldn't change yourself. And eventually a guy will come around that will accept you for you. Although in another sense I do think you should atleast get this problem under control. I don't know exactly how you could come about doing it though. I mean you need to start thinking before you speak thats one thing. Think over what your about to say and see if it is really what you want to say to this person to ruin a good moment. I'll come back and say something else probably later.. my brain is kind of messed up at the moment. [its slow or something] hah idk. Maybe search around on google or something for like personality change.. or complex personality. And see if there is any other forums that have covered this topic before. Or some M.D. has written about it. Thats what I usually do if i ever have a problem.. This is usually the last place i come to list my problem =X of course ive never have put a problem up here. |
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Jun 14 2006, 10:35 PM
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 Oshare♥Love Group: Member Posts: 130 Joined: May 2006 Member No: 406,975 |
Go to a psychologist if you think you really have a serious mental problem or something. Otherwise, just wait. You'll find your special someone SOMETIME who will love you just the way you are, craziness and all!
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| *Uronacid* |
Jun 14 2006, 10:46 PM
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Don't change, don't change anything about yourself. Someday you will find a guy that will accept you and all of your personalities. You're only 20 years old, and you should just be starting college...
What o you mean by you haveing multipule personalities, what happens exactly? |
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Jun 14 2006, 10:52 PM
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 none of it seems real Group: Member Posts: 2,469 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 73,889 |
You should pace yourself and try to get to know the guy better. Learn to be friends with a
guy before trying to form something more than a friendship. Having a few guy friends first should help you feel more comfortable around them. |
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| *mipadi* |
Jun 15 2006, 08:29 AM
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QUOTE(Skyline Drive @ Jun 14 2006, 11:52 PM)  You should pace yourself and try to get to know the guy better. Learn to be friends with a guy before trying to form something more than a friendship. Having a few guy friends first should help you feel more comfortable around them. Yeah, that's a good call. Ease into relationships. If you're comfortable around someone, you won't act "weird"—or they'll accept you for who you are. |
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Jun 15 2006, 08:37 AM
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 ..♥.A Girl With Talents.♥.. Group: Member Posts: 172 Joined: Jun 2006 Member No: 422,238 |
Do not change who you are and how you act to impress or find the right guy I am sure there is someone out there for you just be you and you never no he might come along!!
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Jun 16 2006, 12:33 AM
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 the name is ada. Group: Official Member Posts: 4,688 Joined: Dec 2005 Member No: 334,608 |
20 is still a young age.Maybe you just haven`t met the one yet.
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Jun 19 2006, 11:12 AM
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love is on your list of things to do.... Group: Member Posts: 22 Joined: Mar 2006 Member No: 388,516 |
QUOTE(Toxical @ Jun 14 2006, 10:35 PM) Go to a psychologist if you think you really have a serious mental problem or something. Otherwise, just wait. You'll find your special someone SOMETIME who will love you just the way you are, craziness and all! Hahahaha, nah I don't think it's that bad. I just worded that comment really bad and things didn't come out they I wanted to say them. The day I posted this topic up I was really upset because the guy I really like told me that he was seeing some one. But after I read all these comments you guys posted up, I felt a lot better. I now realize that I need to accept that all the guys I like, will not always like me back. And like "the confessions" said (sorry I don't know your real name), I definately need to think about what I want to say before I say it, LOL! But anyways, I appreciate all you guys' help. I feel a lot better now! |
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Jun 20 2006, 07:31 AM
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 what do you think it says....if so obvious. Group: Member Posts: 1,838 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 52,420 |
hmm i think for you its a matter of experience and being more assertive ......if you`ve said you`ve never had a boyfriend before and in most cases always tended to act the way you act like that to ALL the guys you`ve talked with then yea , you just might be a little scared , anxious or nervous ....or in other cases ....you just havent experienced or opened yourself more to move to the next step , thats fine ...i used to have the same problem with girls and always had this held-reaction , and always tended to be a little more timid shy and almost axious around girls even on how much i hold up a regualr conversation with them . but now its alot easier for me to talk to girls ...no matter how much differences we have if you can try to overcome it be alot easier for guys to understand you ....and you wouldnt be chaning your personality at all , its just a matter of communication , and relating . but theres nothing wrong of what the others said , you can wait and anticipate for someone to understand and like you
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Jun 20 2006, 07:35 AM
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 Krista. Group: Official Member Posts: 4,380 Joined: Apr 2006 Member No: 391,319 |
QUOTE(Skyline Drive @ Jun 14 2006, 10:52 PM) You should pace yourself and try to get to know the guy better. Learn to be friends with a guy before trying to form something more than a friendship. Having a few guy friends first should help you feel more comfortable around them. i agree. try to be friends with him, but you shouldn't change for a guy. |
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